¿DO GAY MEN AND WOMEN BOTH PREFER LARGE PENISES?

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There's an old joke that goes, "There are two types of gay men: size queens and liars." But does that hold up, scientifically speaking?

A new study of sexually active students at the University of the West of Scotland suggests that while some women prefer guys with above-average penises, they may appreciate them in ways different from gay men.

Live Science explains:

In the new study, [psychology researcher] Brody and his colleagues asked 323 women, mostly Scottish university students, to recall past sexual encounters. They were asked about their recent sexual behaviors as well as how important penile-vaginal intercourse and other sex acts were to them. They were also asked whether penis length influenced their ability to orgasm with vaginal stimulation...

They found that 160 of the women experienced vaginal-only orgasms and had enough sexual partners to compare size experiences. Of these, 33.8 percent preferred longer-than-average penises [longer than six inches], 60 percent said size made no difference and 6.3 percent said longer was less pleasurable than shorter.

If gay men are anything like the women in this study, then almost two-thirds of us don't care how big your penis is. But for those of us nervous about whether we'd measure up to the remaining one-third who prefer above-average cocks, remember this—those women connected bigger cocks to their ability to achieve orgasm.

That is, larger penis size may matter when it comes to stimulating vaginal orgasms—something that even female sex researchers dispute. But seeing as most men don't have vaginas, gay men may be much less dependent on their partner's penis size to get off.

Can desirable physical attributes like a nice butt or large penis help a sexual partner reach climax? Absolutely. But in the gay world, most men climax due to manual or oral stimulation rather than so-called "anal orgasms" from bottoming.

So while a large penis may excite the size queens in all of us, it's just one factor of many that sets the stage for a satisfying sexual encounter.

You are much bigger than your penis, so don't forget the very important roles that charm, intelligence, emotional connection and seduction play in getting both you and your guy off... no matter your size.

SOURCE: GAY DOT COM

MAKE HIM SCREAM: THE MALE PLEASURE ZONES

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You may have been so into getting yours that you forget that your man is multi-sensory and can experience intense sexual pleasure in a variety of ways. Gone are the days when you thought giving head was his only form of pleasure. I give you some new spots to hit.

LET'S-BUST-A-LOT

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In this wonderful world of dicks and asses we at BlackRayne get asked a slew of questions some, which we pay no mind to, and some that actually make us, think. Since our videos make you bust loads of nut, ever worry about the actual sperm count? I know some think we will be young forever and may not have to worry about that kind of issue but the fact of the matter is at a certain age that may be something to stress over.

We know we may be dealing with an audience that may not think about having any kids, (but then again who are we to say ? ) but here at Black Rayne we are known for our models shooting huge LOADS, want to get like us?

Ok, if you bust a lot that means your testosterone is high and you have a healthy reproductive system and you have what it takes . An increase in sperm count can also increase your libido and sexual desire for your shawty. Wouldn’t he just love that, more fuckin! That’s what you wanted right?

SEX PARTIES/ORGIES...

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¿WHAT ARE YOU THOUGHTS ON SUCH ACTIVITIES? 

5 MUTUAL MASTURBATION TIPS FOR MEN

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My mutual masturbation techniques all have one thing in common: pleasure. When trying out these techniques, consult with your partner about tweaking the situations to best suit your sexual needs and desires. Be sure to use a quality lubricant when enjoying masturbation. I use a Gun Oil Water Based Lubricant because it feels silky , doesn't dry out nor stain my sheets. Silicone based lubricants are great for masturbation. The newer formulations work well with sex toys while providing a very smooth glide. Wet Extenze Premium Lubricant heightens the sexual experience with a tingling sensation and aphrodisiac herbal blend that will thrill and excite. Now that you are ready to stroke, let learn a new technique.

Voyeur

 This simplistic technique requires that one partner ask the other to go into the bedroom or other designated room for pleasure and begin masturbating. After a few moments, the second person enters the room and sits across the room or close to the person who is already deeply involved in masturbating. No words are spoken. The second person, who typically enjoys voyeurism, receives pleasure from viewing their partner's pleasure.

Story Time

 For a couple or Jacks group, a sexual story shared by one participant. As each person masturbates, one participants tells a sexually explicit story either from personal experience. This technique not only allows for higher sexual arousal for all involved, but let's each person get to know the other person's sexual desires and fantasies. This can be used for future masturbation sessions. Simply google erotica to find a story of your choosing . Erotica captures the tension and raw energy of desire.

Two Toys

 Mutual masturbation should involove toys. This is a new frontier for men. With each partner using a toy on the other, twice the fun is created. One partner can use a masturbator such as the Super Sucker 2.0 Masturbator  or The Gripper Ultimate Stroker while the other enjoys anal stimulation from a protstate massager. You can switch toys to double your pleasure.

Give and Take

One of the most satisfying mutual masturbation techniques is the give and take. This technique is achieved when one partner masturbates or manually stimulates the other partner for several minutes then receives for several minutes until climax is reached by both.

Frottage

The final entry on the list of mutual masturbation techniques is one step from penetration. Frottage is growing as a satisfying alternative to penetration. One partner places his pelvis on the pelvis of his partner. He moves as if achieving penetration without the actual act. Be sure to rub lubricant between the legs of your partner to prevent dick burn. The rubbing of the genitals creates immense pleasure for each partner.

Masturbation doesn't have to be a solo sport. With a little creativity, you can create a fantastic experience when you are not in the mood to go all the way. But don't be suprised if your partner requests another round.

SOURCE: DICKZTOYZ

SEX...

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That's all I want, that's all I need... SEX

Come here and give me some of that oh so good dick

Let me treat it like only a man can

I want your SEX

Fuck me like you know what you're doing

Stick that dick in this hole

Make me moan and groan

I Need your SEX

I'm gonna squeeze it til it empties out

Every inch of your manhood,

Every ounce of your goodness

Give me some SEX

Fuck Me Boi!  Just Fuck Me!

TELLING HIM HE DOESN'T NEED XL CONDOMS

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When shopping for condoms, it may require some experimentation to find the best condom for you.  This is especially true since almost every condom brand has its own definition of regular and large. When other factors like whether a condom is ribbed, thin or contoured are taken into consideration, finding the best condom for you and your partner may take testing various types until you find the best fit.  There are classic, traditional sized and a Platinum XL sized condoms out there for our sexual pleasure. 

So, how can you help your partner get over the size issue? Try some of these tips:

GAY MEN: HOW ARE YOU STROKE SKILLS?

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There’s nothing worse than a man with no rhythm in the bedroom. And usually, I’m more than willing to instruct my lovers how to stroke me properly. But there are occasions that I really just want them to get it right the first time, and not hump me like they’re descendents of a dog species.

I’ve had gorgeous lovers, many in perfect shape, extremely athletic, and flexible. But for some strange reason, they get in the bed and their hips only know one motion: back and forth super rapidly without stopping. In most cases, men’s ass muscles do not respond forcefully to one motion during sex.

So I feel the need to have a conversation with our gay men. Because good homosexual sex takes joint focus on two persons’ needs. You can’t just hump men like jack rabbits (well you can), and then ask why our faces looked dead when you use our asses like lab receptacles. We’re not your semen dumping grounds. You should just rub a nut and watch a porno flick if you’re going to be self-centered.

Stroking is an art. It’s power lies in spontaneity, different levels of speed, various depths, and most importantly, rhythm. A good stroke is spontaneous because it will keep the man guessing, speed up to activate the many points that bring him that pleasurable pain, slow down to provide a crescendo into exploring his depths, and yet still feel like a beautiful rhythm that you’ve composed through your head.

It’s not enough to simply give us monotone humps, and expect a porn star reaction. If you want a man to moan, shake, and naturally tighten his ass muscles, it’s a requirement to constantly work on your stroke.

Once you’ve got the stroke down, you can add small touches like gently massaging his prostate or sucking his toes, all while you keep your rhythm. But without the good stroke, none of these extras will compensate. Master the basic ingredients, and then add the icing. Good sex requires dedication to self-improvement. And there’s no reason for anyone to settle for mediocre, one-sided sex when two-partnered bliss awaits.

What constructive criticism can we provide our men for better stroking and better sex? 

BOTTOMS: ¿DO YOU?

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This is for the men that are on the bottom during sex: 

¿do you make him stop if you get off BEFORE he does? 

¿WHAT'S THE LONGEST YOU'VE GONE WITHOUT SEX?

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A while back ‘Project Runway’ mentor and  new co-host of “The Revolution,” Tim Gunn, dropped jaws everywhere when he revealed that he hasn’t had sex in 29 years….and he’s totally okay with it.  To me what’s fascinating about this revelation is not the self induced celibacy; it’s that Gunn admitted exactly how long it’s been.  

We live in a society where sex and lots of it is everywhere and very much a part of our lives.  From porn websites and politicians, to reality shows and advertisements, sex sells and big time.  So in a world where sex is practically everything, where do you fit in if you aren’t getting any?

Of course not everyone is going without sex for 29 years, but I know people who act like going without it for 2 days is a sign of the apocalypse.  Many people lie about how active, or not, their sex lives really are, no one truly wants to admit that more often than not it’s just them in the bed at night…if that.  For his part Gunn’s decision to refrain from sex was actually a reasonable one, Gunn claims the decision followed a difficult breakup and is partly “psychological.” He cites health, and fear of sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS.

According to Gunn:

“Do I feel like less of a person for it? No!” he said. “I am a perfectly happy, fulfilled individual.  I am happy to be healthy and alive, quite frankly.”

But let’s face it, no matter how practical and rational his reason, Gunn is in the minority.  Not too many people are trying to go 6 months without sex, so 29 years??  Yea no.  Most of the time if people go long periods without sex it’s not totally by choice; they probably just haven’t found anyone they find attractive enough to give it up to.  I tip my hat to Gunn because I personally went two years straight without sex in college and let me tell you, there was nothing fun about that right there.  Nothing.

What’s The Longest You’ve Gone Without Sex?

¿TOPS, DOES IT?

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This is for the men that are on TOP: 

tell me does sex still feel enjoyable if he gets off BEFORE you?

SEX DRIVE: ¿HOW HIGH IS YOURS?

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ALL DAY I DREAM ABOUT SEX, is that you?

Do you know that our daily sex drives aren’t always indicators that we need penetrative sex all the time?

What is good penetrative sex for you?

For me it is that energy-sucking, toe-curling, body-twisting exercise that tends to exhaust my partner and me. It’s pleasure on steroids, non-stop, rarely quick, and intense. It’s a thorough, deep, and attentive experience between my partner and me. It’s back-to-back orgasms, trying crazy positions, and matching each other’s lovemaking efforts.

I don’t need or want this every day. Do you need that?

I imagine there are gay men that enjoy penetrative sex on a daily basis, and men that may thank them for it. Not all of us need or want penetrative intercourse every day. How does this influence your relationship with our partner? Are they understanding? Impatient? Frustrated? Or do they feel the same way and not need penetrative sex as a daily sexual energy release?

How strong is your sex drive?

Do you need penetrative intercourse on a daily basis?

Or do you invest your sexual energy in other daily activities?

¿THOUGHTS?

¿CAN YOUR RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE IF HE IS NOT 'HITTIN' IT RIGHT?

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Mr. Good Dick hits your spot every single time, from every single angle and stares you dead in the eyes while doing it. It felt like all of your chakras came out of your body and did an African tribal dance in mid air. It was a completely otherworldly experience. Your body was still shaking, even after he pulled out. Yep, he hit your ‘bottom.’ That oh so sweet abyss, where no man has ever ventured. However times moves along, and you are a grown man now, and you want to settle down and be serious. You have your eyes open for a man that is husband and good father material, when alas the man of your grown man dreams magically appears into your life, and sweeps you off your feet. He is smart, good looking loves your dirty drawls and would clean them if you ask. But the sad fact of the matter is, he can’t take you to the places that Mr. Good Dick did sexually. Problematic much?

It’s a sad but true fact that sometimes the man that loves you doesn’t want or know how to fuck you. He views you in a different light. He touches you delicately, because you are his angel. When truly you are dying on the inside to be picked up, put on a wall, or otherwise forced to take it with his hand is over your mouth (Don’t blush, you know that it’s true.)

This is a legitimate question. Does telling your man how to put it on you take the excitement out of it? For most of us the answer to that question would be emphatically, YES! More importantly, would the lack of your sexual fulfillment spill over into other parts of your relationship? Invariably, yes. There is a certain level of docility, call it subservience if you will that we men project when a man is f&cking our brains out, right? Without that key ingredient in the bedroom, can you stay with such man?

We know that good sex and spectacular orgasms release endorphins and bring about overall feelings of happiness. Are you more cranky when your man is not giving it to you in the ways that you desire? Don’t lie. Be honest with yourself. Can a relationship between a lackluster lover, really stand the test of time? Is there a fine medium between Mr. Good Dick and the man of your dreams, or are the two mutually exclusive? Will this new relationship survive, if your man possesses most everything you desire, except for knowing how to turn you out?’

¿SEX WITH CHEATER?

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¿If he was cheating on his mate with you, and he dumped you would you tell on him?

¿WHAT INTERESTING MOVIE DESCRIBES YOUR SEX LIFE?

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¿WOULD YOU HAVE SEX EVEN IF HE/SHE IS TAKEN?

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¿If you were truly feeling someone would you still have sex with him even though you know he's involved with someone else? (male or female) 

¿LOUIS VUITTON CONDOMS ANYONE?

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Louis Vuitton has always been known for its variety of high quality products; luggage, bags, shoes, clothes, sunglasses… and now condoms! WAIT, what?! Yes you read it correctly. Louis Vuitton has now entered the contraception business. Fans of the brand can now completely “cover up”  in all Louis Vuitton, with no exceptions. I heard that Chanel was offering a similar product with the French House famous “C’s” written on it.

You can never put a price on protection, except when the protection will cost you $68 per condom for the LV ones. From the price tag alone it’s apparent that like the rest of the Louis Vuitton products, these condoms are to cater to the rich and wealthy, and those who live above their means. I heard that Chanel condoms are sold by pack of 12 and it would cost around $280. I say “would” because they are very hard to find. Xmas is cumming, these condoms could be excellent gift ideas for your f*&k~friends or nice hostess gifts…right?

SEX ON THE FIRST DATE...

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 ¿If you were truly feeling a man/woman would you have sex on the First Date?

¿DOES PORN REALLY DO IT FOR YOU?

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Take your typical female who moans N’ groans while pleasuring her co-star as he make her gag till her makeup starts running, as young man (sans the homosexuality) this excited me to NO end; but as fully grown gay man, I find that I have to search deep and long (pun intended) for a good porn worth watching. I find that while sex should be all about what gives the people who are engaging in it pleasure, porn is the TOTAL opposite of that.

Why is it when people have sex on camera for money they’re doing a job, and what they do isn’t designed to turn them on, it’s designed to turn on the viewer  and to make the director and editors jobs easier? Porn isn’t a document of two (or more) people having pleasurable sex, its one person’s idea of what will titillate us. Don’t believe me? I dare you to deny how PERFECT their bodies look naked…and moving.

HERE ARE FEW INTERESTING THINGS I FOUND ON THE NET ABOUT THE PORN WE WATCH:

SEX & US...

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FOR YEARS, WE'VE BEEN TAUGHT MANY THINGS ABOUT SEX & NO MATTER WHAT YOU BELIEVE, WE ALL KNOW IT IS A NATURAL ACT BETWEEN TO CONSENTING ADULTS. ON THIS SUBJECT WE HAVE A DIVIDE WITH VERY LITTLE IN BETWEEN, SO TELL ME IS SEX:

TOO CONFINED & COMMITTED 

¿OR? 

TOO OPEN & UNCOMMITTED

WHEN SEX IS PIGEONHOLED INTO THESE TWO CATEGORIES, DO YOU THINK IT HURTS US?

¿DO YOU F&CK LIKE A PORN STAR?

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When it comes to bareback porn, do you think it is art imitating life or…?  Many will argue for both sides of this question and that is fine, but I have to wonder when the dust settles, where does the line between fantasy AND responsibility begin? From I knew my gay self; I’ve seen VERY little porn that shows the actors putting on a condom. So either way ‘safe sex’ is a mute point from the porn industry, right? Some say that porn’s role is to entertain, not educate, and I LOVE watching porn that showcases what I do, but I am in a committed relationship. Do you think bareback sex in porn influences real-life behavior or do you think it doesn’t matter since it is just a form of entertainment?

¿TOO MUCH FOR A 'POWER' BOTTOM?

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I have been having regular get-togethers with a man who is quite well endowed. I am what I guess could be considered a power bottom, so he always tops me and I'm more than fine with this. My concern is this: Is it possible to do any sort of permanent damage from getting it too often from someone who's big? There was a little blood the first few times but really nothing since. He's a very considerate top and (believe it or not) most times it doesn't hurt at all, even when he first enters. But one day we went at it five times over the course of 12 hours. I'm just wondering if I need to worry about incontinence or any other unpleasantness down the road.

¿WHAT WOULD YOUR RESPONSE BE TO THIS QUESTION?

¿WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN HE/YOU IS QUICK TO THE FINISH?

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Premature ejaculation SUCKS! Sometimes it's biological your body just behaves this way; sometimes it's due to training because when you first started exploring your body you needed to make it quick so that you wouldn't get caught by a parent or sibling. But as an adult how do you handle it when you are either end of the 'stick'?

DADDY/BOY: LOVE, POWER & MASCULINITY

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Of all the role-playing scenarios that excite the gay male imagination (master/slave, coach/athlete, cop/civilian, doctor/patient), none is more potent than daddy/boy. The energy that gets activated between two men in this scene is so deep, profound, and erotic that we can only call it mythological. The interplay of strong, protective daddy with adoring, obedient boy uniquely combines love, power, and masculinity in a way that Carl Jung, visiting his local leather bar, would call archetypal, meaning that it goes with the territory of being human. It’s not that everybody is turned on by daddy/boy fantasies, but we can all locate ourselves along the spectrum of being, having, or wanting a good Daddy. What does it mean to engage in daddy/boy fantasies? And how does that dynamic play itself out in gay male relationships? 

SOURCE: GAY DOT COM

'POWER' BOTTOMS, I HAVE A QUESTION...

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My question is this: Is it possible to do any sort of permanent damage from getting it too often from men that are well endowed? 

SEX: HOW LONG SHOULD YOU WAIT?

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I read the other day that the longer couples wait to have sex the more likely they are to last, concludes a new study from Bringham Young University. WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS FOR ON SUBJECT WHEN IT COMES TO HOMOSEXUALS?

SEX ¿HOW DO YOU DECIDE?...

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...GETTING TO THE BOTTOM OF THE TOP SITUATION...SEX is a natural expression that touches all living things; and WE are no exception to this rule. No matter what satisfies ones appetite, I am sure WE all can agree that SEX is a very IMPORTANT and VITAL part of our existence. Now the strange things for me is that most if NOT all of us has received more NEGATIVE TRAINING and SEXUAL EDUCATION about the HUMANITY of SEXUALITY. It is well-known fact that most of us place OUR SEXUALITY a distant second to the PLEASURE of the act itself. Hence, I beg to ask when it comes to SEX, how does one decide what they want the end result to be?

Within the GAY community, there are LABELS placed on individuals that dictates HOW and WHEN SEX happens. There are TOPS, BOTTOMS, FULLY VERSATILE, VERSATILE, VERSATILE TOPS, VERSATILE BOTTOMS, ORAL, ORAL TOPS and ORAL BOTTOMS. The thing for me is that these titles are PERFECTLY~IMPERFECT because they are not TRUE and don’t represent us well; they are mere SMOKE SCREENS that mask the UNDER BELLY of this WHALE of a problem WE have created in the name of SEX. 

Now we all know that ONE SIZE DOES NOT FIT ALL, so what forces come into play when deciding how we want to reach that special place? I FIRMLY believe that how WE have SEX is based solely upon the individual that we are about to copulate with and what part of your appetite that you are seeking to satisfy. However where that is WELL and GOOD, there is still a HUGE amount of us in the community that has the ‘label’ problem. What goes TOTALLY against MY ‘religion’ are the ones that LABEL themselves as being a TOP in every sense of the word when it comes to SEX. If I were to rewind time and look them up, it would not surprise me if I see MOST if NOT all of these MEN engaging in SEX of the PASSIVE kind. I guess there is a WINDOW when SEX is okay to be on the BOTTOM because you are in the exploration phase, but as WE get older the games are over does that mean it is time for serious business?

Those that CRY FOUL or AGONY when asking if they can bottom makes me hang my head in shame. I HATE TO BE THE ONE TO BREAK THE NEWS TO THEM, BUT SEX DOES NOT WORK LIKE THAT! I OFTEN WONDER HOW CAN WE GROW AS A COMMUNITY & FOSTER HEATHLY ADULT RELATIONSHIP IF WE CANNOT GET PASS OUR INABILITY TO EMBRACE OUR SEXUALITY AS WE CONNECT WITH OTHERS. If logic were in play then…I do not for one second believes that when SEX happens between two men that it happens simply because the TOP likes to plug another man in HIS ass. As wonderful as it may seem I believe that SEX between two happens because they actually like each other and want to express in ways that ONLY SEX could. However, societal issues come into play and dictates that the PLUGGER is MORE of man than the PLUGGEE. SEX in OUR community simply comes down to SEXUALITY and how it is defined and this is sad because GAY is GAY and there is no way of running from that. How can I be MORE or LESS of a MAN IF I TAKE or RECEIVE A D!CK IN MY ASS? Why does his need to be DOMINANT dictates how SEX occurs? How does his LACK of COMFORT,OPENNESS or RESISTANCE signals how SEX happens? Whether it is because of D!CK size or a MAN that APPEARS to be OVERLY masculine, why have sex with someone that can only satisfy a portion of YOUR or HIS sexuality? 

SEX should start in the mind and works itself outward in the form of action, if not we are abusing it. Far too often, we USE or THINK of SEX as a way of SECURING what seems to be PERFECT @ the time, but if you have SEX and are on the receiving end by default, either there needs to be some other way of having SEX or PRAY for an EARLY visit from MR. ERECTILE DISFUNCTION. WHY HAVE A D!CK & NOT USE IT? This is how WE WRONG ourselves and come up short because WE admit defeat. I am of the PERSONAL OPINION that MOST if not ALL MEN want to get HIS ASS tapped by a D!CK every now and then so why not do it? This one-sided ACTION is NOT balance and trying to do whatever it takes to GET SOME is simply UNACCEPTABLE! WE ALL KNOW THAT SEXUAL AROUSAL HAPPENS COMPLETELY OUTSIDE THE CONTROL OR THE SUBCONSCIOUS. HENCE, WHY DO WE CONSTANTLY ALLOW OUR CONSCIOUS MIND TO FORCE US TO TAKE A D!CK & NOT GET ANY ASS? WE need to UNDERSTAND and ACCEPT that the HOMOSEXUALITY sphere by which WE tend to judge each other on is NOT ok and its consistent denial can only destroy OUR sexuality. WE know of this problem and WE continuingly allow this to REFLECT OUR HUMANITY within the community. I just wish that WE could celebrate OUR SEXUALITY, EMPOWER ourselves and ELIMINATE the need for SOCIETAL happiness.