Of all the role-playing scenarios that excite the gay male imagination (master/slave, coach/athlete, cop/civilian, doctor/patient), none is more potent than daddy/boy. The energy that gets activated between two men in this scene is so deep, profound, and erotic that we can only call it mythological. The interplay of strong, protective daddy with adoring, obedient boy uniquely combines love, power, and masculinity in a way that Carl Jung, visiting his local leather bar, would call archetypal, meaning that it goes with the territory of being human. It’s not that everybody is turned on by daddy/boy fantasies, but we can all locate ourselves along the spectrum of being, having, or wanting a good Daddy. What does it mean to engage in daddy/boy fantasies? And how does that dynamic play itself out in gay male relationships?
During sex, I love hearing "Good Boy...You're such a good boy!" I get a charge from the mixture of sexuality, discipline and approval. (Because of this, I have collected daddies!)
But this is also why I have a hard limit on humiliation and degradation. To soil that kind of connection could be very destructive.
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Very true....
ReplyDeleteDuring sex, I love hearing "Good Boy...You're such a good boy!" I get a charge from the mixture of sexuality, discipline and approval. (Because of this, I have collected daddies!)
But this is also why I have a hard limit on humiliation and degradation. To soil that kind of connection could be very destructive.
FORBIDDEN LIGHT - YOU ARE SOMETHING ELSE...LOVE IT!
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