What is TYPICAL GAY MALE behavior?
I ask this question because if it posed to a variety of persons, you would hear
most of them say that GAY MEN are
promiscuous. I cannot say this theory is invalid OR untrue; however, it does HURT! IT IS SO SAD THAT THE PARAMOUNT ELEMENT IN OUR LIFE IS HOOKING
UP. YOU KNOW WHAT IS SO SAD; BOTH GAY & STRAIGHT PEOPLE ARE SEXUAL BEINGS.
HOWEVER, WE ARE THE ONES THAT HAVE THIS BEHAVIOR CONNECTED TO OUR SEXUAL
IDENTITIES. The mere fact that WE are singled out should send SHOCK WAVES throughout the GAY community. BUT
IT DOES NOT! WE just
continue the search through the jungle as if getting a HOOK UP will sustain us. I am
curious though, WHAT IS IT ABOUT
SEX THAT MAKES US IT’S PREY? I say the answer resides in OUR mentality AND I think that this energy is
infectious AND psychological.
We GAY MEN need a
change of mentality AND stop
striving to live this unrealistic AND destructive
life. I wonder if WE could TRULY be happy if WE were not able to get on A4A or BGC again. WHAT
WOULD HAPPEN TO THE COMMUNITY IF WE COULD NOT F&CK EACH OTHER @ WILL? WHAT
WOULD HAPPEN IF I CHALLENGE GAY MEN TO BE MORE THAN WHERE THEY PUT THEIR D!CKS
& WHAT GOES INTO THEIR ASSES? Is
not SAD that it is SO difficult to find a GAY man that is looking for just conversation with NO sex attach? There is a price to pay for every lifestyle choice; and
it seems as if WE either
do not know this OR totally
ignores this notion.
AS A GAY MEN, HOW CAN
WE LOOK OURSELVES IN THE MIRROR & NOT ASK WHY WE ARE HOOKING OUR WAY
THROUGH THE COMMUNITY? HOW IS THAT WE ONLY ASPIRE TO BE A MERE ENTITY FOR
PHYSICAL & SEXUAL GRATIFICATION? DOES THE HOOKING UP SCENARIO EVER GET OLD
& BORING? I GUESS NOT…THIS CONSTANT YEARNING FOR A MAN WITH A STIFF HUGE
ROCK-HARD D!CK & A TIGHT ASS SHOWS HOW SHALLOW GAY MEN ARE. CAN SOMEONE
TELL ME WHAT BECOMES OF US AS TIME PASSES? I GET SO SCARED FOR US & I SEE
NO END IN SIGHT…IT IS AS IF WE REALLY ARE WHAT SOCIETY THINKS WE ARE…
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I think that due to our collective marginalization by the broader society, many of us equate sex with love; this also includes self-love (self respect) as well. This leads to a constant, almost insatiable, need for sex.
ReplyDeleteFortunately, more of us are realizing this and are changing our behaviors. We know know that love and sex are two entirely different human responses.
ok... well me say this outloud (( I THINK IM BI))
ReplyDeleteNothing more beautiful that a man who evolves !
ReplyDeleteI came out very late in life and what really shocked me during my searching phase (I am now happily monogamous) was that some of my friends called me a whore for being so 'easy'. Well, having not been a virgin for many decades, I was not overly concerned with my reputation or my virtue. What I wanted was to get laid A LOT and I thought it kind of ridiculous for men of a certain age to withhold sex as some sort of gift to be bestowed only upon Mr Right. Sex with Mr Wrong purely for recreation can also be quite satisfying if you understand the difference between love and lust.
ReplyDeleteOne of the best comments I've ever read was from a guy who said that we as Gay men shouldn't try to force heterosexual social values and mores onto our relationships or judge ourselves solely on those values. I agree; It's okay to love cock and lots of it, so let's stop feeling guilty about it.
Great post. You also could look at it this way: We are dealing with human sexuality and it makes no difference what sexual preference there is. Realize that we are even trained to pursue conquest and promiscuity...heteros are on a perennial quest to add another notch on the bed post...why would it be any different for gays?
ReplyDeleteThen you have another aspect and that is that gay couples want to apply heterosexual marriage standards and social behavior to their relationships. If you think that more than 50% of all marriages end up in divorce why would you want to copy that recipe?
It doesn't even work for straights, why would it work for us?
saludos,
raulito
ROGER: I FEEL THAT WE EQUATE SEX WITH LOVE BECAUSE SEX IS THE ONLY THEY CAN'T TAKE AWAY FROM US.
ReplyDeleteSHAR: THIS COMMENT GAVE A SERIES CASE OF THE GIGGLES. WHY DO YOU THINK YOU ARE BI?
ReplyDeleteDAYUM: SOOOOOOO TRUE!
ReplyDeleteJEFF: I TOTALLY GET WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. BEFORE MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP, I DID A LOT OF RECREATIONAL SEX. I GOT THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LUST N’ LOVE
ReplyDeleteTRICKLE: GOOD POINTS. NOEL & I GET ASK A LOT WHO IS THE MAN/WOMAN IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BY GAY FOLKS. WE NEED TO RETHINK OUR NOTIONS OF GAY RELATIONSHIPS.
ReplyDeletewell I kissed a girl and I liked it. lol
ReplyDeleteSHAR: I GUESS KATY WAS ONTO SOMETHING.
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