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It always amazes me
how the PULSE of
the GAY community is on the streets N’ sidewalk
and NOT in the lives of the everyday GAY man. Never
had this statement been more true than when the topic of GAY
MARRIAGE or CIVIL UNIONS come
about. We hear the church and politicians speak about it, even community
leaders have their say. For me I find it sad that no matter WHO or WHAT we
are, we seem to have this need to belong AND be like
the rest of the when we are NOT!
THERE ARE NO TWO PERSONS THAT ARE
ALIKE! Though NOT all GAY men
are the same, how is that MOST of us are NOT fit
to be in a relationship much less a commitment such as marriage? I find it a
bit comical listening to HETEROS foam @ the mouth
about the sanctity of marriage AND how we are about
to destroy that; I expect that from them. However when GAY men take on
this same idea AND run with it, it makes me
fume! HOW CAN THEY DO THIS TO THEMSELVES? DON’T THEY KNOW BETTER?
ISN’T IT CRAZY TO BE GAY & NOT
BE OKAY WITH WHO YOU ARE? How could they NOT see
that their denial of WHO they are is @ the very
least a mild form of HOMOPHOBIA? FOR ME MARRIAGE SYMBOLIZES THE
HIGHTST FORM OF ROMANTIC LOVE; FOR IT TO BE PERMITTED TO ONLY THOSE THAT HAVE
UNMATCHED GENITALS IS CRAZY! But then again, so many GAY men are not marriage material
because they aren’t even human material; @ least in the ways in which it
counts.
MOST GAY MEN NEED TO ASK HIMSELF WHY
HE FEELS THE WAY HE DOES ABOUT HIS SEXUALITY? WHY IS THAT HE CAN’T SEEM TO FIND
SOME PEACE WITHIN HIMSELF? WHEN THE ANSWERS COME I HOPE IT IS NOT TOO LATE. OUR
SEXUALITY WAS HERE BEFORE WE WERE, SO IT’S NAÏVE TO THINK THAT IT IS SOMETHING
THAT CAUSES US TO HAVE NO REAL PURPOSE OR IS SUITABLE FOR THE COMMITMENT OF
MARRIAGE. I WOULD LOVE IT IF MOST GAY MEN DIDN’T SEEM TO CARE ABOUT TAKING THAT
STEP IF THEY SIMPLY HAD SOMEONE TO SHARE THEIR LIVES WITH; BUT THAT IS NOT THE
CASE! WHAT GETS ME IS HOW THE DOGMAS SHUT THE DOORS TO KNOWLEDGE & PROGRESS
& WE GIVE THEM EVERY REASON TO DO SO & I DARE SOMEONE TO LIVE
OTHERWISE!
GK- although this appears to generally be a mutual admiration society and I usually do agree with what you say, I am somewhat offended by your comment ' Though NOT all GAY men are the same, how is that MOST of us are NOT fit to be in a relationship much less a commitment such as marriage?'
ReplyDeleteWith the divorce rate in the US hovering around 50%, I would venture to say that 'MOST' hetero men and women are not fit to be in a relationship, much less a commitment such as marriage. That leaves the rest of us, 50% straight people and 50% homosexuals, extremely qualified to be in either a successful and rewarding relationship, be it marriage or some alternative arrangement. (Let's put aside for a moment, whatever percentage of the 50% stay married or partnered and are miserable .. this is not measurable and fluctuates from hour to hour and day to day :>)
I say 'us', because my partner and I belong to the 50% of couples who are both fit and able to maintain a successful relationship. Why, you ask, because we WORK at it. All that glitters is not Gay, and we have taken quite a drubbing lately from forces and situations beyond our control. We do have our differences, but we have realized that we are far stronger together than we are alone. We are each other's safe haven and respite from the storm.
You do my partner especially, who has consistently gone over and beyond what he thought of his own ability to sustain a viable relationship with a pushy and demanding biatch like me, a great disservice by pulling out the big brush and paintint MOST of us with this kind of bitter doom and gloom and I KNOW you are capable of much better.
HUGZ anyway.... and actually, I am not really such a total biatch.. I adore the man and would do just about anything within my formidable power to shield him, comfort him and to keep him happy, safe and INTERESTED.
He asked me to marry him and we WILL get around to it some day, some year and we definately dont plan on being just another statistic. And dear colleagues, we arent 17, we are 57 and 61+. The clock is ticking with a thundering roar and this in itself keeps us focused on the prize.
JEFF: SORRY THAT YOU OFFENDED BY MY COMMENT, THIS ENTRY WAS WRITTEN A FEW YEARS AGO & I AM SURE YOU KNOW A FEW GAY MEN THAT CAN WEAR THAT CAP. EVERYONE ONE OF US @ ONE TIME OR ANOTHER CAN CARRY THAT COMMENT (MYSELF INCLUDED), BUT NOW I DON'T HAVE SUCH A NARROW OF GAY MEN.
ReplyDeleteLIKE YOU SAID NOT ALL OF US ARE ALIKE & I'VE LEARNED NOT BEAT EVERYONE WITH THE SAME STICK.
THANKS FOR YOUR COMMENT!
One of the major arguments now emerging against marriage equality is that marriage was ordained by God thousands of years ago and has remained Divinely sanctioned as between a man and a woman and unchanged ever since. This is totally untrue.
ReplyDeleteThe state has often tampered and restricted the Divinelt inspired throughout history. Utah permitted polygamy for awhile. Slaves, even after their conversion to Christianity, were not allowed to marry. Then there were the laws that made the marriage between the races illegal, which were only overturned in the latter half of the past century.
Humans have always done what they damn well pleased whenever they felt like it. Divine sanctioned or not.
ROGER: AMAZING HOW 'GOD' ORDAINED SO MANY THINGS FOR THE BIBLE THUMPING FOLKS.
ReplyDeleteI FORGOT THAT SLAVES WEREN'T ALLOWED TO MARRY. SHOWS YOU HOW INHUMANE THESE PEOPLE ARE.