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What do you do when you are blamed for trying to OR failing to save someone? You know those individuals that are on that slippery slope to nowhere? YEAH THEM! They did EVERYTHING possible to ensure that they get what they wanted, when they wanted without concern of who they hurt…that is until their house of cards come crashing down. Now that the lights are on AND no one is home, who is to BLAME? I FIRMLY believe that life is all about making choices, some of them good…some of them bad; and prevention is BETTER than cure. So when things take an ugly turn, I can’t help but wonder who should take responsibility for the mistakes? Most of us have NO problems enjoying the sweetness that life offers, but when things turn sour…well that’s another story all together. Why are so many of us so uncomfortable with accepting the fruits of their actions? It seems that WE embrace the despair for the SOLE purpose of putting it on someone else when it is OUR actions AND decisions that led us there. It makes sense if you think about it because that means they don’t have to change their behavior AND life can go on as usual…So they numb themselves to what really is happening and blame others because it is easier to breathe that way. Never realizing that playing THE BLAME GAME can ONLY lead to pain AND powerlessness. Why would anyone want to live a diminished life is strange to me, but whatever keeps the world spinning right? So as we carry on doing GOD knows what to ourselves, I hope that we REALLY feel that we had NO choice but to BLAME someone else because I am merely being who I am AND taking responsibility is just for the weak. Pity them playing THE BLAME GAME will ONLY cause them MORE trauma AND pain…BECAUSE WE ALL KNOW THAT LIKE PIECES OF A PUZZLE OUR LIVES FALL INTO PLACE…THE GOOD & THE BAD FORMING THE PERSON THAT WE ARE & I HOPE THAT WHEN NO ONE ELSE IS AROUND TO BE BLAMED THEY CAN START POINTING THAT FINGER @ THE RIGHT PERSON. BECAUSE PLACING BLAME SAYS THAT I SEE THE PROBLEM, BUT I DIDN’T LEARN THE LESSON…SO UNTIL WE GET LESSON WE WILL CONTINUE TO EMOTIONALLY FADE OUT…
This is exactly why persons cannot learn from life experiences and keeps on making the same mistakes over and over. THEY WILL NOT TAKE THE BLAME FOR THEIR ACTIONS. The journary of life is filled with UP's & DOWN's and in those down periods we must reflect to see how we can learn from the situation to best avoid it from happening again. Its all about self actualization....if no one wants to look at themselves and evaluate thems then we will continuously end up at square one. But hey, it is so much easier to blame someone else though!
ReplyDeleteit's easy to point the finger. hence y it occurs so frequently.
ReplyDeleteall i can suggest doing is warning sum1 once... most ppl learn from example anyway.
im guilty.
As far as I know, people who make it a habit of blaming others for their own mistakes, do so because:
ReplyDelete1. They refuse to or can't grow up and be adult about their own mistakes & shortcomings, or they lack self-esteem, so they cover things up by blaming others.
2. They have some jealousy, anger & bitterness buried somewhere within. They are jealous when they see that others might have qualities that they don't have, or are living a better life than them.
And the reason they are at the bottom of the pile is because they don't want to roll up their sleeves & improve on their own lives. So, everything is a cycle with them. The more they stay at the bottom, the more they harbour jealousy & bitterness towards others, and the more they find it easier to point accusing fingers.
My own mother's child is such a person. It's a strange world he's living in.
But unfortunately, whether such people like it or not, whatever they do impacts on THEIR OWN lives. They can blame all they want from here to the ends of the world, at the end of the day, it is their own life that gets messed up.
this was a heated argument with me and another person who just refused to see the clear logic or the source of how and where it all developed in the first place. While I want to blame it on maybe him being Gemini, I fully cannot because I know within him is a spirit of absolute truth loyalty and devotion. Mis-placed but utter devotion. Thank you for this. I'll come back.
ReplyDelete"Prevention is better than cure"- Well said my friend.
ReplyDeletehey Dude i'm from London and i find ur blog really interesting. its good to know that there are intelligent gay/bi people out there...as in most cases they are a rarity here.
ReplyDeleteIn relation to this. I have had situations in my life wen i tried to blame the external world an people for my short comings and issues, however i found that as i became older, i began to learn more about the direct impact of my own actions on the situations that occur within my own life. i think it takes a lot of wisdom and personal grown for a person to ACHIEVE self reliazation. And as i live day by day, i welcome the events, both good and bad, that occur in my life as they give me a chance to learn something that i did not know before. Life is a rollercoaster journey, and i find it so interesting how as people we are fundementally programmed to learn to adapt to the harsh realities of our situation as time goes by.
In relation to Troy. N. i swear geminis are nuts, lol. i often find sweeping generalisations ignornat. but i dated a gemini...and that dude put me through some SHIT! but thats a whole different chapter! lol
M.W.
ERRYTING COOL – DIDN’T I TELL YOU THAT YOU WERE A SMART YOUNG MAN?
ReplyDeleteSOCIALEDISTURBED – YOU MAY LEARN FROM OTHER PPL’S EXAMPLE BUT A LOT OF US DON’T…
ReplyDeleteMISS SHALLOTTE – SHH, YOU ARE TELLING THEM THE TRUTH…
ReplyDeleteTROY N. – WE’LL BE HERE WAITING…
ReplyDeleteDISTRICTRAZZI – GLAD WE SEE EYE TO EYE ON THAT…
ReplyDeleteANONYMOUS – NICE TO HEAR FROM YOU, DON’T BE A STRANGER…
ReplyDeleteYea. of course man. I'll definately be tuning into this more in the future. I especially enjoyed your post on the different kinds of ass that there are out there. lol....that answered a couple of questions on the intricate nature of my feelings about a couple of dudes i messed around with in the past. lol...my favourite "The Conqured Ass"...lol So true and on point. lol
ReplyDeleteM.W.
Im usually good at accepting when Im wrong...but when someone turns the table on me..and Im doing my best. Well I wont use your page to vent....so Im shutting up!
ReplyDeleteANONYMOUS - HERE @ THEGAYTE-KEEPER YOUR WORD IS YOUR BOND SO WE WILL HOLD YOU TO YOUR WORD...
ReplyDeleteOYIN - GO AHEAD AND VENT...RELEASE YOUR SOUL...
ReplyDeleteHeres to figuring out the lesson instead of pointing the finger.
ReplyDeleteTRU3LOGIC - IF ONLY WE ALL LIVED THAT MOTTO
ReplyDeleteI can relate...I recently had to face a problem which included someone who is on the DL, but they were becoming serious with a certain female.
ReplyDeleteI agree...
ReplyDeleteThis is how we end up in a vicious cycle and never know how to get out.