OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: ¿GAY-4-PAY?

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WHEN I ORIGINALLY WROTE THIS BLOG ENTRY, I THOUGHT THIS GAY-4-PAY PHENOMENON WAS A BUNCH OF HOG WASH & I STILL DO! I GET THAT WE MEN CAN SEPARATE SEX FROM EMOTIONS, BUT WHEN IT COMES SEXUALITY THAT’S A DIFFERENT BALL GAME ALL TOGETHER. SO I ASKED MYSELF A FEW QUESTIONS & CAME UP WITH SOME ANSWERS TRYING TO SHED SOME LIGHT ON THIS SITUATION…

GAY-4-PAY is a insinuative term used more commonly with male actors, pornographic stars, or sex workers that identify as heterosexual but are paid to act or perform gay professionally. The stigma of being gay OR labeled as such has steadily eroded since the Stonewall riots began the modern gay rights movement in 1969. Mainstream movie and television actors have been more willing to portray homosexuality, as the threat of any backlash against their careers has lessened and society's acceptance of gay and lesbian people has increased.

But the term GAY-4-PAY I feel is more acceptable with mainstream actors RATHER than porn actors. I say this because society defines people by their sexual orientation. Through this process it is deduce that if the same gender engages in sexual acts with each other they are in fact HOMOSEXUAL. Therefore I ask the question CAN A MAN TRULY BE HETEROSEXUAL & HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER MERELY FOR THE MONEY?

I am of the thinking that if he is GAY-4-PAY then why not just have a movie that showcases that? But what do I know? It is SO obvious that the money is a means to an end. That end, which is supposed to be liberating and satisfying, cannot be so, for it has no place for mutual respect AND honor for those that are NOT-GAY-4-PAY! The self-gratification principle in money as in all other material quests is as doomed as it is addictive and destructive, requiring increasing extravagance in the wake of its failure. SO, I ASK IS IT WORTH IT?

Pornography is seen as one of the societal decays in f this world; and why a HETERO man would subject himself to SEXUAL energy of another man is something that puzzles me? Thrilled as society is, in a tangled web of self-gratification and psychological and biological pointlessness, it is scarcely surprising that there are men that would GO GAY FOR THE ALMIGHTY DOLLAR. I guess the GLORIFICATION of the idealized masculine/male icon is MORE important than exploiting the years of sexual movement.

THE THUG, BIKER, POLICE & COWBOY ARE JUST SOME OF THE FEW ROLES THAT THESE MEN PORTRAY. BONDAGE, WATERSPORTS, FISTING, RAPE, PRISON SEX ARE PRESENTED AS EROTIC ONLY TO STIMULATE YOU FOR THE PLEASURE OF THE MIGHTY DOLLAR. The reality of this trend should @ minimum, indicate that the industry is only perpetuating the DL men to stay in the closet because it seems that they can move from HETEROSEXUALITY to HOMOSEXUALITY with little ease AND WITH NO CONSEQUENCES…

There are few among us that are susceptible to the effects of past emotional, physical AND sexual abuse, that it is NO surprise that they think they are just GAY-4-PAY. While it is easy to articulate a liberation theory that overlooks OR ignores the reality of what is really going on; the DEGRADATION AND DEHUMANIZATION are NOT changed OR altered for the rest of us that are JUST GAY…In the long run, I guess being GAY-4-PAY is NOT mimicking the SEXUAL behavior of a GAY man because he would have to be GAY to have GAY sex…right? I mean if this GAY-4-PAY theory carries any REAL weight that means that we GAY men that are not doing porn should get paid so we can pass for the men they feel we must be?

BUT CAN SOMEONE TELL ME, WHY GO GAY-4-PAY WHEN GAY PORNOGRAPHY COMPRISES A DISPROPORTIONATELY LARGE PART OF THE PORNOGRAPHY INDUSTRY? IT HAS ATTRACTED MUCH LESS ATTENTION FROM THE ANTI-PORNOGRAPHY MOVEMENT THAT IT’S STRAIGHT COUNTERPART…SO WHEN I TRY TO ADD UP THE MATH, I GET A HEADACHE BECAUSE GAY-4-PAY = NO HOMOPHOBIA. THESE “ACTORS” SERVES AS ANOTHER HOMOPHOBIC SOURCE WITH WHICH TO SILENCE GAY MEN & REINFORCE AN ALREADY DEEPLY ENTRENCHED SYSTEM OF SEX DISCRIMINATION & SOCIAL INEQUALITY. IF A MAN CAN SELL HIS SEXUALITY IN SUCH A MANNER IS IT WORTH THE MORAL SCARRING? MOREOVER, HOW CAN HE STEP BACK INTO SOCIETY LIKE HE ISN’T JUST AS GAY AS THE REST OF US? HENCE ALL THE MONEY, SEX & GOOD TIMES IN THE END AMOUNTS TO HIM BEING MAN BECAUSE HE CAN GET OUR PLEASURE BUT NONE OF OUR PAINS?

THE “HETERO” MALE CONFUSES ME IN THIS SITUATION BECAUSE HE LIVES WITH THE FEAR OF HOMOSEXUALITY JUST LIKE THE REST OF US, SO WHY PUT OUT THERE FOR THE WORLD TO SEE IT? HE KNOWS HATE & WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A VICTIM OF SEXUALITY, SO WHY DO IT & EASE YOUR SOUL WITH SOME PAPER THAT HAS SOME NUMBERS ON THEM?

I CONSIDER GAY PORNOGRAPHY TO BE AN ISSUE OF POWER, A SOURCE OF SOCIAL INEQUALITY…INCLUDING MY OWN. HENCE I GET THAT PORN IS THERAPEUTIC IN ITS OWN WAY, BUT WHEN MEN SAY THEY ARE GAY-4-PAY, THEY PRESENT US WITH THIS DEMONIC KIND OF KINDERGARTEN WHERE THE IMMATURE CAN ACT OUT APART OF HIMSELF WITHOUT CONSEQUENCE LEAVING ME & YOU WITH THE NOTION THAT WE ARE GAY FOR NO REASON @ ALL…IF A “MAN” CAN DO IT, GET PAID & WALK AWAY WHY ARE WE STUCK HERE? MAKES ONE WONDER IF HE IS REALLY GAY-4-PAY OR JUST GAY & GETTING PAID?