OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: BI-SEXUALITY...LET'S TALK

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Being HETEROSEXUAL is common throughout most of the world AND is considered the NORM. Thus, it is believe that HOMOSEXUALITY is the OPPOSITE of HETEROSEXUALITY. This notion within itself poses its own set of problems, so imagine what happens when one brings the BI-SEXUAL theory into the mix. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN ANINDIVIDUAL IS NEITHER & BOTH @ THE SAME TIME?

It is incredible to me how OUR culture still ignores the full spectrum of SEXUAL ORIENTATION and lost in all of this confusion are the BI-SEXUALS. Bi-sexuality is an enigma unto itself and those of us that are not on both sides of the sexual divide tend to form an opinion that causes more harm than good. 

WE are a culture that is consumed by the notion of HETEROSEXUALITY. It is rather sad that WE are still asking ourselves if someone is GAY or STRAIGHT. How do we see a woman dating a man and automatically assume that she is straight if we later see her on a date with a woman? How do we continue to ignore the spectrum of sexual orientation and the shifts that it takes in the lives of others?

The crazy thing is that I can see why WE tend to overlook bisexuals; their existence jab holes in a lot of conventional wisdoms when it comes to sorting society by gender AND sexual orientation. One would THINK that this would be enough to stop us from sorting OUR society by gender AND sexual orientation, but it is NOT! Many MEN and WOMEN have fantasies about, and sexual contact with members of both sex, yet WE cannot seem to find some way of ACCEPTING that this takes place.

The need for an individual to establish sexual OR emotional relationships with persons of both sexes is something that is REAL and LOGICAL. Many bisexual persons would say that they are into the person and NOT the gender. Yet WE try so HARD to make it seem as if it is the TOTAL opposite when it is NOT! IT IS SO OBVIOUS THAT OUR BIGGEST PROBLEM IS LABELS! In the search to identify OUR sexual preference, WE too often categorize ourselves into certain boxes with labels of GAY, STRAIGHT & BISEXUAL. From where I am sitting to do something like that is foolish AND it shows that WE are trying to simplify something that is not straightforward. 

SEXUALITY & SEXUAL DESIRE ARE FLUID! BEING GAY, FOR INSTANCE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU CANNOT BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TOWARDS A WOMAN. IN THE END, CAN ONE SAY WHAT PROVES A MAN IS GAY? WHAT MAKES A WOMAN BISEXUAL? ALL THIS BRINGS US TO ONE FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION…IS SEXUAL ORIENTATION A CHOICE? IF ONE THINKS ABOUT IT, THE ANSWER WOULD HAVE TO BE NO!!! THERE ISN’T A CLEAR DIVISION BETWEEN GAY, STRAIGHT OR BISEXUALITY. IN TRUTH, THE SPECTRUM OF SEXUALITY EXTENDS FROM COMPLETE HOMOSEXUALITY TO COMPLETE HETEROSEXUALITY. WHERE & WHY ANYONE END UP ON THE SCALE IS ANYONE’S GUESS, BUT IT SHOULD BE EXAMINED BEFORE LABELS & JUDGEMENT COMES INTO PLAY. HOW CAN WE FORGET WHEN WE CAME TO THE REALIZATION OF OUR SEXUALITY? HOW CAN WE NOT REMEMBER WHEN WE BECAME AWARE OF THE SEXUAL CHANGES IN OUR BODIES THAT FEED THE ATTRACTION BOTH SEXUAL & EMOTIONAL TOWARDS EITHER PERSONS OF THE OPPOSITE OR SAME SEX? SEXUALITY IS COMPLEX & FASCINATING, IT ENCOMPASSES SO MUCH MORE THAN WE KNOW OR ACCEPT. BI-SEXUALITY PER SE DOES NOT BELONG TO ANY CATEGORIES GIVEN THAT THEY ARE ALL OF SEXUALITY. LIKE HOMSEXUALITY SEX IN THIS SOCIETY, HAS A LOT OF ROTTEN THINGS THAT ARE REFLECTED IN IT’S CORE. HENCE, BISEXUALITY THOUGH VARIED & COMPLEX SHOULD NOT BE SEEN AS SOMETHING NEGATIVE, ESPECIALL BY THOSE OF US THAT ARE HOMOSEXUAL.