Can someone tell me why SO many GAY men B!TCH about this thing call LOVE? GAY MEN…Aren’t you TIRED of saying; I AM NOT USE TO BEING WITH SOMEONE WHO TRULY WANTS TO BE WITH ME? Or THIS LOVE THING IS NOT FAMILIAR TO ME? LORD KNOWS I AM TIRED OF HEARING IT! And until the GAY man heals himself, there is NO LOVE to be had…SO many of us say we want LOVE, but we don’t want to take the risk of actually FEELING something for another man. Funny how our lips say it, yet our hearts AND brains REFUSE to accept it. Then we do EVERYTHING possible to mess things up because we don’t know HOW TO MALE. When does the cycle stop? When will we get it? When will we learn HOW TO MALE? Isn’t time we STOP the pity-party and do away with those feelings of inadequacy and STOP playing around with this thing called LOVE? I’ve found that for me to LOVE a man and have him LOVE me in return, I MUST take a stand AND know that I am worthy of being LOVED. But in order for us to be able to MALE, we have to live as if there are GOOD men out there starting with the one you see in the mirror…So this means that we have to get past the six pack OR the dick size of a man to even THINK about finding a loving relationship. I understand sex is GOOD and all that, but does it not get old and tired patrolling for ass? Moreover, when the moment arises to assist the GAY man in getting LOVE, the FIRST thing he wants to know is…HOW DOES HE LOOK ? Looks are LOVELY but as Judge Judy so eloquently puts it BEAUTY FADES & DUMB IS FOREVER…Relationships are NOT easy and just wanting to LOVE someone is NOT enough! The DISNEY fairytale we’ve created won’t drop in our laps and just bloom; WE HAVE TO WORK @ IT! For far too long we’ve told ourselves that ENDLESS parade of men that we’ve LOVED and LOST were the problem and NOT ourselves. While others of us obtained a higher degree, a good job, a big house, a fine car, a fit body, and all the other things we seem to hold dear and near to our hearts…but they’ll NEVER bring us closer to the COMMITTED relationship LOVE provides. It goes back to the false-truths of who we are as men AND how we should LOVE each other. Our LOVE is NO more DISTRUSTFUL, ABUSIVE or PROMISCUOUS than our hetero counterparts. So if we continue to LOVE like we do, we will continue to get what we have. In other words, we attract the characteristic that we manifest within ourselves…HOW EASY WE FAIL @ LOVE WHEN WE DON ’T KNOW HOW TO MALE…
I am so happy to not be bitching anymore!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI am in love!!!!! NO BITCHASSNESS!!!!!!!!
'Beauty fades but dumb is forever' - I love that
ReplyDeleteWill have to use it
Well dude there are good men out there - I won't complain but the good lord knows it is like trying to separate the wheat from the tears. And i am not complaining [again] just making an observation. I know you have to put in work to get what you need and ...[reminds me of the episode of Will & Grace 'Crouching Father, Hidden Husband' where Grace exclaims "Men need to be programmed"] so yeah just haven't been in the field lately.
ReplyDeleteI am bracing myself for the scathing response from you - surely you won't disappoint
I like this, you tell it like it is!
ReplyDeleteAMEN!
ReplyDeleteok now we are getting to be in too many parts...I dont know how to be male. Im one that will bitch about anything and at almost all the time. I only know what I want from a male...so Gayte I ask you...do you know how to male...lmao!!
ReplyDeleteREGGIE - SPREAD THAT TO OTHERS AROUND YOU...
ReplyDelete®‡ø - BETTER LIVE IT!
ReplyDeleteKEITH JONES - THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY LIES OUT THERE SO THE TRUTH MUST BE TOLD
ReplyDeleteQ - I WILL ADD AN AMEN & A THANK YOU JESUS!!!
ReplyDeleteOYIN - SORRY TO SAY BUT THERE IS MORE TO COME, I AM SURE YOU CAN TAKE WHAT I PUT HERE & APPLY TO YOUR LIFE...
ReplyDelete®‡ø - SO GET YOUR FUCKING ASS OUT IN THE FIELD!!!
ReplyDeleteYeah yeah it's about time
ReplyDeleteGood post..ive dealt with men that didn't know how to handle it/react when they started developing "unfamilar" feelings. It's so irritating/depressing tryin to convice someone that it's ok to have these feelings and let them develop into somethin that could b great.
ReplyDeleteBut until someone learns to luv themselves, how can we expect them to luv us?
JERZEY_REALITY - THAT'S THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION...
ReplyDeleteI can see by some of these responses that many of us have not truly learned to love ourselves. What he is saying is that when you love and accept yourself, you become more in tune to what you want in another person. Tight abs, a big chest, and a big package will not fill all of your relationship needs...unless you are truly just that shallow. Check out the inside as well as the outside. How? Try having an intelligent conversation with your prospective mate. See where his/her mind is, maybe you'll have more in common, therefore, more of a foundation for a lasting union. To the gayte-keeper....keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteMIKE SPIKE
OK [MIKE SPIKE] Anonymous:
ReplyDeleteI must ask who or what are you referring to when you say that the responses tell you that persons don't love themselves. I don't get where that conclusion comes from but I do agree being shallow is not the appropriate / mature / meaningful... way to finding a potential suitable mate
I've had this topic on my mind lately what with my own relationships woes. As I think about it, many gay men have never found true acceptance in the home, school, workplace, media, or society, so there is this sense of self hate that boils down deep. In turn we expect the worst from those we WANT to love and many times destroy the very thing we desire. Very thought provoking, sir.
ReplyDeleteMIKE SPIKE - I AGREE WITH ®‡ø...CAN YOU CLARIFY THAT STATEMENT FOR US PLEASE?
ReplyDeleteTHE ANTONYM – I HOPE THAT SOMETHING YOU READ HERE HELPED YOU WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP WOES…
ReplyDeleteOk u need to just quit it now....ur giving too much truth and i love it. It was exactly the right time for you to write this series.
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