THE DAHL HAUS PRESENTS: THE END(S) OF JULY 2012

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AGE: ¿DOES MAKING FRIENDS GET HARDER AS IT INCREASES?

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Friendship is unencumbered when we’re young, before we have responsibilities, obligations, and complications that keep us from maintaining our connections. By senior year of high school, we’ve probably experienced our first few falling-outs. We may have lost a bestie we thought we’d always have. By the time we start dating [seriously], the wo/man we have as a best friend may be a completely different person than the one we imagined filling the role. If we’re lucky, our earliest friends remain our best friends throughout our lives. But what if we’re unlucky in friendship? What if by our late twenties and thirties, we’ve relocated, started families, and lost those deep connections that once meant more to us than almost any other relationship we had?

In his New York Times article, “Friends of a Certain Age,” Alex Williams discusses the various impediments to forging close and long-lasting bonds with new people later in life:

In your 30s and 40s, plenty of new people enter your life, through work, children’s play dates, and, of course, Facebook. But actual close friends — the kind you make in college, the kind you call in a crisis — those are in shorter supply.

As people approach midlife, the days of youthful exploration, when life felt like one big blind date, are fading. Schedules compress, priorities change, and people often become pickier in what they want in their friends.

No matter how many friends you make, a sense of fatalism can creep in: The period for making BFFs, the way you did in your teens or early 20s, is pretty much over. It’s time to resign yourself to situational friends: KOFs (kind of friends) — for now.

What do you think? Is it any harder for you to make close friends as you get older? Have you been able to maintain your childhood, high school, and college friendships as adult life has increased its demands?

G.L.B.T. THEMED BOOKS: THE GAY MAN'S KAMA SUTRA

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The Kama Sutra, the famed ancient Indian guide to lovemaking, has been used to enhance sexual experiences since the fourth century. Now, it has been reinterpreted to create the ultimate sex guide for gay men. Using clear, empowering text to celebrate the art of gay lovemaking, The Gay Man's Kama Sutra applies the art and spirit and intention of the original Kama Sutra--the expression of uninhibited pleasure through sex--to the lives of twenty-first century gay men. It shamelessly encourages love and sex, pleasure and sensuality, uninhibited erotic indulgence and play. Visually stunning, it is accompanied by exquisite, sensual artworks from the original Kama Sutra, classic homo-erotic artworks, and tasteful instructional line drawings.

Whether you are in a long-term partnership, an open relationship, or are enjoying a life of sexual freedom, this book offers invaluable advice for a happy, healthy, and satisfying sex life. Every aspect of gay sex is explored--from oral congress and masturbation to anal sex and fetishes--and important issues such as finding a partner, emotional problems, and safe sex are also included.

TRUE BLOOD: SEASON 5, EPISODE 8 - SOMEBODY THAT I USED TO KNOW

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This week presented more of Russell's insidious infiltration of The Authority. What does he want? Still unclear. Whether it's pure anarchy or -- more likely -- something much more coldly calculated, his appetite for blood, lust, and all things whimsically perverse is being fed aplenty. Truly, he's about the only one who's satisfied this week as nearly everyone else betrays his or her own weakness in the face of outside attackers.

Picking up where we left off, Jason left Chez Compton when he saw the bursts of light coming from Stackhouse Shack. He found Sookie trying to sparkle-finger the fairy right out of herself. Jason gave her a wonderfully charming big brother pep talk, telling her not to waste her fairy powers because they were a legacy from their parents -- not a curse (or, as Sookie has unfortunately discovered, a way to find out which local pervs want to suck your toes). The Stackhouse sibs sought expertise from the burlesque fairies, who reluctantly obliged after Sookie started screaming about vampires in the middle of their club.

MONDAY MUSICAL MOTIVATION: BLOW ME (ONE LAST KISS)

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Pop/rock star Pink has chosen the upbeat 'goodbye' anthem "Blow Me (One Last Kiss)" as the lead single from her much-anticipated sixth studio album to be released in 2012 via RCA Records - Produced by Greg Kurstin (Marina and The Diamonds, Kelly Clarkson), "Blow Me" is a typical Pink rock-y tune - although a little bit too 'wordy' - with a cool instrumentation and lyrics along. It's powerful and radio-friendly.

"Blow Me (One Last Kiss)" by P!nk is currently in the HOT100 Billboard charts at position 10. Blow Me lyrics by Pink.

INVITE-IN CRITICISM

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Everyone is a ‘mirror’ to you whether it is a ‘boss’, someone on the street, or a loved one. No one rises to the top of any game without criticism, especially if they let go of the ‘shield of the ego’, and actively invite viewpoints in. Consider which criticisms might be valuable to incorporate into who you are in your daily life. None of us have eyes outside of ourselves, but depend on others reactions/responses. One who sees himself as others do is rising in consciousness within themselves.

Be open, and invite others to comment and critique you. Let the ‘walls’ down so that you can grow into the possibilities that await you. See who you are from different viewpoints.  Always consider who the source of ‘critiques’ is. Many people lack credibility even in their own lives, and perhaps they misjudge, and/or do not know you well enough. Then again, never under estimate the value of anyone’s viewpoint even if they have a lot of specs in their own eyes. Know who you appear to be through others eyes, and be open to acknowledging it to others but with judiciousness, and humbleness if necessary.

Most people, consciously or unconsciously, seek to avoid anyone who challenges them, particularly where they have faults. Many will go through their whole lives avoiding any challenge to what they perceive as their short comings. In many instances, I’ve found people who have little or no idea how they come across to others in a negative way because others are not comfortable in saying anything. Closing yourself off to valid criticism shuts you down for all spiritual development. Some compensate for aberrations by being good in other areas in hopes that it will make up for others avoiding ‘calling them out’. Isn’t it better, and healthier to develop in all ways if possible?’

Changing the outer to be in synchronicity with those who are fairly centered, and ‘bad habit free’ is advisable as a step in looking at who you really are on the inside. Whether changing the ‘outer’ to facilitate changing the inner, or changing the inner to see changes that need to be made in one’s whole outer world to be a more healthy, conscious, spiritual being, it’s the positive way to be, both for yourself, those close to you, and as an inspiration to those who you encounter. We all need inspiration! Make yourself an inspiration both on the outer and inner by being open to the voice of others to help your own. A more growing, evolving conscious world begins with an awake and loving you! Have the courage to change and adapt! Match up inner space and outer space! 

PROFESSIONAL LIARS...

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It has been proven again and again that the 


HOMOPHOBIC man is such a 

professional liar that with the plain truth 


before his eyes he will still profess to 

be seeing something else.

THE DAHL HAUS PRESENTS: JULY STIFF ONES

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THEY SAY YOU CAN BREAK A PENIS, BUT THESE ‘STIFF’ ONES BEG TO DIFFER!