BI-SEXUALITY: ¿WILL YOU EVER ACCEPT IT?

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Can someone tell me how SO many gay folks can take pride in the things that divide us and no comfort in the things that define us? As a gay man living in one of the most socially liberal times, I’m often amazed by other gay men’s reactions whenever an individual dare admit to being physically and emotionally attracted to both men and women. How can we gay men have that “I’ve had the nerve to come out and be fully gay, why can’t you attitude?”

There’s a common misconception about bisexuality, that it’s merely a two way station on the journey to self-acceptance. And for some that may be true; and while the term “bisexual” may be transitional or temporary for MANY questioning, contemplating, exploring or fearing their sexuality, for many it’s a lasting identity. So why is the concept met with such resistance from both gay and straight communities? It’s seen throughout history. In ancient Greek society boys commonly slept with other boys until they married women, and many scholars consider Dionysus to be the bisexual archetype.

But even with those facts in hand, people cannot get beyond the need to see people as one thing or the other. This is ironic, because while bisexuality as a concept may seem vague, many bisexuals are absolutely clear about their orientation. Consider how some straight people say they just don’t understand how one man can be sexually attracted to another man, and yet that doesn’t matter; straight people don’t have to “get it,” the fact is that homosexuals exist. The same argument can be used for bisexuals. Just because a gay person doesn’t understand how a man/woman could be attracted to both a man and a woman, doesn’t matter; I feel those feelings do exist. When will you?