With the new movie He's Just Not Into You hitting theaters, I thought it was PERFECT when I came upon this gem that turned the tables and identify the signals that you're unexcited about him. I know it can be hard to admit you're just not feeling a guy who seems perfect on paper, but think about it this way: Every moment you spend with the wrong man is a moment you're missing out with the right one.
- YOU DON’T THINK ABOUT HIM MUCH WHEN YOU’RE APART…When there are real sparks with a guy, he’s on your mind constantly — you see his face in crowds, you reread his texts, you plan out your next date in your mind over and over. When you’re not truly attracted to him, he pops into your brain infrequently, and when he does, there’s no heart-thumping anticipation.
- YOU DON’T ESPECIALLY WANT HIM TO MEET YOUR FRIENDS & FAMILY…Even if he’s a good, solid guy, you may worry that he won’t impress the people closest to you because he doesn’t really impress you either. Another reason you may be keeping him under wraps: You’re afraid that friends and family members will sense a lack of excitement on your part and ask you why you’re with a man you’re not head-over-heels for.
- IT DOESN’T BOTHER YOU WHEN HE GOES OUT WITHOUT YOU…He says he’s hanging with some co-workers Friday night. No big deal. Saturday night he’ll be reuniting with frat buddies from college. You tell him to have a good time and you’ll talk later. If you don’t feel a twinge of discomfort (or worse, you feel actual relief) when he makes lots of solo plans, it’s a red flag.
- YOU’RE NOT EXCITED TO HOOK UP WITH HIM…Everyone feels too tired or too stressed for sex every once in a while, but if you rarely look forward to getting naked with him, you need to reevaluate the relationship. Listen to your body: If you don’t feel physical chemistry, the emotional kind probably isn’t there either.
- YOU WONDER IF OTHER GUYS YOU MEET ARE AVAILABLE…You may not think there’s anything wrong with secretly sizing up another guy’s date-ability potential; hey, you’re not giving him your phone number or anything. But it’s a tip-off that you’re kind of looking and assessing your options.
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ReplyDeleteYOuve nailed it right on point.....your soooooooo right, these are my signs when Im no longer interested or feeling this dude...
OYIN - GLAD YOU SAW IT...
ReplyDeleteTrue signs!
ReplyDeleteAren't those bananas the cutest things EVER? Are they your MASTERPIECE, Kishna-love? :)
ReplyDeleteKNOXXY - INDEED...
ReplyDeleteMISS SHALLOTTE - THEY ARE CUTE AREN'T THEY? NAH THEY AREN'T MY CREATION...
This is the kind of advise we should print out, frame, and paste on our walls to serve as constant reminder because, aaaaiiii!! don't we like clinging on to the wrong trees?!
ReplyDeleteMISS SHALLOTTE - I AGREE...
ReplyDeleteDid you take the picture of the bananas? It's cute.
ReplyDeleteDUSTY BOOT - NAH I DIDN'T TAKE THE PIC
ReplyDeletelol @ the Bananas, I find it hilarious. These notes are TRUE signs on when you're just not that INTO HIM! I can apply these pointers to a lot of folks that have ran through my life. Okay! It's not A LOT but a few.....
ReplyDeleteERRYTING COOL - SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A FEW STORIES TO SHARE...
ReplyDeleteI am making one of my girlfriends read this post. She's holding on to a guy that she's no longer into because she doesn't feel like looking anymore. Well, she didn't say she doesn't feel like looking anymore, that's my opinion. She has mentioned everything in your post.
ReplyDeleteLoved the picture of the bananas.
makes perfect sense
ReplyDeletejust wish it was earlier....
ReplyDeleteooooooooooooooo and I am so stealing this pic....
ReplyDeleteSCORNED WOMAN - I HOPE IT HELPS HER...
ReplyDeleteWONDER MAN - IT DOES HUH?
OYIN - NO TIME LIKE THE PRESENT...
I've learned this a long time ago....and it's a major revelation.
ReplyDeleteKEISHA KORNBREAD - I AM SURE YOUR LIFE IS BETTER BECAUSE OF IT...
ReplyDeleteMan, I think that we have all experienced these signs, I know I have that is when I know for a fact that I am not into the person, my heart allows my mind to rule, and we all know that in the affairs of the heart there are no rules.
ReplyDeleteCHET - AIN'T THAT THE TRUTH
ReplyDeleteGreat tips to consider... Some of us are delusional and are into guys who just aren't into us. Hopefully we'll wake up to this reality sooner rather than later.
ReplyDeleteOSSIE - HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL...
ReplyDeleteFirst off -- those bananas ARE the cutest things ever. Perfect for this post actually.
ReplyDeleteYou nailed all these points. Been there. [Haven't heard from him all weekend, and don't care in the least.] But for me it's all part of my slow, painless, extrication process.
No point in just saying, "Hey, you [embarass, or bore] the fuck outta me, so I'm out." That would be the admirable thing to do. But that's not me.
I've always been a bit of an a$$hole. But at least I admit it. Gimme kudos for that.
TAYLORSILUWE - THAT'S WHY YOU ARE ONE OF MY FAVS...
ReplyDeleteoooooooooooo just like when i saw the movie...i said now thats some real shit for u. I love this post.
ReplyDeleteTRU3LOGIC - ALL WISE THINGS TO HELP YOU GET ON WITH LIFE...
ReplyDeleteI agree with most of what u said buddy!
ReplyDeleteDEONTE'K - OKAY I CAN LIVE WITH THAT
ReplyDeleteYes those are good signs
ReplyDeleteBut how do you know when he's just not that into you?
I found myself needing a refresher course. I think I just ticked off YES on all five points. *sigh*
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