¡THE BATTLEFIELD IS EVERYWHERE!

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WALK SOFT & CARRY A BIG STICK...

WHAT IF...? THE STRANGE THING ABOUT THE JOHNSONS

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I came across this movie via my blog brother Zee Jai's blog and I HAD to post this to the blog. This movie TOTALLY blew me away and answer a question that was on my mind for years and I hope you leave asking yourself What if...?

The Johnsons are an attractive, well-to-do, upper-middle class family. Sidney, husband and father, is a famous poet, known and adored for his kindness and sensitivity. Joan, wife and mother, is a dutiful housewife, an obsessive homemaker and the life of every party. Their son, Isaiah, is a charismatic young man who has just gotten married to an equally appealing young woman. In fact, there is only one thing that separates the Johnsons from their charming friends and neighbours: Isaiah, the son, has been molesting Sidney, the father, since he was fifteen years old. And what's more, Sidney has written a memoir that chronicles, in great detail, the ins-and-outs of this unseemly father-son relationship. 'The Strange Thing About The Johnsons' is a dark satire of the domestic melodrama, which asks "What if...?" and then for some reason comes up with an answer.

DADDY: ¿WHAT'S IN A NAME?

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Ah, the Sugar Daddy. For straight men this role is taken for granted: You have a hot girlfriend because you’re loaded? But if a gay couple’s ages vary by 10 years or more, others will let the barbs fly without hesitation. Yes, few men are as scorned as the Sugar Daddy, which is ironic because intergenerational love among gays is not uncommon.

Youth and beauty are qualities women are typically judged on, while men trade on their economic status. Thus, traditionally, heterosexual men and women each know where they stand in the dating game. But in the gay world, youth, beauty and economic status often intermingle, so it becomes particularly difficult for some gay men to not only understand their position in a relationship, but also to refrain from judging, making assumptions or growing defensive when labels such as “Daddy” are thrown around.

DADDY, one simple word that provokes a variety of responses; but why?

@ THE CENTER OF PATHOLOGY IS...

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 ...at the center of pathology is the individual's inability to control the self. One of the amazing things about the human mind when one looks at it from the point of view of the so-called unconscious, is that the individual who does not know himself and does not know reality, is the individual who escapes from self-knowledge, is an individual who does not know the roots and bases of his actions. 

 He is an individual who seems to be determined by external forces (or by internal forces) of which he has little or no knowledge. He is often constantly puzzled by his own behavior. He is often a wonderment to himself. He struggles against impulses, desires and wishes over which he has little or no control because he has, in his escape from self-knowing and reality, conceded his self-control and given it over to someone else. 

In releasing his identity and permitting another to place an identity within his psyche, he has at the same time placed in the hands of that other the ability to control his behavior."

8 THINGS NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS...

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The surprising, enlightening, and sometimes hard truths we all face after marriage, and how they teach us about what love really means.

"...And they lived happily ever after."

You're smart. You know life is no storybook. But admit it: Somewhere deep in your subconscious lurk romantic visions of a fairytale ending. The images may be sketchy and a little outdated, but you can still make out the silhouette of the bride and Prince Charming riding off into the sunset.

In real life, sometimes your Disney fairy tale ends up feeling more like a Wes Craven horror flick — and you're the chick who keeps falling down and screaming for her life. I've been there. Let's face it; marriage is not for the faint of heart. You want to believe your pure love for each other will pull you through. And it does. But it ain't always pretty.

That may sound grim. But here's a secret: Sometimes it's the least romantic parts of marriage that have the most to teach you about yourself, your partner, and the nature of love. Read on for some simple truths that will unlock the surprising treasures and pleasures in your imperfect, unstorybook, real-life love.

MONDAY MUSICAL MOTIVATION: FIGHT FOR YOU

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Check out the world premiere of Jason Derulo's music video for "Fight For You" - The RedOne-produced track has been selected as the official fourth single from Derulo's latest studio album "Future History" - Enjoyable tune, with a cute and steamy video! I'm still rooting for "Breathing" to become a smash hit, are you?

MIRACLE...

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Miracle…The dictionary defines it as "an event that appears unexplainable by the laws of nature and so is held to be supernatural in origin or an act of God." When I reflect on the men and events that led me to Noel, I am forced to conclude that a miracle -- no, a series of miracles -- has occurred. How else can years of heartache turn out to be, in the long run, blessings?

But then my inner critic says, "Are you so self-obsessed as to believe that the hand of God/universe moves through your puny life?" Well, if I assume an infinite God/universe, the answer is, why not? The dictionary definition of infinite is "having no boundaries or limits." With that in mind it seems self-obsessed to think that the influence of something infinite wouldn't extend to me, or anyone else for that matter. Of course I could also claim that we're all chemical accidents in a dead and meaningless universe. It just doesn't make a very interesting Ah-Ha Moment!

FINDING HOME: WHEN GAY KIDS GET KICKED OUT...

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November is Homeless Awareness Moth and IN THE LIFE examines the plight of lesbian, gay, bisexual  and transgender (LGBT) youth experiencing homelessness. The episode features Cyndi Lauper's True Colors Residence, the permanent affordable house to be offered to LGBT at risk youth in New York City.

"I believe that a strong society is an inclusive society and it we want to win big in this world, we better include everybody." Cyndi Lauper.

There are an estimated 1.6 to 2.8 million homeless youth in the United States, up to 40% identify as LGBT. IN THE LIFE takes a stark look at youth kicked out of their homes from New York to Illinois to California, answering the the questions: What services are offered to the youth on the street? How do they cope and survive? The episode highlights The Family Acceptance Project, an organization conducting innovative research on the harmful effects of family rejection.

"I've definitely built my own little family support system here. When they get on me, it's about getting my life together and keeping me on track. It's not about who I am. They just want to make me a better person." Tiffany Viruet, left home at age 19.

Watch the complete episode online of IN THE LIFE's "Finding Home" here:

http://www.itlmedia.org/clips/entry/kicked-out

THE DAHL HAUS PRESENTS: A LITTLE SKIN TO KEEP YOU WARM...

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HOLD ON

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"Hold On" is the title of a song recorded by American vocal group Wilson Phillips. It was released in February 1990 as the lead single from their album,Wilson Phillips. The song won the Billboard Music Award for Hot 100 Single of the Year for 1990. At the Grammy Awards of 1991, the song received a nomination for Song of the Year, losing to "From a Distance" by Julie Gold and performed by Bette Midler.

"Hold On" became Wilson Phillips' first number one single, reaching the top spot of the Billboard Hot 100 on June 9, 1990. The song also spent a week atop the adult contemporary chart that same year. In addition, "Hold On" peaked at number 6 on the UK Singles Chart.

·        In the 2004 comedy Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle, Harold (John Cho) and Kumar (Kal Penn) sing along to this song while driving to White Castle.[13][14]

·        A cover of this song is performed in the talent show finale scene of the 2009 comedy Spring Breakdown.[15]

·        The song is performed by Wilson Phillips in a scene during the 2011 comedy Bridesmaids, with members of the cast singing along. As a result the song re-entered the UK and Australian Top 100 singles chart in July 2011.[citation needed]

·        On October 3, 2011, Chynna Phillips danced to "Hold On" on "Dancing with the Stars".

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: PLEASE FORGIVE ME :(

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THIS BLOG ENTRY IS SOMETHING SO STUPID I DIDJUST TO GET SOME FROM THIS GUY THAT BEEN PLAYING HARD TO GET. SO WHEN I FINALLYGOT HIM & PROTECTION WASN’T WORKING FOR MY D!CK THAT DAY, I TOOK THINGS TOPLACE I SHOULDN’T. MAKES ME WONDER IF HE FELT ME SLIDING IN HIM WITHOUT ACONDOM, THAT IS SOMETHING EVERYONE SHOULD BE ABLE TO TELL…RIGHT?

I chose not to LOOK...LISTEN...RESPECT him. I just wanted to get mine; I mean why not he got his? And did he ever...HAVE YOU EVER WANTED TO F&CK SOMEONE SO BAD THAT YOU THREW ALL COMMON SENSE OUT OF THE WINDOW? HAVE YOU EVER PUT ANOTHER PERSON @ RISK WITH THEM KNOWING OR CARE IF THEY DID? HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A POSITION WHERE A CONDOM JUST KILLED YOUR ERECTION AND ALL YOU COULD THINK ABOUT IS GETTING THAT ASS?...I have...I know what I did was horrible and if I could change it, I wouldn't change a thing.

WHAT DOESN'T KILL US...

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What doesn't kill us makes us bitter. I used to believe that to be both funny and true. Years later I learned that pain could also be the touchstone for personal growth, which of course points back to the original saying, "what doesn't kill us makes us better." Not funny, but perhaps closer to the truth. Or at least the truth I choose to believe in these days. So, having recently experienced a bit of pain, am I better? Well, let's review: I think I'm fairly immune to name-calling now. I'm not sure I could have made that claim a few years ago.

I've also come to see that the things I used to think were big deals, are not. Problems appear to be relative. If you have a big one, it makes all the others seem almost charming in comparison. And finally, when your life takes a path you could never have foreseen, it's humbling. In a good way. It's kind of like a friendly reminder from the universe that while you may think you have the starring role in the movie of your life, you're actually just a bit player trying to grab a quesadilla off the craft services table when no one's looking. So, to sum up: I now have a thicker skin, I'm less likely to sweat the small stuff, and, perhaps most importantly, I have a renewed sense of humility. All in all, better. 

THE DAHL HAUS WANNA KNOW: ¿WHAT ARE YOU THANKFUL FOR THIS YEAR?

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