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Friday, 23 July 2010

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: DOUBLE DIPPING


What happens when your committed partner grows bored with your sex life and desires to see other people? He doesn't exactly tell you; and he just somehow sleeps with other people from time to time. I am of the opinion that NOTHING good comes in threes…tires, shoes OR relationships, so when he takes it upon himself to have sex with another person outside of the relationship I say that it is over. Three persons in a relationship can be a good idea if all parties involved agreed to such a thing. However, most of us seem to either forget OR have amnesia when it comes to letting the other person know that they are DOUBLE DIPPING. 

We need to understand that HEALTHY relationships are a complete package; emotionally, spiritually, mentally AND sexually. I cringe when I hear gay men make excuses for the deficiencies in their relationships. How can it be okay to F&CK  someone else because your partner is NOT what you anymore, but he hasn’t done anything wrong so you cannot leave him? Of course, no relationship is perfect and there are always things that couples can work through together, but the first step to solving a relationship issue is recognizing that there is indeed an issue rather than getting it on with someone else. Either way a relationship cannot fix itself if one partner is seeking sexual gratification elsewhere. Things like this make me so upset and I wonder why is it that WE gay men are SO willing to accept a part time relationship, but demand everything else in our lives be complete? How quickly we insist our food to be prepared @ a fast food restaurant, but we willingly accept an incomplete man? Why should we settle for men that want every part of us except monogamy? 

I SAY CLOSE THE VALVE ON THE FLOOD OF HIS DOUBLE DIPPING & FORCE HIM TO THE TABLE & GET TO THE BOTTOM OF HIS NEED TO SEEK OUTSIDE ACTION. LOVE SHOULD NEVER BE CONFUSED WITH HAPPINESS & IT IS INHUMANE TO LOVE THINGS THAT ARE NOT GOOD FOR US. THE CORE OF A PARTNERSHIP SHOULD BE TO DEVELOP THE MOST COMPLETE BOND POSSIBLE. WHY ARE WE ATTEMPTING TO CREATE A TRIANGLE WITH TWO SIDES THAT ARE BROKEN? DOUBLE DIPPING CANNOT FIX WHAT IS WRONG WITH A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP; IT MAY SPICE THINGS UP TEMPORARILY, BUT THE INTENT IS FOR US TO LIVE FOR A WHILE ON THIS PLANET. SO WE NEED TO GET OUR ACT TOGETHER OR WE WILL HAVE A COMMUNITY THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL…WAIT WE ALREADY DO…

4 comments:

  1. Yes, our community is out of control. But then again, so is the world. You can't watch the news without shaking your head or having a WTF moment.

    More to the point, people grow restless in a relationship over time - some faster than others, but it happens to everyone. That innate, feral thrill of the chase asserts itself and then excuses for bad behavior follow.

    People are just mammals with gadgets and monogamy is somewhat against our baser instincts. We want to believe we're better than the lower mammals because of how clever we are. We want to believe we have a higher purpose. We need to believe.

    Still, our inner caveman is always there, quietly, secretly looking to club something cute and drag it home.

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  2. I have always been a firm believer that it takes so much more to keep a gay man's attention and affection, we tend to bore so very easily.

    When I'm in a relationship, I put the cards on the table and advise my partner that at anytime I don't meet his needs just say so and I'll work on it, but if it is just something else you want, then holla at me I would much rather know, than to be played a fool while the muthafucka double dips. Oh yeah honesty may hurt, but it is always best to be honest and tell the partner if things aren't what you want or desire.

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  3. TAYLOR - LOVE YOUR TAKE ON THIS! BUT I BELIEVE THAT IT IS ALL ABOUT THE ENERGY YOU HAVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

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