BETHEGENERATION

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A PEOPLE IGNORANT OF THEMSELVES ARE A PEOPLE HEADED FOR DISASTER

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Amos N. Wilson

...YOU UNDERSTOOD

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you have cradled me

you have taught me

you have made me bawl …made me guffaw

in and through you i bore witness to the highest of luminary and the darkest of the human experience

your volatile nature has matured me

your stunning beauty has enthralled me into drunken stupor

your lessons have resonated within me

…i

…i

i have keeled over in laughter with you

- orgasmed fiercely in you…

- cried around and for you

- celebrated and lifted you – yes, defended you

- i have awakened in you

- my spirit has found calm in you

- my spirit has feared in you

- taught and learned because of you

you are notorious

you are intriguing

you are rebellious and hypocritical

you are pure, unraveled and exuberant

you are excess while you are deprived

you have birthed stars …stars and vagabonds

you allow the lesser to govern you

you have over trained me for my journey and it’s time we part ways …ebb and flow dictate that i leave when the suck is strained – alas other honey flows abundantly for me – elsewhere  – i release you with a keen knowingness, servitude and awareness  - i have offered you my best and have subjected you to my worst - we have served each other [se anulan mutuamente] …i have changed you as you have changed me – even in this (even in this) …i would do you all over again …i would do you with increased awareness, passion, zeal and-and lust …you cater to that which is hedonistic

…you embrace and reward

- flare

- passion

- fire

- grander

- the dominant

…you quell the less evolved - euthanize the dying and hold the dreams of the weak in fine balance – i have watched many leave you only to laud you at a distance …their passion and allegiance is unmatched but …from a distance …i now join their ilk

‘ yard’, ‘jamdown’, ‘jamrock’, ‘paradise’  JAMAICA - you will always live in me!

Namaskar ~ 

kirkland/2010

THE WEIGHT OF COMPETITION...

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Normally after a trip to the gay club, I ALWAYS leave with SO many things to blog about (that will come later). I came across this article and thought it had a VERY interesting point. ABSORB & SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS!

¿WHAT WOULD MISS PIGGY SAY?

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THE SIGN

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"The Sign" is a 1993 dance-pop song by the Swedish band Ace of Base. The song was an international hit, reaching Number two in the United Kingdom and spending six non-consecutive weeks as number one on the Billboard Hot 100 chart in the United States. (It was the first single to have two distinct runs at #1 since Men at Work's "Down Under" in 1983; the 582-week gap between their second runs is the longest such in Billboard history.) It was on an album calledHappy Nation in most of the world, but The Sign in North America.

TSA REGULATIONS & ETIQUETTE FOR THE GAY MALE TRAVELER

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In lieu of the Thanksgiving holiday, everyone seems to be complaining about the Transportation Security Administration's pat downs or nudie body scans. But let's face facts:

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: HER 'GAY' HUSBAND

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I MUST FIRST APOLOGIZE FOR THE LENGTH OF THIS ENTRY...I THINK BACK THEN I WAS JUST CONCERNED ABOUT GETTING EVERYTHING DOWN & I GOT LONG WINDED  SO FOR THAT, I AM VERY SORRY! AS I READ THIS ENTRY, I CAN REMEMBER THAT DAY SO FRESH IN MY MIND THAT I SOMETIMES STILL SHAKE MY HEAD IN DISBELIEF. I GUESS @ THE END OF THE DAY, EVERYTHING & EVERYONE HAS A PART TO PLAY IN THIS WORLD...IT IS JUST THAT SOMETIMES I HATE THAT SOME PEOPLE CHOOSE TO KEEP THE SAME SCRIPT LONG AFTER THE FIRST & SECOND ACT.  

¡HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

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I'D LIKE TO WISH ALL OF MY BROTHERS N’ SISTERS WHO LIVE IN – OR WHO IS FROM THE USA A VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING! I SINCERELY HOPE YOU GET TO ENJOY IT TO THE FULLEST!

¿WHAT DIVA INSPIRES YOU?

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Why do we love the divas that we love? Is it their struggle, grit, smooth air or fierce attitude?

Whatever the reason, our divas carry us through tough times before coming out, all around man troubles and beyond life's surprises. They bring us laughter and joy just when we need reminding that life's troubles can be taken to the runway, the highway, or in Angela Bassett's case, to a can of kerosene.

Michael Montlack's Lambda Literary Award nominated anthology My Diva: 65 Gay Men on the Women Who Inspire Them features personal essays of gay writers about the women in their lives who inspired them. What diva inspires you?

SOURCE: RAYMOND'S GAY LIFE BLOG 

¡NO RIGHT TO SLEEP!

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I have no right to sleep as long as the people are not masters of their own destiny - Patrice Lumumba Congo My Country

LET'S TALK ABOUT THE "MAN-SHAKE"

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According to Urban Dictionary a MAN-SHAKE is described as: A very masculine handshake, using a lumberjack-strength squeeze and a swift, firm up and down pumping action. Now you would think that all this man-on-man action would be easy for me, but it is not! When I go to the barber or meet a hetero-male and we greet each other, I just extend my hand to meet his and let him do all the work. I mean c’mon I don’t the rituals of hetero-men, all I know is that when I greet a homosexual male, we hug or give each other huge greetings. Now I have to deal with the MAN-SHAKE as if we don’t have enough things to deal with as gay men.

WORLD AIDS DAY 2010

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SO I GOT THE FOLLOWING E-MAIL FROM A CO-WORKER OF MINE:

Hello All,

We continue our AIDS Awareness campaign and hope that you will be able to participate in one of the following events.

World AIDS Day Events 2010

1. Nov 20th Red Ribbon Ball, Atlantis Resort, $200.00/person, contact Melanie

    Hutchinson, Colina Ins., 308 East Bay Street, 396-2160

2. Nov 26th T-shirt Day, t-shirts on sale at AIDS Foundation office, $10.00, 325-9326

3. Nov 27th Fun Run /Walk, 6:30am, Arawak Cay to Goodman’s Bay back to Arawak

    Cay, registration $15.00 (includes t-shirt and red wrist band), Registration Forms, contact 325-9326.

4. Nov 29-Dec 3rd, “Combating HIV/AIDS through a Culture of Reading”, all Grade 6

    students throughout the Bahamas will have read to them by Guest Readers) or will read

    the same book “Under the Calabash Tree”. Interested in being a Guest Reader? Contact

    the AIDS Foundation office 325-9326.

5. Wednesday Dec 1st (World AIDS Day)  Human Red Ribbon, Clifton Heritage NationalPark, 9:30am,

6. Wednesday Dec 1st (World AIDS Day)  Church Service, Sacred Heart, Shirley Street,1-2pm

...& THIS WAS HIS RESPONSE:

Sacred heart is holding "Gay Day" Mass!..............that's my church for those of you who do not know!

The horror of it all!

WHAT SHOULD MY RESPONSE BE?

¡AIN'T NOTHING LIKE THE REAL THING!

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Often in our lives, we fall prey to the idea of a thing rather than actually experiencing the thing itself, and when it comes to religion, I feel like this holds true. I often wonder how persons can ‘speak in tongues’ then use that VERY same tongue to spew hate @ another person. I LOVE how the pursuit of God is laden with SO much pomp and pageantry that does NOT lead those involved to an authentic experience of him/her.

12th ANNUAL TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE (TDOR)

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“Those who cannot remember the past are doomed to repeat it”

-George Santayana

The quote is found on the homepage of the Transgender Organization’s site and all over informational materials pertaining to the 12th Annual International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR).

Supporting organizations across the globe are holding candlelight vigils, seminars and workshops dealing with LGBT issues, film screenings, live concerts, dinners and other events to raise awareness and commemorate the transgendered victims who have suffered from hate crime and prejudice.

This day is held in November to honor Rita Hester,  whose murder on November 28th, 1998 was the start of the “Remembering Our Dead”web project – Rita’s murder (like many other murders of transgender people) has yet to be solved.

To see a full listing of organized events in your area, visit www.transgender.org.

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: YES BELIEVE IT OR NOT I AM GAY!

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WHEN I READ THIS ENTRY & THINK BACK TO THE PERSON I WAS @ THE VARIOUS STAGES OF MY LIFE, I JUST SMILE. I SMILE BECAUSE OF WHERE I CAME FROM; WHERE I AM NOW & WHERE I AM GOING. I THINK ABOUT MY LIFE & HOW I HAVE A WONDERFUL MAN THAT I LOVE & HOW SO MANY PERSONS FROM MY PAST ARE LOST BECAUSE THEY DIDN’T GO WITHIN. THIS LIFE THAT I LIVE BRINGS ME SUCH JOY THAT THE SAD/BAD TIMES JUST WASH OVER ME. I’VE COME FULL CIRCLE & I NEVER LET PEOPLE MAKE ME FEEL LIKE BEING GAY IS SOMETHING BAD THAT I WILL BE PUNISHED FOR.

¿AGREE OR DISAGREE?

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"If the present generation of whites would study their own race in the light of their true history, they would be anti-white themselves." Elijah Muhammad

¿WHO IS DOING THE WORK?

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I GOT THIS E-MAIL & I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS:

¿IS IT HUMAN NATURE TO BE NEGATIVE?

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Our perception of humanity as a whole is, to a large extent, twofold. We paint people with a broad brush…some are like us, sharing our opinions and our attitudes, while others are different. The thoughts we choose to embrace is often so strong that we are easily convinced that our way is the right way. Every human being has been blessed with a unique nature that cannot be altered by outside forces, but I find myself sometimes wondering if that is REALLY the case! What makes an individual feel SO strongly about something/someone they don’t know? I base this question on fact that we humans praise celebrities, athletes, clergy men and the like, but moment they do something or is attached to something that fails…Doesn’t it almost feel like we are too happy when failure finds these people?

NO FEMS, NO QUEENS...

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I KNOW THAT WE'VE HEARD THIS BEFORE, BUT SOMETHING ABOUT THIS PROFILE ON A4A JUST STRUCK ME! I COULD HELP BUT WONDER IF IN THIS MAN'S MIND IF HE THOUGHT THAT FEMININE MEN AREN'T REAL PEOPLE...WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS? IS THIS PROFILE A PURE EXAMPLE OF WHAT IS WRONG WITH US/OR IS HE MERELY EXPRESSING WHAT HE WANTS FROM THIS SITE?

¿WHAT IS IT ABOUT McDONALDS & BLACK AMERICANS?

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So I am watching the other day and a commercial came on, it was McDonald's Ad. Now I've many over the years, but something hit me, WHY DOES mcDONALD'S ALWAYS FEATURE BLACK AMERICANS? But I have to give it to the fine folks @ McDonald’s; in these trying economic times, they prove their marketing savvy by creating some of the most catchy, stereotypical commercials to keep Black folks coming back for more McRibs and Fruit & Yogurt Parfaits[1]. Case in point is the latest installment in their “R&B McNuggets” series, which combines three things Negroes simply can not resist: Chicken, R&B Music, and Lightskinnded Women. Witness this…

This is one of the stupidest commercials I have ever seen. Why are these people singing about McNuggets? Do black people sing about everything? This chicken seduction is over the top even for MickieDs. Tell me what you think? Don't commercials like this FURTHER segregate the black community in America by portraying McDonald's as the the next place after the barbershop and beauty salon to be? 

"WORK-OUT" WITH NELLY

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SO I AM IN THE BARBER SHOP YESTERDAY & THE AD CAME ON FOR NELLY'S NEW WORK-OUT DVD. NOW I DIDN'T THINK MUCH OF IT UNTIL THE MEN IN SHOP STARTED HATING ON THE AD SAYING THINGS LIKE WTF? & WHO IS THIS REALLY FOR ? THEY ALL CHIMED IN SAYING, 'WHAT MAN IS GOING TO BUY A DVD WITH NELLY BAREBACK ON THE COVER?' SO THAT GOT ME TO THINKING, THIS VIDEO IS OBVIOUSLY FOR MEN & IF THE 'STRAIGHT' MEN IN THE BARBER SHOP HAD A PROBLEM SUPPORTING HIM, WHO IS HE MARKETING HIMSELF TO? OF COURSE THEY WERE QUICK TO POINT OUT THAT ONLY SOFT MEN WOULD SUPPORT HIM. DO YOU AGREE? DO YOU THINK THE MEN IN THE BARBER SHOP HAVE A POINT? WHY OR WHY NOT?

¡PRAYER ISN'T ASKING!

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Prayer is affirmation of the positive. Prayer needs no words, and is not from the mind. Praying that ‘our football team is going to win’ is pure nonsense hyperbole! Praying for the enemy is as valid as praying for your own victory. Inconsequential! Belief is a bastardization of ‘knowing what you know’. Prayer that comes out of belief is at best ‘cute’, or a sadly misplaced use of a very powerful method to filter out the negative so the positive can flow freely in.

HOLD ON

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"Hold On" was the debut single from En Vogue's debut album Born to Sing. "Hold On" was also the groups first single, reaching number one on the Hot Black Singles chart ^[2]. The single became one of 1990's biggest hits in the US and a major hit also in the UK (#2 in the US, #5 in the UK). It also reached #1 on the U.S. Dance chart ^[3]. The song opens with an acappella rendition of the Motown standard "Who's Lovin' You", written by Smokey Robinson and originally recorded by his group, The Miracles. It features Cindy Herron on lead but Terry Ellis on the introduction. The song also contains a guitar sample from "The Payback" by James Brown.

They performed this song at the 2008 BET Awards along with Alicia Keys

The song's chorus was used and performed by Pharrell in the 2007 Jay-Z song "Blue Magic".

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: SIP SIP (THERE GOES THE PEANUT GALLERY)

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I FIND IT SO INTERESTING THAT THIS ENTRY BECAUSE THE RELATIONHSHIP DID COME TO BE. THE YOUNG MAN I WAS DATING, TOOK THE THINGS PEOPLE SAID ABOUT HIM AND PRETTY MUCH LIVED THEM. EVERY SO OFTEN I WOULD SEE HIM & IT HURTS MY SOUL BECAUSE I CAN SEE THE SADNESS AND PAIN IN HIS EYES. I HOPE THAT ONE DAY THE THINGS PEOPLE SAY ABOUT HIM WOULDN’T MATTER SO MUCH.

AS IT SHOULD BE...

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Life is double-sided; there’s a wrong side and a right side; a sad side and a happy side. There’s a good side and a bad side; a black side and a bright side. So when things seem dark to me, I just change my thoughts about; and I’ve come to see that life looks quite different if you turn it best side out. We face today an unprecedented set of problems in the world; and we stand @ the abyss, as the steadily approaching threshold of unimaginable chaos, calamity, death and destruction finds us one by one. I do believe that there exists a lasting solution to these issues facing us. This solution came to me via Bishop Carlton Pearson and he said, “I think the universe it not judging, but correcting itself and we're having to confront these issues."

¡LOVE MYSELF FOR HATING YOU!

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I am sure we all know the feeling of being repeatedly haunted by the same issue, no matter how much we wish for it go away. The more we push away, the more we get pushed back. There are laws of physics and metaphysics that explain this phenomenon, which is often summed up in this brief phrase: That which you resist persists. And this phrase is SO very true for folks that I work with. They give the ‘office poli~tricks of everyday living’ the merit to support a way of living that follows what one has learned from childhood and the general culture around them. They smile with each other, but tear the other down when he is not around. They make good money, yet it never seems to be enough and to top all this off, they HATE the boss with a passion!

4 STEPS TO TAKE WHEN YOU KNOW YOU'RE WRONG

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There comes a time in every relationship when words start flying. Those times when, in the heat of the argument, you don’t recognize yourself or your partner. Within a matter of seconds you go from zero to sixty and truly show your crazy side, saying and doing things you know you shouldn't and that you know you'll regret later. But no matter the situation, what’s done is done. After the argument, when you and your partner are both back in character, it's what you do next that can either make or break your relationship: either  forgive, learn and laugh; or damage things to the point of no return. After an argument, it doesn’t matter whether you thought you meant what you said or if you admit it was said out of anger. The only thing that matters now is that you know you were wrong and you’re ready to fix the damage you caused. 

FULL DISCLOSURE: WHAT OUR NAMES REVEAL

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What’s in a name? Plenty, at least if you care about race, socioeconomic status, and educational background. That’s according to Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner, whose chapter in their best-selling Freakonomics, “Perfect Parenting, Part II; or: Would a Roshanda by Any Other Name Smell as Sweet?” examines the socioeconomic patterns of naming children from the 1960s to today. In typical style, Levitt and Dubner look to answer the question beyond the question; most statistics about naming are about observing trends, but what does it really mean for a name to be popular? 

A FATHER'S LOVE...

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THIS VIDEO WAS BROUGHT TO MY ATTENTION & I THOUGHT I'D SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS. CAN YOU IMAGINE BEING IN THIS GUY'S SHOES? WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE? DID HE MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE?

¡G'MORNING!

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¿HOW ABOUT 1 MORE 4 THE ROAD?

LIFE IS A CIRCLE...

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“…EVERYTHING AN INDIAN DOES IS IN A CIRCLE, & THAT IS BECAUSE THE POWER OF THE WORLD ALWAYS WORKS IN CIRCLES, & EVERYTHING TRIES TO BE ROUND…THE SKY IS ROUND…& SO ARE ALL THE STARS. THE WIND, IN ITS GREATEST POWER, WHIRLS. BIRDS MAKE THEIR NESTS IN CIRCLES, FOR THEIRS IS THE SAME RELIGION AS OUR…EVEN THE SEASONS FORM A GREAT CIRCLE IN THEIR CHANGING, & ALWAYS COME BACK AGAIN TO WHERE THEY WERE. THE LIFE OF A MAN IS A CIRCLE FROM CHILDHOOD TO CHILDHOOD, & SO IT IS IN EVERYTHING WHERE POWER MOVES.” – BLACK ELK

ANGEL OF MINE

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The song came to American fame when R&B singer Monica covered the song (with altered lyrics) and released it as the third single from her second studio album The Boy Is Mine (1998), following the successful chart performances of previous single "The First Night," the song reached #1 on the Billboard Hot 100.

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: ¿WTF IS DATING?

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THIS ENTRY MAKES ME SMILE BECAUSE THINKING ABOUT MY PAST & THE MEN THAT ASSUMED CERTAIN ABOUT WHAT WE WERE DOING WHEN WE CLEARLY AGREED ON WHAT WAS/IS GOING ON JUST MAKES ME SMILE. IT IS SO AMAZING HOW QUICKLY WE LABEL ANOTHER OUR THIS OR THAT & IN MOST CASES IT EVEN MORE AMAZING HOW WE SKIP DATING ALL TOGETHER & JUST SLIDE RIGHT INTO A RELATIONSHIP. NONETHELESS, I THINK THAT WE NEED TO HAVE A  CLEAR UNDERSTANDING OF OURSELVES BEFORE WE ATTEMPT THE COURTSHIP PROCESS. WHEN I DATED & IT WAS MORE THAN ONE GUY @ A TIME (OF COURSE THEY KNEW ABOUT IT) I DID WHAT OTHERS CONSIDERED WHORE-ISH, BUT I SAW/SEE IT AS AN IMPORTANT STEP IN FINDING THAT ONE SPECIAL PERSON. 

How does one decipher what DATING is when we live in world where the UNSPOKEN carries a lot of power? DATING is supposed to afford us the opportunity to COURT and GET TO KNOW an individual whose COMMON interest is each other. Yet what many of us call DATING is actually NOT and we are so far from the concept that it makes me want to SCREAM! So If DATING is, any SOCIAL ACTIVITY performed as a pair or even a group with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP or as a SPOUSE and the word refers to the act of agreeing on a time and "date" when a pair can meet and engage in some social activity; ¿WTF IS DATING? 

REMEMBER, REMEMBER THE 5th OF NOVEMBER

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Beneath this mask there is more than flesh. 

Beneath this mask there is an idea, 

Mr. Creedy, and ideas are bulletproof. - 

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The Gunpowder Treason and plot;

I see of no reason why Gunpowder Treason

Should ever be forgot.

¿R 2 HEADS BETTER THAN 1?

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2 HEADS...

¿OR?

...1

¡LABELS, LABELS, LABELS!

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LABELS ARE FILING. LABELS ARE FOR CLOTHING. LABEL ARE NOT FOR PEOPLE. - MARTINA NAVRATILOVA

¡POLLS DO NOT VOTE, PEOPLE DO!

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A woman in a hot air balloon realized she was lost.

She lowered her altitude and spotted a man in a boat below. She shouted to him, "Excuse me, can you help me? I promised a friend I would meet him an hour ago, but I don't know where I am." The man consulted his portable GPS and replied, "You're in a hot air balloon, approximately 30 feet above ground elevation of 2,346 feet above sea level. You are at 31 degrees, 14.97 minutes north latitude and 100 degrees, 49.09 minutes west longitude.

She rolled her eyes and said, "You must be an Obama Democrat."

"I am," replied the man. "How did you know?"

"Well," answered the balloonist, "everything you told me is technically correct. But I have no idea what to do with your information, and I'm still lost. Frankly, you've not been much help to me."

The man smiled and responded, "You must be a Republican."

"I am," replied the balloonist. "How did you know?"

"Well," said the man, "you don't know where you are -- or where you are going. You've risen to where you are, due to a large quantity of hot air. You made a promise you have no idea how to keep, and you expect me to solve your problem. 
You're in exactly the same position you were in before we met, but somehow, now it's my fault."

¿WHY SO ROUGH ON A 'BOTTOM'?

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To us gay men being called ‘a big ole bottom’ is usually a put-down in the form of joke. Imagine being @ a club and resident drag queen working the crowd picks out an audience member and asks, ‘are you a top or a bottom?” And before her target has gotten two words out, she howls, “Bottom!” The essence of the joke is: Don’t kid yourself, honey. Nobody thinks you’re a man; you’re just a big girl. Now imagine that very same man approaching you with a come on like, ‘what time is it?’ So you look @ your wrist but you can tell for some reason or another that he's not interested in the time, he wants to F&CK! You're not TOO keen on getting with him because he was in the spotlight and you’d consider fooling around with him if it wasn’t SO obvious what role he would play sexually but...Isn’t it something how most guys that take on the role as a bottom would say that it is one of THE PRIME JOYS OF A GAY MAN’S SEX LIFE? They make it the center of their erotic universe no matter how you want it serve. However, if one were to do a survey on how gay men feel about taking a dick, most would make you feel as if you asked them if they have HIV or something because in the gay community taking a dick is the last thing most gay men want to admit they do.

But why is that? Why is there shame attached to bottoming? I know that there are MANY myths and fears about anal sex, and it’s normal to feel them, but…Humans are the only animal that can face each other in sex. I think we have this ability so we can create a potential bond. Do you think we as gay men could ever have sex with each other without the psychological pleasure n’ pain attached? To see another gay man as less than because you ‘top’ him sexually means we are making something that is natural, feel unnatural. If we continue to believe that the only REAL man is the one who gets hard and does the work, then that keeps the fear I’m not a man ALIVE! Condemning a gay man for ‘bottoming’ causes repression that will seep out into the community in less than desirable ways that only agitate our psyche; and I find it SO stupid to bask in pleasure of ‘topping’ a ‘bottom’ only to hand out shame as soon as you ejaculate.

¡G'MORNING NOVEMBER!

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EVEN IF SOMETHING IS LEFT UNDONE, EVERYONE MUST TAKE TIME TO SIT STILL & WATCH THE LEAVES TURN. - ELIZABETH LAWRENCE