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Showing posts with label JUS TELL ME. Show all posts

Monday 05 November 2012

¿R U BARACKING THE VOTE?






















¿Will you be voting for President Obama? 














¿Why or why not? 

Wednesday 26 September 2012

Tuesday 18 September 2012

WE CARRY THE SCARS: ¿HAVE YOU EVER FELT GUILTY FOR LEAVING THE HOOD?


For those of us who grew up in not-so-nice neighborhoods across urban America, we walked a tight rope. While we tried to sidestep the traps that commonly brought down our peers, we often dreamed of getting out and living a life that wasn’t plagued by crime and limited options.
However, for those of us who managed to rise above the traps and distractions to go to school or build a life that afforded us some semblance of success, we often left, only returning to visit our peers and family members who were left behind.
But make no mistake, we carry the scars. And our “hood pass” gleams like a badge of honor, showing that we were tough enough and smart enough to make it, but still very real.
I hadn’t given much thought to the scars and guilt many of us who grew up in urban areas carry in a while until I saw a clip of Lupe Fiasco breaking down on MTV. During the clip, Sway replays an interview he did with Lupe six years ago, in which he introduced viewers to the rapper’s neighborhood and many of his friends.
After they traveled back down memory lane, Lupe was visibly emotional and cried about the “ghosts” he saw onscreen, those people who are now dead, killed before their lives really had the chance to begin.
During the interview Lupe explained that while he’s from the ’hood, he hates what it stands for—violence, inequality, a lack of options. Like many of us who grew up in troubled neighborhoods, we recognize the lessons we learned there, but knew the world was so much more than our blocks. So we left.
I’ve often felt bad for leaving. As someone who cares about black folks, both locally and globally, I’ve had dreams of moving back and helping to revive the ’hood, perhaps open a bookstore or a community center. But then reality sets in. I’m only one woman with a young, black son I need to protect, and moving to any area where my son’s life is treated as expendable just doesn’t seem like a prudent thing to do.
So what’s left for those of us who have moved on up like the Jeffersons?
Do we simply look back on our early years as hard-earned memories, or do we try to give back in meaningful ways despite not living in day-to-day conditions of the ’hood?
I’m willing to wager it will take more than a few of us who have made it not only to give back, but also to move back, raising the boats of those around us.
So, who wants to go first?

Tuesday 21 August 2012

¿ARE YOU THE ANGRY BLACK WO/MAN THEY ANTICIPATE?


As a wo/man of ‘color’, what do you do when you go to a restaurant for a nice lunch and find  something out of the ordinary in your salad? With many of us not into the taste of insects, hair et al, being in our food, as a person of ‘color’, how do you react when the waiter approaches you with fear and a defensive tone but is not apologetic?
Do you replay the situation in your head to see if you would be confrontational? If you are the type who doesn’t yell or argue @ the drop of a dime, how do you handle situations where the other party expects you to neck swerve or finger wag or deliver any other threatening motion that the ‘black’ stereotype suggests we would?
I know some people expect us to be sassy or combative, and they react accordingly before we even have the opportunity to prove otherwise. Because this is more than just the issue of being prejudged, but about having our grievances taken seriously and addressed accordingly, I decided that this entry would be timely. If someone has automatically dismissed you as being an angry black wo/man just for having a complaint, then they have probably dismissed your complaint as well, right?
Have you ever found yourself acting passively just to avoid appearing like a stereotype?  If so, how do you navigate the fine line between self advocacy and being perceived to be angry? How do you express your concerns vigilantly while still being taken seriously?

Thursday 12 July 2012

¿CAN YOU DATE A FINANCIALLY CHALLENGE MAN?


Do not date a man who is not happy with his job. Do not date a man who feels inadequate about his ability to provide. Do not date a man who [insert something that says the man has not reached is idea of financial stability]. These are just a few pieces of advice given to me when I was 'looking' for a partner. The connections between manhood and money are always a topic.
How many times have you heard a guy say they aren’t looking for anything serious until something changes in their financial life? I know a number of guys who took dating sabbaticals until their money was straight. Would you forego dinners, nice clothes, jewelry etc. until he has more money in the bank? 
Are you putting off dating until he gets his money is right?

Thursday 29 March 2012

COUPLES FIGHT: ¿HOW DO YOU CHOOSE SIDES?


Couples fight — it’s just a fact of life and it is hard to sit there and just nod when a man you’ve known for a long time struggle with his relationship with another man who you genuinely care about.
What do you do when they are both explaining all of the things the other is doing wrong and you completely identify with the issues?
How do you maintain your sanity when there’s a rift between a couple you care about? 

Thursday 22 March 2012

¿TRENDS?

Dead is the new unambiguous.


Bipolar is the new undecided.


Heavily armed is the new born again.


Bald is the new head... and the new crotch.


Hairy is the new face.


Sheepishly admitting to having an STD is the new flirting.


Purell is the new face of fear.


Finding the time that's right for you is the new impotence.


The smiley-face emoticon is the new "sincerely yours."


Smoking is the new outdoorsy lifestyle.


Looking forward to insanely expensive private schooling, thousand dollar a week nannies and soccer is the new yuppie birth control.


Misinformed is the new patriotic.


Veganism is the new "tastes like chicken."


Serotonin uptake inhibiting is the new crowd control.


Texting is the new talking.


Talking is the new singing.


Singing is the new hubris.


Gay marriage is the new "be careful what you wish for."


And finally, and only because I really need this to catch on, fifty-seven years old is the new forty-five.

by
CHUCK LORRE

Thursday 15 March 2012

¿COULD YOU GO A YEAR WITHOUT A MIRROR?


As humans we deal with body issues on a regular basis.  From the images in media to the ideas we have of how we feel we should look, it can be tough to accept one’s self as is.  We pick apart our bodies, our hair, our clothes, never feeling that we are truly good or beautiful enough. 

While I’ve never counted how many times a day I’ve looked in a mirror to fix my hair, check for shine or pick my teeth (don’t judge me!), I do know that I am one of millions who look in the mirror from time to time and see things I could “fix” and often wonder what it would be like to not have that issue. So with that said, could you go mirror-free for a year?

Thursday 08 March 2012

¿CAN BEING TOO GOOD A FRIEND THREATEN YOUR FRIENDSHIP?


Would you consider it your duty as a friend to let a friend know that his man is betraying him or would you stay out of it and hope that he will figure it out eventually?

Some may argue that it depends on how close your friendship is since that will be your way of deciphering what your scorned friend’s reaction will be to the bad news. But do you want to be the middle man in such a scenario? It’s never easy to watch someone you care about ignorantly blissful of potentially devastating news, but it may not work in your favor to include yourself in the equation either.

In most cases your friend already have some inkling that their relationship is not on solid ground but they need that vital evidence to help confirm their nagging suspicions.

What do you think? Is it best to play the supporting role when all hell breaks loose or would you willingly be an accessory to your friend’s dissolved relationship?

Wednesday 01 February 2012

FEBRUARY 2012...




¿WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS?


Wednesday 25 January 2012

DO YOU BELIEVE IN "GAY" LOVE?


Do you believe in "GAY" love?

Tuesday 24 January 2012

¿CAN ONE STILL BE CONSIDERED "GAY" IF...?


Can one still be considered "GAY" if he has NO attraction to women and is ONLY attracted to men , but he never acts on the attraction?

Friday 11 November 2011

11.11.11...


¿HOW DO YOU INTERPRET IT?

Tuesday 23 August 2011

SCHEDULING BLOG ENTRIES...

IS ANYONE HAVE ISSUES SCHEDULING BLOG ENTRIES?

Wednesday 17 August 2011

¿WHY AREN'T AMERICANS MOVING?




Polls consistently show that fewer than half of Americans approve of the job that President Obama is doing, and those ratings are far higher than Congress or either political party receives. Unemployment remains stubbornly above 9 percent. There is plenty of anger in America today: anger about joblessness across the nation, about cutbacks in services in the states, about increased tuition at our universities, about economic and political inequality that seems to be increasing, and at a government that seems unable to do anything about any of this. Where are the people taking to the streets?


The closest thing to a strong social movement in the United States in recent years has been the tea party, and it demands that government do less. Lately, we hear about the tea party largely from members of Congress and candidates for office, who have drowned out and replaced the activists at the grass roots. This is largely because although movements carry anger, anger doesn’t make a movement — organizers do. Anger helps, of course; it’s a resource that organizers can stoke, channel and exploit.

Although saints and psychopaths will take great risks in the service of their beliefs, most people are a little more calculating. People protest when they believe that something is wrong, that it could be otherwise, and that their efforts are both necessary and potentially effective. SO WHY AREN’T AMERICANS MOVING?


Thursday 04 August 2011

TORMENTED BY...


Lately I’ve been thinking about the folks that are ‘tormented’. The ones that think they are tormented because they think they have a ‘tormentor’. They cannot think of a scenario wherein they leave their ‘tormentor’ and thus ends their ‘torment’. They think their only path to serenity is to destroy their ‘tormentor’. They think the appropriate weapon to accomplish this task is to tear down their ‘tormentor’.

This got me to thinking that perhaps thinking was the real source of their ‘torment’ is my humanity. But how can that be? Don't ‘they’ value humanity? How can this element that separates us from the animals be deemed a curse by those who feel ‘tormented’ by me? Isn't the alternative to humanity, inhumanity? Is there another alternative to give relief to my ‘tormentees’? Ask yourself this question, "What do you do when you’ve above and beyond to show others the human side of your humanity and they just feel ‘tormented’ by you?" 

Wednesday 13 July 2011

¿ARE YOU HONORING YOUR BLOG CONTRACT?

I believe that there is an unspoken contract between those who blog and those who read blogs. That contract states that in exchange for the reader’s time and attention, he or she will experience the simple joy of life. Anything less constitutes a breach of contract. I think we bloggers have worked VERY hard to hold up our end of the bargain. We hope you've laughed, screamed, cried and all that GOOD stuff. We certainly have.

For those of you who have not fully given us your time and attention, we would expect you to do better in the future. Talking to bloggers via FACEBOOK, YIM, MSN and other chat devices about visiting their blogs and NOT doing it, means you're not really holding up your end of the contract. How about you keep your partner, family AND friends wait? Tell them to write blogs to communicate with you. Needless to say, all phones must be shut off and toilet visits are allowed only if you have a laptop or a device that allows you read blogs.

If the above demands seem onerous, please keep in mind that we have entered into an unspoken comedy contract. Failure on the part of either party to comply with its terms will result in…DO WE REALLY WANT TO FIND OUT?

Thursday 16 June 2011

IF WE ARE TRULY INDIVIDUALS...

We’re all born sexual beings. I am someone with a very lofty libido. I require both companionship and sex for happiness. I am  a one man's man and I need a partner I can depend on, that I can love and grow with. But I what about men that have a need to chase? You know the ones that just won't be satisfied being a one man, man. If we’re all truly individuals, then what works for one in a relationship isn’t necessarily going to work another.
¿WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON IT BEING MAN'S NATURE TO CHEAT?

Wednesday 18 May 2011

¿HOW ABOUT THAT 'AMERICAN DREAM'?

The American Dream is a national ethos of the United States in which freedom includes a promise of the possibility of prosperity and success. In the definition of the American Dream by James Truslow Adams in 1931, "life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement" regardless of social class or circumstances of birth.[1] The idea of the American Dream is rooted in the United States Declaration of Independence which proclaims that "all men are created equal" and that they are "endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable Rights" including "Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."

¿WHAT DOES THE AMERICAN DREAM MEAN TO YOU?

Tuesday 10 May 2011

SAGGING: BUBBLICIOUS ¿OR? TACKY

DO YOU FIND SAGGING TO BE BUBBLICIOUS ¿OR? TACKY. WHY ¿OR? WHY NOT

Wednesday 30 March 2011

¿WHAT MAKES A HOT GUY?

We all know that when it comes to taste there is nothing written in stone. Everyone has their tastes in men and of course this is what makes the world go round. If everyone found the same type of guy hot, well then it would be pretty boring! Variety is the spice of life.

We have talked about the hottest part of a man but we have never really explored exactly what makes a man hot. Is it really his personality, his eyes, the way he speaks, how he smells, how his breath smells, how hairy his chest is? What could it be? Seriously the list could go on and on. After having our competition every Friday to find our hunk of spunk we can honestly say that there is a guy out there for EVERY ONE!
So what you think makes a guy hot?

SOURCE: MAN CENTRAL 

¿WHY ARE STRAIGHT WOMEN LESS LIKELY TO FORGIVE HUBANDS WHO CHEAT WITH OTHER MEN ?

If you found out your partner is cheating on you, are you going to call the whole thing off? The chances of you doing so depend if a man or a woman. And if your partner screwed around in a straight or gay way. Straight guys are more likely to stick things out if their girlfriends get it on with a lady; but if it's a heterosexual affair, that's when they're ending things. But straight chicks are more likely to end things if they find out their man snuck away with another dude. That's all according to psychologists Jaime Confer of the University of Texas and Mark Cloud of Lock Haven University, in new research published in Personality and Individual Differences. Overall, men are more likely to find cheating inexcusable.

Monday 14 March 2011

¿CAN YOU HELP ME?

I KNOW THAT YOU'VE SEEN THIS POP AS MY BLOG & I'VE TRIED TO FIND THE SOURCE, CAN YOU HELP?

Wednesday 09 March 2011

COCK SIZE: DO YOU LIE ABOUT YOURS?

Lying about cock size has almost become an expected and assumed aspect of gay cyber culture. Most guys will round up to the next inch, stretch the measuring tape in creative ways, or simply add a couple of inches "for good measure." This is so common that guys will sometimes ask the question, is that seven real inches or seven internet inches? There's the guy who figures that once he meets up with the guy, maybe he won't really notice anyway. Then there's the guy who usually doesn't hook up, so he figures it doesn't really matter anyway…so why not attract as many guys as possible? Either way, lying about something so quickly provable definitely highlights our super-sized cultural obsession with penis size and one of our deepest-held insecurities as men. 

Sunday 30 January 2011

Friday 28 January 2011

THE WEEKEND IS HERE!

This weekend, I'm ready to _______.

Friday 21 January 2011

¿WHAT DO YOU DO?

DO WHEN YOU FEEL THAT...
¿DO YOU BLOG ANYWAY?

Wednesday 12 January 2011

4:53 PM


@ 4:53 PM HAITI GOT HIT WITH 7.0 EARTHQUAKE...WHERE WERE YOU WHEN YOU HEARD THE NEWS ABOUT THE EARTHQUAKE THAT ROCKED HAITI A YEAR AGO?

Monday 27 December 2010

THE HOLIDAY SEASON: THE GIFT THAT DOESN'T KEEP GIVING!

The holiday season, is usually the time for the GREATEST selfless acts on the planet, but why is it that as soon as January 2nd comes, it turns into something MUCH less? This season is not just about giving, but finding the freedoms within to free oneself from the need to fill the emptiness inside that we live with every day. All year, we have the opportunity to connect with others, to enhance the harmonious energy within each…yet for some reason or another we cannot extend ourselves - why is that?

Sunday 19 December 2010

¿WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A MAN IN THIS DAY & AGE?

For most men, being real about their innermost feelings is something that just isn’t that easy to do. Almost from birth, we are flooded with “lessons” about what it means to be a man. We are taught to “suck it up,” that “real men don’t cry,” and that the “tougher” you are, surely that must equate to the depth of our masculinity.


With notions such as these so deeply rooted within the spirit of a man, it is no wonder that so many men have such a tremendous amount of difficulty in being vulnerable, open, and honest in the expression of their deepest emotions. I LOVE being in the company of men (for obvious reasons) and I can't help but wonder what the gay and straight men in my midst think it means to be a man in this day and age. So I ask you, what does being a man mean to you?

Monday 13 December 2010

ISLAND HOUSE

Imagine….a place where everyone is gay….where it’s easy to make friends…. where you can really be yourself….where you can enjoy yourself 24 hours a day…..in a secure locked compound, safe from the outside world…. ” 
I CAME ACROSS THIS VIDEO & THOUGHT IT WAS VERY EROTIC, HOWEVER I COULDN'T HELP BUT WONDER IF THIS VIDEO MAKES GAY MEN WANT TO STAY @ THIS RESORT OR WATCH THESE TWO MEN GET IT ON. WHAT IS YOUR TAKE, DO THIS VIDEO MAKE YOU THINK, HEY I WANT TO GO TO THIS PLACE OR DO YOU WANT TO SEE THESE TWO F&CK EACH OTHER?

SOURCE: ISLAND HOUSE 

Wednesday 08 December 2010

¿TATTOO THIS?

We've seen our share of tattoos and some some are VERY sexy and others....well..... not so much. It got me thinking where do we Gays stand on tattoos? Do we LUV'em or do we hate them?
I think that it depends on the kind of tattoo you have really. I hate it when guys tattoo people's names or when they tattoo the face of someone on their arm or something tacky like that. Anything too big is a tad tacky and not really eye pleasing.  I  do like it, when they go for some sort of design or pattern that makes them look better and something that can actually add to the hotness not detract. That, I think is the key.
So when it comes to body ink, where do you stand? Do you have any tattoos that you wish you hadn't got? I'm personally too much of a pussy to go through the pain of getting one but I've heard that being drunk off your ass really numbs the pain! Let's hear it Gays! What do YOU Think?

SOURCE: MANCENTRAL

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