There's an old joke that goes, "There are two types of gay men: size queens and liars." But does that hold up, scientifically speaking?
A new study of sexually active students at the University of the West of Scotland suggests that while some women prefer guys with above-average penises, they may appreciate them in ways different from gay men.
Live Science explains:
In the new study, [psychology researcher] Brody and his colleagues asked 323 women, mostly Scottish university students, to recall past sexual encounters. They were asked about their recent sexual behaviors as well as how important penile-vaginal intercourse and other sex acts were to them. They were also asked whether penis length influenced their ability to orgasm with vaginal stimulation...
They found that 160 of the women experienced vaginal-only orgasms and had enough sexual partners to compare size experiences. Of these, 33.8 percent preferred longer-than-average penises [longer than six inches], 60 percent said size made no difference and 6.3 percent said longer was less pleasurable than shorter.
If gay men are anything like the women in this study, then almost two-thirds of us don't care how big your penis is. But for those of us nervous about whether we'd measure up to the remaining one-third who prefer above-average cocks, remember this—those women connected bigger cocks to their ability to achieve orgasm.
That is, larger penis size may matter when it comes to stimulating vaginal orgasms—something that even female sex researchers dispute. But seeing as most men don't have vaginas, gay men may be much less dependent on their partner's penis size to get off.
Can desirable physical attributes like a nice butt or large penis help a sexual partner reach climax? Absolutely. But in the gay world, most men climax due to manual or oral stimulation rather than so-called "anal orgasms" from bottoming.
So while a large penis may excite the size queens in all of us, it's just one factor of many that sets the stage for a satisfying sexual encounter.
You are much bigger than your penis, so don't forget the very important roles that charm, intelligence, emotional connection and seduction play in getting both you and your guy off... no matter your size.