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Thursday, 19 July 2012

THE BLACK SHEEP (ONE OF A KIND)


Many of us have had an experience in which we felt like the lone black sheep in a vast sea of white sheep. For some of us, however, this sense of not belonging runs more deeply and spans a period of many years. It is possible to feel like the black sheep in families and peer groups that are supportive, as well as in those that are not. Even if we receive no overt criticism regarding our values, there will likely be times when it seems that relatives and friends are humoring us or waiting for us to grow out of a phase. Sometimes we may even think we have been adopted because we are so different from our family members. These feelings are not a sign that we have failed in some way to connect with others. Rather, they should be perceived as the natural result of our willingness to articulate our individuality. 

Many black sheep respond to the separateness they feel by pulling back from the very people to whom they might otherwise feel closest and embracing a different group with whom they enjoy a greater degree of commonality. But if you feel that your very nature has set you apart from your peers and relatives, consider that you chose long ago to be raised by a specific family and to come together with specific people so that you could have certain experiences that would contribute to your ongoing evolution. You may be much more sensitive than the people around you or more artistic, aware, spiritual, or imaginative. The disparate temperament of your values and those of your family or peers need not be a catalyst for interpersonal conflict. If you can move beyond comparisons and accept these differences, you will come to appreciate the significant role your upbringing and socialization have played in your life's unique journey. 


In time, most black sheep learn to embrace their differences and be thankful for those aspects of their individuality that set them apart from others. We cannot expect that our peers and relatives will suddenly choose to embrace our values and offer us the precise form of support we need. But we can acknowledge the importance of these individuals by devoting a portion of our energy to keeping these relationships healthy while continuing to define our own identities apart from them.

8 comments:

  1. I feel that most of us experience the "black sheep syndrome" at least once during our lives. Whenever we express our individuality, we are vulnerable. Some of us are fortunate in learning, early in our lives, to be ourselves and not concerned with the reactions or thoughts of others, be they family or peers. Only when we discard the fear and judgments of others and are true to our own selves can we freely live and enjoy our own lives. Excellent article, my blogger brother. Very insightful! :)

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    1. Over the years I've come to embrace my inner black sheep, I find that it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

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  2. They say there's only three types of people in my family: the Normal ones, the Mean ones, and the Weird ones.

    I fall in the Weird category. I guess because I'm such an individual. Even when I was younger, I embraced anything I was interested in. Looking back, I was a painfully insecure kid. I wish I could tell me middle-school self that in fact "yes, it does get better. Soooooooo much better".

    -_Cogito

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    1. I am glad that you are here to reflect on your middle school days.

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  3. I am the royal fk up of the family.. always was, always will be and I dont give a rat's ass what they think..

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