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Tuesday, 17 April 2012

¿HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THE GAY 'GOLD DIGGER?'


There is a negative connotation associated with so-called “gold digging,” and in my opinion, unnecessarily so.
But why?

Is there anything really wrong with financial security being a pre-qualifier for your potential mate? Why is it wrong for your mate to be able to afford the finer things in the life (whatever the finer things in life may constitute for you)? I mean really, of all the wretched, repugnant, morally unscrupulous things to be in this world, why is being a “gold digger” looked upon as an ignoble characteristic?

It takes an immense amount of talent to be skilled at this practice. Successful gold diggers must be charming, stunning, savvy, good in bed, strategic, have the ability to make a man feel good about himself by dangling on his arm and assuaging his ego. And let’s be real, it’s not as easy as it looks, so why should you not be compensated for your proficiencies?

A problematic misnomer about gold diggers is that they have no ambition or are lazy. People often claim they are not intelligent or ‘have their own.’ But this is not entirely true. There are many gay men who subscribe to this way of being because they are of a certain economic status themselves and consider it ass backwards to be in a relationship with a partner that brings less to the table.

My philosophy on this subject is this: if you’re going to dig it may as well be for some treasure!


What are your thoughts? Is gold digging immoral or a valued skill set? 

20 comments:

  1. There's nothing wrong with seeking your equal, but Gold diggers are looking for a come up using someone else's status and money.

    I see these young gay dudes living off these older dudes and it disgusts me to honest. I can't respect any man that would rather sponge off another man OR woman than go and get it himself.

    I don't like taking anything for anyone so I could never be a gold digger. There's nothing like having your own.

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    1. What disgust me the most about the ones that are just doing it for all the wrong reasons is the FACT that many of them are beyond the age of just dating to get a car, trips n' clothes

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    2. I see nothing wrong if everyone is on the same page. Hey, if some guy is older and rich enough to pay for it, I'm pretty sure he is under no delusions that it is about money. I think if you are in a relationship for money, they make sure you earn every dime.

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    3. I ALWAYS tell gay men, KNOW who you are, WHAT you are about and BE the best you can @ whatever you are doing.

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  2. Some men are just materialistic by nature. Some men are just practical. If the partnership arrangement is mutually acceptable for both, then I see no problem. Different men have different priorities. As long as they're both happy.

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    1. As long as everyone is on the up and up, I am cool.

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  3. I think money is just a dynamic in the relationship. If you go around focused on money you will end up with someone after your looks, and get dumped to the side when you age and someone better looking and new comes along. In the mean time, the older rich guy is getting what he is paying for. In terms of long term, if you live together and share expenses is it every truly 100% 50/50? Right now my bf pays most of our living expenses, because he makes a hell of a lot more money, and I am saving for another 4 years in school. Does that make me a gold-digger, or does that just make us a couple trying to plan out our future? The only ones who know that is him and me. People are always going to talk about motives, but the only ones who know what each other are getting out of a relationship are the ones in it. And if they are satisfied, it is really no one elses business.

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    1. Noel said to me a while back that he knows folks are saying he is using me because he wasn't working for most of our relationship, but I tell him dude, we know what is going on here.

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    2. Yeah, but still knowing that other people see you as a user and your partner as some dillusional moron can make you feel very uncomfortable.

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    3. Yeah it can, but I do my best NOT to let them in my relationship.

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  4. I suspect that there is generally an element of 'sour grapes' amongst the have-nots who look down on those who have lots and know how to use their assets to the upmost.

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  5. I'm told the gay version of a gold digger is a gay-digger!

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  6. I won't judge a man's desires and the relationship they are going after though I have been targeted by both kinds, gold diggers and gold givers, who were for one part only interested in my wallet and on the other part only wanted to possess me, body and mind, to satisfy their needs for their sexual frustration and have control over my mind as if their age gave them any kind of superiority, both intellectual and sexual. I will never accept anything else in a relationship than equality, respect, duality, integrity and support. Anything else wouldn't be enough for me. I'd rather spending the rest of my life alone than sharing a life with somebody who doesn't share these values.

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    1. Reading your comment brought back memories. Seems as if we both had the same experience and have the same values for a relationship.

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  7. Its not love or respect when a guy thinks that his "stuff" is worth all the money he can get for it and such relationships often never ends well. No matter how hard life is its best to be on equal footing in a relationship, there is far less drama if you should part ways.

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    1. That's always been my thought, but I do understand why others would not want the financial struggle of life.

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  8. Whatever rocks your boat, I suppose. And it does help to see the wealth as "ours" - regardless of who has more or brings more.

    Besides, there's always financial struggle. It's just at different levels. You fuss over bigger things when you make more money. :)

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    1. That's how I see it in my relationship.

      I can imagine the things folks with money grapple with.

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