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Wednesday, 09 September 2009

BEING HAPPY FOR OTHERS…

It has been said that people enrich our lives in SO many ways. Through a magical combination of similarities and differences, we offer each other the opportunity to know ourselves as we help each other grow into who we want to be. Our similarities attract us to each other, comforting us with familiarity when we see ourselves in one another. So that means we UNCONSCIOUSLY acknowledge that we are each other’s mirrors…reflecting ourselves back to us. But I often wonder what is reflected back when an individual says they are HAPPY for whatever good thing happens to someone while wishing it were them instead? Can one TRULY be HAPPY for another even if they aren’t HAPPY for themselves? I feel that we all want to be the kind of people who are happy for others when they experience success or a cause for celebration in their lives, but it isn’t always easy…is it? I mean if you are single N’ fed up with men (relationships) and I go on and on about my relationship with Noel, do you really wish us well each and every time you say it? Do some POWERFUL, DARK FEELINGS come up @ times when decorum dictates that you should be feeling the opposite? Do you feel like reaching out N’ celebrating for us…OR do you want to rise and feel your own pain? How hard do you find it to congratulate another AND celebrate their success as if it were your own? I know that the struggle with being happy for others presents itself early in life. As a child if we wanted a toy that another child has, wouldn’t we intuitively try to get it OR break down in tears? Aren’t those primal feelings still present in most of us today? Over the years, I’ve found that is when I care enough for someone to let go of what I want for myself that I grow as a person. Despite the fact that it is difficult to have ourselves suspended between wanting the toy AND throwing a party for our friend who got the toy. Looking beyond that and thinking about others, it is in throwing the party that we share in the joy and, to some extent, the toy…so rather than cutting ourselves out of it, we extended ourselves to celebrate the happiness for another. And it is @ this time we can TRANSFORM our lives, and in the best-case scenario, we experience a constant flow of HAPPINESS in and out of our lives…SO WE MUST REMEMBER THAT HOW WE, FEEL PROFOUNDLY INFLUENCES HOW WE PERCEIVE OUR REALITY & KNOW THAT THE MORE WE TRY TO EXPRESS TRUE HAPPINESS FOR ANOTHER, THE MORE HAPPINESS WE ATTRACT…

7 comments:

  1. Oh, what a wonderful, reflective post, Gatye-keeper! Though I can count myself unhappy at times I always love to hear of the success or happiness of my friends or others (lottery winners, for example). I think it makes you less happy when you begrudge someone else their success or happiness, so you are just adding bad energy on top of bad energy. Who needs it?

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  2. I never begrudge another. I always feel sincerely happy for others good fortune unless it's a negative person...lol These folks you always wonder why good things happen to them and not to someone who truly deserves or needs something great to happen in their lives..okay maybe I do harbour ill feelings towards some individuals...assholes.. that always get the prize undeservingly..lol..awe well.

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  3. I think it's normal to want the same happiness and success that you see in others, but when you begin to resent it and be jealous of it... that's where the journey to bitterness begins. I like to see others succeed where I have not because it gives me hope that I will one day taste that same success. If one feels an inner twinge or pain when discussing someone else's success, that just means that it's time to go to the drawing board and start working on your own life.

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  4. Here I am, wanting something so bad yet finding that at each turn I make, I only find disappointment, hurt, anger and loneliness.

    I look across, and there's Kishna-san - with a spring in his step, laughter on his lips, butterflies in his stomach (don't think I don't notice things around here, lol) & all the world's bright & beautiful. How can I be happy for you when you have the very thing I seek yet cannot find?

    All the feelings I have about my own life weigh so heavily on me that I find it hard to share in someone else's happiness & success. Until I take out all the trash that's clogging up my space and make way for my own happiness, I will find it hard to be happy for others. I can try & smile & tell you that I'm happy for you, but inside I know it's a lie.

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  6. "People who need people are the luckiest people in the world."

    I always find it easy to be happy for others, it enriches my life and creates a positive energy.

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  7. THOMAS - WHO NEEDS THAT INDEED?

    MARDI - I THINK IT IS OKAY TO NOT FEEL HAPPY FOR SOMEONE THAT MAY NOT DESERVE THE PRIZE...

    MIKE - I LOVE THE WAY YOUR MIND WORK...

    MISS SHALLOTTE - I UNDERSTAND THAT PLACE ALL TOO WELL, BUT NOW I'VE LEARNED TO MASTER IT & SEE LIFE FOR WHAT IT IS & TRY MY BEST TO CHANNEL POSITIVE ENERGY INTO ALL I DO & SAY...

    THARULA - THANK YOU, I WILL BE ALONG SHORTLY...

    CHET - YOU ARE SO RIGHT MISTER!!!

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