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Thursday, 08 December 2011

BI-SEXUALITY: ¿WILL YOU EVER ACCEPT IT?

Can someone tell me how SO many gay folks can take pride in the things that divide us and no comfort in the things that define us? As a gay man living in one of the most socially liberal times, I’m often amazed by other gay men’s reactions whenever an individual dare admit to being physically and emotionally attracted to both men and women. How can we gay men have that “I’ve had the nerve to come out and be fully gay, why can’t you attitude?”
There’s a common misconception about bisexuality, that it’s merely a two way station on the journey to self-acceptance. And for some that may be true; and while the term “bisexual” may be transitional or temporary for MANY questioning, contemplating, exploring or fearing their sexuality, for many it’s a lasting identity. So why is the concept met with such resistance from both gay and straight communities? It’s seen throughout history. In ancient Greek society boys commonly slept with other boys until they married women, and many scholars consider Dionysus to be the bisexual archetype.
But even with those facts in hand, people cannot get beyond the need to see people as one thing or the other. This is ironic, because while bisexuality as a concept may seem vague, many bisexuals are absolutely clear about their orientation. Consider how some straight people say they just don’t understand how one man can be sexually attracted to another man, and yet that doesn’t matter; straight people don’t have to “get it,” the fact is that homosexuals exist. The same argument can be used for bisexuals. Just because a gay person doesn’t understand how a man/woman could be attracted to both a man and a woman, doesn’t matter; I feel those feelings do exist. When will you?

22 comments:

  1. This seems to be the habit people have of seeing things either black or white an no in between...when there are many tonalities.
    And why are we so concerned about sexual orientation? Follow your instincts and do what is right by you. Forget what the homophobes tell you and even ignore those on the gay side who can't understand that it is possible to like both sexes.
    great post
    saludos,
    raulito

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  2. I believe that there is a great sexual spectrum from asexual to try anything sexual. It just all apart of the reality of human variations

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  3. TRICKLE: TOTALLY AGREE, I WOULD THINK THAT WE ON THE GAY WOULD BE MORE SUPPORTIVE BUT...

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  4. As I stated earlier, I don't know about bisexuality. I have been with some fine bisexual men who rolled out of my bed and into the bed of their women. What I've never truly understood is how we, as same gender loving men, fight against bigotry and then exhibit and practice the same toward others because their personal sexuality is also outside the heterosexual/homosexual box. If it's possible for some to love the opposite gender, others to love the same gender, then why can't yet others to love both?

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  5. ROGER: WHY CAN'T WE LOVE BOTH INDEED?

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  6. I suspect the issue is not do we accept bi-sexuality but do we accept the numbers of people claiming to be bi-sexuals.

    Too many people take sexuality lightly and envelope themselves in a recreational attitude toward sexuality, forgetting the depth that quietly accompanies sexuality. Sexuality is a physiological activity which can connect us spiritually to the deepest part of ourselves. To throw it around carelessly degenerates the Self.

    I do not think we understand enough of sexuality sometimes, particularly those of us who are "questioning". As I said above I believe in bi-sexuality, just not in the numbers people seem to proclaim.

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  7. THOMAS: I BELIEVE IN YOUR COMMENT SIR!

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  8. Actually, just ignore what I just said. I have no idea what I am talking about, LOL!!!!

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  9. THOMAS: COULD NEVER IGNORE WHAT YOU SAY.

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  10. Everyone has their own sexual preference. I've slept with bisexual men as well as gay men, however, I wouldn't date anyone who was married or dating a woman. That's not me, however if he admits he's bi and is committed to me, I'll take it.

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  11. Like everybody else, I've seen a lot of dishonesty associated with bisexuality and that is what is objectionable, not that one enjoys 'congress' with either sex. A red flag always goes up when I read 'Bi' and 'Discreet' in someone's profile because that means that he/she is making a fool out of his/her unsuspecting wife and that she/he would kick his ass out if she/he knew and suck him/her financially dry in the process.

    'Permission to play', whether it be hetero, gay or bi, often has the same connotation. Like, uh, WHO gave you permission, yourself???

    Okay, so I still cruise profiles.. just harmless window shopping to see what's going on in the world and to thank DOG that Im not single anymore. :>)~

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  12. Great post! Why can't it be falling in love and being sexually attracted to the person? The whole misconception of you have to be with both to be satisfied is not true.

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  13. JEFF: I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHY WE GAY FOLKS DON'T ACCEPT THE BI-SEXUALS OUT THERE & IT IS NICE TO KNOW THAT I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE OUT THERE DOING HARMLESS WINDOW SHOPPING.

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  14. HUMBLY: THANKS, I MUST SAY THAT I AM PLEASANTLY SURPRISE TO SEE YOU HERE.

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  15. No one can truly define someone else. No matter what or who lives beaneath our sexual skin, no one else can define it, or has a right to call it out or dispute it. I blame it all on people's desperate need & determination to LABEL others.

    That's a very lazy & dangerous way of thinking because it's extremely limiting & counter-productive to all parties.

    One.

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  16. MOAN: LABELS WILL BE THE DEATH OF US ALL!

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  17. I am co signing with Thomas. I believe in bisexuality, but the pervasiveness of it is a lie. I believe that there are very FEW true blue bisexuals. These bisexuals, who own their sexuality, and are responsible in their dealings with others do not inspire any ire from me.
    The others, who are generally just confused really have no concept of what it means to truly love and care about someone outside of the next conquest. I believe these types are the reason why bisexuals are so maligned in the community.

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  18. TODDY: I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU ARE HERE...

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  19. I am bisexual, I am happy with that label because at some time in my life I have been in love with either a man or a woman but never when I have been in a relationship. It seems that a lot of people confuse bisexuality with infidelity which is wrong. I truly believe that if you are bisexual you could fall for either sex and it's not just a way of spicing up a flagging sex life whilst you are in a relationship. An illusion bought about I think by bisexual porn.

    I have also taken the issue of safe sex very seriously and I have always told my partners that I am bi and that I will wear a condom.At the end of the day it is about respect for yourself and others and not just having a 'good time'.

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  20. ANON: HAPPY THAT YOU CAN OWN YOUR SEXUALITY, EVEN HAPPIER THAT YOU ARE ON THE UP & UP AND USE PROTECTION.

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