The following is one of
many conversations I had with an online friend of mine about his NOT using
condoms in sexcapades:
ME: using protection son?
HIM: silence
ME: why aren't you answering my condom question? DO YOU USE PROTECTION?
ME: why aren't you answering my condom question? DO YOU USE PROTECTION?
HIM: Oh sorry
No, in all honesty I haven't
I've stopped myself
From having sex more often
Or sleeping with people I don't
know
Only have slept with people
I've slept with on the reg
But I'm cutting the number
And its only been two
Less sex helps
But helps me focus on the real
issues I face
And why I use sex as I do
ME: I don't
care if it is 100 0r 1
so you still doing foolishness?
when was the last time u got tested?
HIM: August
Going again soon
ME: uh-huh
Do you have an HIV wish?
HIM: Nope! Aint a bug chaser
ME: well you
f*%cking like you are by not protecting yourself
HIM: Yeah! I always cuss my mates who smoke at how they
are fucking up their health and they always go on bout how difficult it is to
quit I understand how it feels
ME: No you don’t
because if you did you would use a condom
HIM: I do
Know better and doing better
Are two different things
I know better
I know all the risks and
The implications
But I don't do better
ME: anyways I am
done talking to you about that
HIM: okay.
Now in going over this conversation, I know shouldn't ended it like that, but I was upset and tired of urging my friend to use a condom. EVERY time we chat about that stuff he has NO reason why he isn't, and he CONSTANTLY says he does not want to get HIV but...
WHAT ARE YOU THOUGHTS ON THIS ENTRY, SHOULD I GIVE UP ON THE SAFE SEX TALK WITH HIM OR SHOULD I CONTINUE DESPITE WHAT HE ISN'T DOING?
I would show him love and continue to show him the risks of HIV and other STDs. He's listening just give it time.
ReplyDeleteMUSIQUE: I WILL, I HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE!
ReplyDeleteROGER THAT! LOL!
ReplyDeleteANON: I TAKE IT THAT YOU ARE IN AGREEMENT?
ReplyDeleteSince your bud and the guys he barebacks know the risks, it's probably time to stop preaching.
ReplyDeleteJEFF: I AM IN THE MIDDLE WITH THIS ONE FOR SURE.
ReplyDeleteYour friend says, "...but helps me focus on the real issues I face, and why I use sex as I do."
ReplyDeleteSure he knows better, we all do, but he has psychological or emotional issues around sex that are driving him toward some crisis that he is trying to solve through or with sex. Too many gay men have these issues and use their sexuality to bring them some sort of false relief. Because the relief from the emotional or psychological pain is only temporary, they seek it constantly through different partners.
Tell your friend to read Erich Fromm's the Art of Love, one of my favorite books!
THOMAS: I WILL, THANKS FOR YOUR COMMENT.
ReplyDeleteDamn near thirty years later and some still refuse to do better after knowing better. The fear has subsided in many.
ReplyDeleteCHET: YEAH, BUT WE CAN'T GIVE UP ON THEM.
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