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Monday, 17 January 2011

THE BI-SEXAUL BLACK MAN…CAN HE EXIST?

Many of us have the notion that if a man does anything sexual with another that he is gay and rightly so, but what happens if that same man express himself sexually with a woman? Would we consider him to be bi-sexual or confused? Now ask yourself what if that man happened to black…Can he or rather would he have the balls to let females know how he gets ‘down?’ Moreover, can both the homo and hetero community allow him to be that?
As you gay men read this entry, I am going to ask that you pretend that I am talking about black men that have a genuine love and attraction for both genders. Can you image how much he must feel like a black sheep? Gay men have had more than their fair share of experiences in which they felt like the lone black sheep in a vast sea of white sheep. For black bi-sexual men, the sense of not belonging runs more deeply and spans a period of many years. Even if he receives no overt criticism regarding his sexual preferences, he more than likely will feel that the gay men he associates with are merely humoring him or waiting for him ‘to grow out his pussy phase.’ Is it any wonder he wouldn’t tell the female(s) who get(s) with him? I don’t get how we can say a man is man, but if that said man gets with another man one or both aren’t ‘real’ men. So then one would have to wonder, why are we making it all about who a man is and not about his sexual gratification? The bi-sexual black man shouldn’t be made to feel that he is less than or some sort of failure because he connects with men and women. Rather, he should be perceived as the natural result of his willingness to celebrate his individual sexuality.

So to the bi-sexual black man, I say I am sorry for shunning you because of your willingness to play both sides of the sexual fence. As I age, I see that your very nature has set you apart from us on both sides of the divide. So I am asking that when you encounter a gay man or woman (considering that you are brave enough) you consider that you choose long ago to be who you are long before you got here. You just didn’t happen to be, you came to have certain experiences that would contribute to your ongoing evolution. You are much more than the men and women you seek and give pleasure to and the unequal temperament of your sexual appetite and those of the gay men and women you see need not be a catalyst for interpersonal conflict. So I implore you to move beyond the comparisons laid @ your feet and accept your differences and you will come to appreciate the significant role you bring to this unique journey we call life.

22 comments:

  1. How can I say this?
    There is no such thing as a bi-sexual no matter what color his skin.
    In the end a person always has an overwhelming preference for one gender over another.
    Even if he is capable of getting off with both genders he still prefers one over the other.
    This gender will determine his sexuality.
    And can I ask why it should matter what color the "bisexual" males skin is?
    How is a black man who purports to be a bisexual any more stigmatized than a Hispanic, Asian, Indian, or Caucasian one?
    I'm going o go ahead and say he isn't.
    Any man stupid enough to publicly insist he is a genuine bisexual deserves whatever ire and scorn the world heaps on him if for no other reason than he is full of shit and trying to appeal to as many people as possible without realizing he's repulsive to all people based on his obvious inability to declare either his unabashed love of dick or it's squishier far less appealing antithesis.

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  2. It's pretty ignorant to insist that there's only "black" and "white" and DEFINITELY, POSITIVELY no "grey". But then ignorant vitriol comes to some of us easier than to others.

    I used to have doubts about bisexuality, but I personally know at least one genuine bisexual, who's also a pretty hardcore thug. He's been in and out of jail, and he loves a good fight. Not only does he love banging girls out, he loves to suck dick. And he's open about it - his straight friends know he's bi.

    I've known him for years, so I'll believe the evidence of my own eyes.

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  3. When I read this, the congregation in my head screamed, "Amen!"

    There is a certain marginality that comes with bisexuality. The gay community takes us with a grain of salt...and it eats at the mind of our women.

    Recently, I have been more honest about my dual preference and my every concern has been confirmed. Regardless of any honesty, even to brutal proportions, bisexual men are defaulted to confused liars.

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  4. Great post, as usual. The unfortunate reality is that the homosexual and lesbian were initially viewed as "repulsive" as well. Later accepted. But we cannot simply act as if shit wasn't a problem for folks who identified themselves as preferring the same gender. Eventually, they all gave the world a resounding "FUCK YOU" and went on to do their own thing, becoming unified and stronger in their efforts to be treated like normal muufukkas. As a true bisexual male who loves the scent, feel, intimacy, and sex of a woman, while desiring the same for a man, I echo the sentiments of my gay and lesbian brothers and sisters by extending that same "FUCK YOU" to all who view me as repulsive or disgusting. I too, will forget about you, move on with my shit, and use your hate to get stronger and better.

    Great post bruh.

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  5. Oddly enough, I'm working on a post like this - Get outta my mind! LOL. . .honestly, sometimes I do think that with bisexuals, they still favor one sex over the other; however, I don't have any issues with it. I think it's a somewhat selfish want from the opposers of bisexuality (not meaning that one wants to be bisexual, unless that's what their want is, but varying reasons, I guess). I used to want to be bi, and I also claimed it because I could at least be somewhat content that I like women, but that's not the case.

    Really, if one is bi, it's basically like anything else. It's not black or white, boy or girl, happy or sad. There's always a balance in between to keep the other opposing factors steady.

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  6. Bisexuality is quite the conundrum. I find that all men have the tendacy of wanting to have sex with either sex, but the stigma is to much for them to deal with, some men are just sexual beings and busting a nut with a woman or a man doesn't much matter.

    A great deal of men are lovers of thier own image (men) and because of this they tend to go both ways.

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  7. I believe in bisexuality, totally. Moreover, I believe in people's right to express themselves in which ever way they see fit.
    But I hate the notion that, "Bi people have it so much harder because they are not accepted" and blase, blase, blah blah BLAH. That whole "tragic sexual mulatto" namby stuff is soooo 2004 J.L. King on Oprah Winfrey.
    I for one, as a gay person, refuse to accept any onus or responsibility for a bisexual person's feelings of: confusion, ambivalence, and inability to simply be themselves.
    Everyone takes heat for something. I deal with ignorance all of the time simply being an openly gay person (particularly from other gays). However, unlike a bisexual, I don't have the option to HIDE anything. So, there is no comparison. If you use your sexuality to go incognito then that is all on YOU. So if you are called out as duplicitous and whatever, by straights and gays, who is to TRULY blame? Answer: the bisexual in question who is perpetuating the duplicity.
    Nope, I'm not with the whole "pity" the bisexual thing. We live in a free society.
    Be that as it may...
    Do what you do, whoever you choose to do it with.
    Myself, I would only be friends with a bisexual person but I would never seriously entertain the idea of being with one in a relationship/sexual type situation...like ever. Yes some people would refer to that as discriminatory and bias...and I agree with them, completely (no way around it). But that is how I feel about the situation now.
    *shrug*
    It would be different if the guy was Bi in a past life and operated under the whole "Bi now gay later principle..." But some people are genuinely bi (not using it as a way station to GAYSVILLE USA)and those I tend to avoid, outside of a completely platonic relationship.
    My two dollahs and a nickel...

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  8. Great post. I won't even begin to go there with my own personal views on this issues as it's still a sensitive subject matter with at the moment.

    Nevertheless, I will say that if you know that you like to "straddle" the fence be upfront and honest with whomever you're kicking it with. You should never take away a persons right to choose. If you can't do that then perhaps you should just pick a team and stick with it.

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  9. YES, It IS possible for ANY Bi man to be SINCERELY Attracted to BOTH sexes, despite the fact that some believe "it doesn't exist" because things are BLK/WHTE to them. The problem comes in when men "claim" to be Bi, so they can easily say they "don't mess with dudes anymore" and Dismiss past male one male experiences as if it NEVER happened. Saying that you are Bi makes it easier to claim to be completely str8 later. BUT there ARE some out there who REALLY are sexual and physically attracted to both genders.

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  10. COGENT – SORRY THAT YOU FEEL THIS WAY, BUT IF YOU WERE TO SPEND SOME TIME IN A COMMUNITY WHERE BLACK FOLKS LIVE YOU WOULD SEE WHY I ASKED THIS QUESTION.

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  11. LIBERATOR – YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT THAT! CAN I MEET THIS HARDCORE THUG?

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  12. FORBIDDEN – I HAD NO IDEA YOU WERE BI-SEXUAL…INTERESTING!

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  13. COLD PHOENIX – FUCK YOU INDEED! GET OFF HOW YOU SEE FIT!

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  14. BAMA BOI – I AM COMING TO YOUR BLOG…

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  15. MR. TODDY – THANKS FOR MAKING ME SMILE!

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  16. JOSH – I WOULD LIKE TO GET YOUR PERSON VIEW ON THE SUBJECT…

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  17. DONN M. – I BELIEVE THAT IT IS POSSIBLE FOR MEN TO BE BI, HOWEVER IT ALL COMES DOWN TO ONWERSHIP!

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  18. I wear my bi-genderqueer-transloving-MAXIMUM-SEX-AND-ROCK-AND-ROLL freak flag all over Google, Facebook, Flickr, and dozens of other sites. Any one who reads me gets me, or simply isn't understanding English. Sorry about the thumbnail; it's Google, not me. Please link to my profile!

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  19. 'KA-Y-Y-Y! Thumbnail issue fixed. Thanks Google. I linked here from Gay.com. Y'all do link my profile anyway!

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  20. Well: My stance. I gather that most people define their sexual preference by aesthetic or physical attraction. While that factors in, and I do have definite attractors, I define my sexuality by my sexual behavior, i.e. what I DO with who I'm do-in! And how I go about getting him or her to DO me };). That is why I'm "Genderqueer" as I don't act like a typical heteronormative male.

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  21. VALLIN: I TOTALLY LOVE & GET YOUR STANCE, THERE ARE MERE MOMENTS I FEEL THE SAY WAY.

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