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Friday, 10 July 2009

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: ¿WHAT MANNER OF RULES ARE THESE?


I WROTE THIS A MERE MONTH AFTER NOEL & I MET EACH OTHER & I WAS SO CONFLICTED BECAUSE I KNEW HOW I FELT ABOUT HIM FROM DAY ONE BUT I WAS AFRAID TO TRUST THAT…I COULD TELL HE WAS GOING THROUGH THE SAME EMOTIONS I WAS SO WE TALKED ABOUT IT & BOTH DECIDED THAT WE WOULD TRUST EACH OTHER MIND, BODY N’ SOUL…& TO THIS DAY HE & I HAVE NO REGRETS WHAT SO EVER…I GUESS WHEN YOU KNOW, YOU KNOW…SO I SAY F&CK THE RULES!!!
I have just started dating and there are some signs that he could be someone that I can be with for the long haul. Now the thing is that things are new and I am aware that as human beings we have the tendency to be all caught up in love and not LOVE. However, if I feel that this love can blossom into LOVE then why should follow some RULES and take my chances on hindering that? For the first time in as long as I can remember, I have met a MAN that makes me SMILE from inside out. I feel that I am with someone that is in safe place where LOVE can actually go beyond itself. This is such a GREAT feeling for me because for far too long I have been cynical about love and it took my getting my heart broken to realize that. Therefore, I have decided that I am NOT following any RULES because they cause more harm than good…I WANT TO BE ABLE TO SAY I LOVE YOU WHEN I FEEL IT. I WANT TO SAY I WANT YOU NEAR ME WHEN I FEEL IT. I WANT TO SAY KISS FOR NO REASON OTHER THAN TO KISS ME WHEN I FEEL IT. However, being a mere human I understand the reasons why these RULES exist. And though we are NOT perfect, I feel that LOVE should make us PERFECT for each other. If only we could ACCEPT that love ends because could NOT grow into LOVE. Hence, the intricate web of factors that has contributed to the demise of love should be treated as a learning experience and NOT the be all and end all. Placing RULES upon our hearts prevents us from getting to the TRUE core of ourselves. How can we NOT see that when WE LOVE and not love to help us grow? So to allow some RULES to get in the way of that just do not make any sense. If one follows a RULE that stipulates that one should NOT say I LOVE YOU a certain amount of time has passed, isn’t that gradually turning up the heat on an already brewing pot that will boil over and leave a mess everywhere? Following RULES when it comes to LOVE can cause one to miss the ONE that could have brought HAPPINESS and the WHOLENESS you seek. Our logic AND reason should dictate that LOVE has no timeline AND cannot be manipulated. It is my personal feeling that if I hold back on my love for someone then I already know that we cannot ever end up with LOVE for each other. Hence, the RULES of LOVE make no sense and causes a sense of FEAR for NO legitimate reason. Therefore, we just go along with the program AND pray that it will work out…WHAT A F&CK UP WAY TO LIVE! HOW CAN WE BRAVE THE ELEMENTS OF THIS PLANET & RISE UP AS THE DOMINANT SPECIES & CRIPPLE OURSELVES WITH RULES? WHY CAN’T WE BE BRAVE & SAY F&CK THE RULES? I CANNOT DO MYSELF ANY KIND OF INJUSTICE SO I WILL LIVE EVERYDAY THANKING GOD FOR A SOUL THAT FEELS FREE TO ENJOY THE ONE THING THAT SUPPOSE TO COME WITHOUT REGULATORS. THE RULES SIMPLY EXIST TO SHOW US THAT WE ARE SEEKING love & NOT LOVE & IT IS SO SAD THAT WE ARE JUST TOUCHING THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG. WE ARE NOT GETTING A TASTE OF WHAT LOVE HAS TO OFFER. WE NEED TO RECOGNIZE THAT IF WE REALLY REALLY REALLY WANT LOVE WE CANNOT FALL & PLAY IT CAUTIOUSLY. LOVE IS JOURNEY NOT A DESTINATION & THE RULES JUST MAKE LIFE TAXING. I AM AWARE THAT WE LEARN ABOUT LOVE BY TRIAL & ERROR, BUT PLACING RULES IN THE MIX WILL BREAK US. IF ONE CAN FOLLOW SOME RULE WHEN THEY ARE WITH ANOTHER THEN I SAY KEEP ON THAT PATH, IT IS OBVIOUS THAT HE IS NOT THAT SPECIAL ONE THAT CAUSES YOUR HEART TO SKIP A BEAT & STIR FEELINGS SO DEEP WITHIN THAT YOU ARE NOT AFRAID TO ALLOW THE RULES TO RULE.



11 comments:

  1. OMG I relate to some things you wrote, a very awesome text. See, lately I was thinking about love and I recognize I'm a little too afraid of it. I don't know why but I feel like I would never fall in love, or at least have reciprocity, but what you wrote made me cry and now I think my faith is restored. XD Sorry, lame comment but that's how I feel. Love shouldn't be made by rules or something like it, we just need to... feel it. Bye!

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  2. Yeah, I've never been a big fan of rules in a relationship. We have enough rules in our lives as it is!

    Thanks for leading me to my new Shelfari. Love it!

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  3. And who says rules says criteria. We fool ourselves with a long list of physical and behavioral requirements for "applicants to a relationship", and which no one on earth will fulfill. Some guys seem to have a facial composite in mind. Love doesn't work like that!

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  4. DIEGO - I AM GLAD YOU LIKE THIS POST...YOUR COMMENT ISN'T LAME @ ALL..

    PHOTOGREG - YEAH TO HELL WITH THE RULES...YOU ARE WELCOME I WILL CHECK OUT YOUR LIBRARY WHEN I COME TO YOUR BLOG...

    EDUARDO - LOVE CERTAINLY DOESN'T WORK WELL WITH THE RULES WE TRY TO GO BY...

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  5. hey what are the rules...hahaha, cos maybe thats why Ive been failing

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  6. In the affairs of the heart there are no rules.

    I understand the zone you were I when you wrote this and how exactly you felt for Noel. I agree when you know you just know.

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  7. OYIN - THE RULES ARE WHATEVER WE TELL OURSELVES IN ORDER TO NAVIGATE THIS THING WE CALL LOVE...

    CHET - SAY THAT AGAIN!!!

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  8. I believe in rules...it helps to keep things in check

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  9. It's been a minute my Brother! I beat myself up because I always miss out on so much when I do not come and read your thoughts. Again this was worth the read. Rules can hinder more than help.

    Peace and Blessings,
    Angie

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  10. WONDER MAN - I UNDERSTAND...BUT YOU HAVE TO ADMIT THAT THERE ARE A FEW TIMES IN LIFE WHERE RULES JUST CAUSE MORE HARM THAN GOOD...

    MS. ANGIE - I KNOW IT'S BEEN A WHILE SINCE YOU'VE BEEN AROUND THESE PARTS, BUT NO LOVE LOST...SO DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP @ ALL, I AM SURE YOU WILL READ THE THOUGHTS THAT YOU ARE MEANT TO READ...

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  11. Remember this quite well and even remember talking about it..... Yes rules are important but it is just as important to not let them consume you to the point that they prevent you from experiencing and acknowledging LOVE that is real and natural.
    So baby i'm glad that though we had rules we went with what we felt which was real and genuine and natural- the LOVE we have for each other and what we felt from the beginning.

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