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Wednesday, 08 July 2009

¿IS THAT SUNLIGHT I SEE?


Today marked the beginning of what I think is a HUGE step in the right direction for my cousin. She decided that she wanted to go for counseling in order for her to get her life back on track and I couldn’t be HAPPIER! When I wrote about her about a week ago, I felt her isolation N’ pain and I was glad that she picked up the telephone and called me for help. She realized that death is not an option for her and decided that she wanted to live despite where she is in life right now…So she decided to let me know things that brought her to a VERY dark AND lonely place…She told me about the family friend that raped her this past Saturday, but not before he started doing this to her @ the tender age of ten (10). Of course that made me EXTREMELY upset because I HATE when adults use children for the sexual pleasure…This is young lady who was VERY much child like into her teens TOTALLY blew away my room-mate and friend that was @ the house when I brought her here. You see my cousin was one those girls that didn’t look her age and if you see her now you would say the same thing…She looks frail N’ thin…VERY weak and her speech isn’t what it used to be and death looks like he has her in his grip…

I only wished she had told me about her pain sooner so I could offer some help, but there is NO time like the present, right? Hearing about her struggles and how she views herself was painful for me. So I know being called a slut and everything else would make her feel even worse about herself. I told her that everything will be fine because from today onward things will change. Of course I knew that I had to get my mom, aunt and her father together to let them know how she became the person we see standing in front of us today…

So yesterday I drove to my family home to pick her up and as luck would have it everyone was there…though I didn’t see the opportunity right away, I soon noticed my chance because as she came towards me, her father said to me KISHNA TALK SOME SENSE INTO THIS GIRL PLEASE? I smiled because for me that meant talking some sense into you and the rest of my family so we can help her…I told them the past is the past and we all need to move forward, but in order that to happen we need to understand the past N’ present so we can work towards a better future…I told them what she told me and their emotions ranged from shock, pain, anger and tears…You see my family is VERY hard and they don’t show LOVE like that so to see them react this way, it surprised the hell out of me. I was all set to let them have it for the way they have treated her because I felt that they added to her pain though I am not excusing some of the things she did, I feel like they are the adults that and should have taken her cries more seriously…

But to my surprise, a miracle took place and I felt sorry for them because they are like SO many others that don’t like to confront issues dealing with child molestation…I am SO happy that I made a CONSCIOUS DECISION to go against that popular ignorant behavior…How could they deny the things she say when she gives them vivid images of what took place with her the first time he raped her and his most recent attack on her this past Saturday? For the torn underwear to him penetrating her, they realized that her not sleeping home AND going out partying was her way of not loosing herself to the pain of molestation AND lack of support from a family that she has come to know as her safety net for SO many years…

I am happy to know that she reached out to me and a friend and I were able to arrange her first counseling session today. We all know that the longer someone is in isolation, the harder it becomes to reach them. It felt GREAT when the counselor that did the evaluation on her called me into the office and told me that she is VERY open and receptive which is a good sign of someone that wants some help…And it was @ the moment that I remembered the Monday night she slept @ my house and I had to deal with her seizures and ramblings because her mind seems to be going in SO many different directions @ once. I lost two days of personal time that I can’t get back and that’s fine with me because for the first time in about four years I think I can see some sunlight peeping through those dark clouds that has been plaguing her for such a long…And though the road will long and hard, I will pray for more sunshine AND send positive energy her way every chance I get…








15 comments:

  1. the summer 2009 seems to be a big turn around time for a lot of people. so many people i know including myself are working on getting themselves together or back together i should say. But i definitely wish the best of luck to your cousin on her new journey despite her rough past

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  2. Amen!

    I really did pray for you and your cousin...I am so pleased to see that things are moving in a positive direction..

    I really commend you..for standing up like that for your cousin...and to your family...giving a voice to something that had been ignored...

    I'll continue to send you good vibes and prayers!

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  3. NOBLE - GUESS THERE IS NO TIME LIKE THIS TIME...THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOU WELL WISHES...I GREATLY APPRECIATE THEM...

    JILLIAN - THANK YOU, I AM SURE YOUR PRAYERS AID HER ON HER JOURNEY TODAY...THANK YOU

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  4. GayteKeeper - I'm glad your cousin is on the road to recovery. She's been through a horrific ordeal, but with you by her side, she'll come out of it okay.

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  5. ACHILLES - I THINK SHE WILL COME OUT OKAY AS WELL...

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  6. I wish her the best of sunshines. The fact that she's finally talked about what happened to her and that she's decided to get the help she needs shows that deep inside she's a strong woman, a survivor and a fighter.

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  7. EDUARDO - YEAH SHE IS A FIGHTER...JUST HAVE TO REMIND HER OF THAT...

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  8. Ill be praying for ur cousin. Im glad she allowed you to be there for her finally. She needed u and God and made u who u are just for this purpose.

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  9. TRU3LOGIC - THANK YOU SO MUCH...

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  10. This one of the saddest stories I've heard although, I have heard some other stories close to this one whie doing outreach, it is never an easy thing for the victim to recover from however; with a stronng support group, strong & caring famly members, a desire to recover and let go of the hartred helps the victim to live again.

    I am sorry to hear of your cousin's misforunate, buut knowing that you are there for her< I know that she will recover and go on to live a productive and loving life.

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  11. sheesh...think I need some counseling too...

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  12. CHET – YEAH HER STORY IS A SAD ONE, BUT I WILL DO MY BEST TO GET HER & THE REST OF MY FAMILY TO WORK TOGETHER…

    OYIN – I CAN GO WITH YOU…

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  13. Thank you for posting this. It was good to see that you took the bull by the horns so to speak and let your family know that they need to support, care and defend her.

    I'm extremely pleased to hear she has been receiving counselling and is receptive. She's certainly been through a lot.

    She's reflected bits of my past; partying and sleeping out to escape a bitter reality. I'm glad she had someone like you to turn to.

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  14. FROMETOMI - I AM GLAD YOU APPRECIATE THIS POST...I AM A TAURUS SO THAT MAKES A NATURAL BULL L(O)L & I HAD NO PROBLEMS ASSISTING MY COUSIN AND LETTING MY FAMILY KNOW THAT SHE NEEDS OUR SUPPORT...MY COUSIN HAS BEEN THROUGH A LOT & I HOPE YOU DON'T MIND IF I HIT YOU UP FROM TO TIME SEEKING ADVICE WITH THIS...

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