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Friday, 12 December 2008

WHATEVER YOU SELLING...




I can’t help but feel SO sad for them because here they are wielding N’ dealing trying their hardest to get MY sex; and I am NOT getting their sales pitch. First and foremost they don’t ask if I am in a relationship (I guess that part does NOT matter) and I know that I could stop them DEAD in their tracks by mentioning Noel, but this is NOT about him. This simply is me not wanting anything from them period. I mean even when I was in that place I wasn’t in that place. I always saw my various sexual escapades as life changing…there was NEVER anything of me that was invested in those men that I feel shame or desperate about; AND I can’t understand how OR why gay men would feel satisfied with not being connected to what they really want.
I feel so ashamed of the GAY community because we are all about the flesh upon flesh…This EASY SEX is like a drug and every time we take a hit, we spiral out of control only to be left feeling empty AND alone. When I went through this cycle, I knew why I was doing it; but today it seems as if MOST gay men are doing because it can be done. Sex is fun, but it can be SO much more if it is with someone we can MORE than just sex with. When are we going to STOP bathing OUR asses in this SH!T and wearing it like some cheap cologne? We F&CK each other like there is a fire sale AND one size fits all…
NO WONDER WE LIVE AS IF IT IS NOT OKAY TO BE GAY…WHEN ARE WE GOING TO SEE THAT BY F&CKING EACH OTHER, WE ARE ONLY REINFORCING THE STIGMATIZATION OF THE GAY IDENTITY? I GUESS THE SIMPLE THING TO DO IS TO CONSIDER WHEN YOU GET HORNY & YOU WANT SOMETHING TO EASE THAT, WE NEED TO THINK IF WE WANT A SERIES OF MEN THAT ARE GOING LAST ALL OF 5-10 MINUTES OR DO WE WANT A SERIES OF 5-10 MINUTES WITH JUST ONE PERSON THAT IS ALL OUR OWN? WHATEVER MOST OF US DECIDE, I KNOW WHICH SIDE OF THE PROBLEM I AM ON, SO AS YOU GUYS KEEP SELLING I WILL REFUSE BECAUSE I AM STOCKED UP FOR LIFE WITH LOVE & RESPECT FOR MYSELF…





23 comments:

  1. LMAO.....you make telling people about themselves a real art u know that? And u are so right...if we dont stop fucking eachother we will never have what we truly want. sex dont equal love.

    And where in the hell are u finding these damn pictures? LOL

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  2. It cannot be denied that humans are sexual beings with sexual urges wired in our DNA.This does not excuse the promiscuity of our community and that so many of us make sex our number one priority and the reason for existence. Yes sex may be easily available and yes we may be bombarded constantly with sex. This does not justify the levels of indiscriminate sex that is so rampant in the community.
    Given the prevalence of stds and infections we need to be more responsible when it comes to our sex lives.

    I am not knocking hookups but if we have to resort to them let's be responsible and that should not be our number 1 priority. The best sex you can have is with someone you love and share a deep emotional bond.

    We should be more about just sex and hookups, we should be looking for meaningful connections and engage in activities that will uplift us and uplift the community.

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  3. I know rite trulogic the picture below and above fire...

    I use to sale myself i was basically the dude you r describn in this post...i finally had to take myself off the shelf cause it really does leave u lost and confused and lonely etc.....i got tired of jus fuckn..i was a sex addict..i was fuckn jus becuz after a while and none of the dudes i had sex with meant anything. i was a quick nut and i was out..i got tired of being called a hoe by my own friends...i must admit i do feel like i wanna fuck for the hell of it lately but i keep myself grounded and surrounded by good friends...

    I love this post man...u struck a nerve...lol

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  4. OH BY THE WAY THAT PIC IS GROSS!!!!!!

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  5. OSSIE - THE PIC SUPPOSED TO GROSS YOU OUT...

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  6. PROMISCUOUS X - I AM GLAD TO HEAR THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER ONE THE PACK

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  7. TRU3LOGIC - ISN'T HE JUST THE CUTEST?

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  8. Wow, the way you wrote this blog entry just helped me reinforce my beliefs and how I feel about going around and having sex without meaning. I've tried to get this point across to people but I could never word it the way you did.

    Oh and call me sheltered or whatever but that pic scared me...And I don't want to come off as judgmental, but I didn't think people did stuff like that! -->CUM HERE<-- REALLY?

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  9. wow...dis was deep Gayte. Umm, I know how much men are sexual driven..but i didnt know that the rules applied like a heterosexual relationship. I always thought it was just for sex...Im glad you cleared that up.


    Umm, Gayte why do you want to be first on your own damn page...lol

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  10. Hmmm... I wish I had words. =( I feel lower than the pack. No one wants to even do THAT with me... damn I'm lower than pathetic. *tears*

    How come everyone else gets to have experiences and I don't? I can't have love, and now you telling me I can't have sex!? Just shoot me gaytekeeper... just shoot me. LOL.

    I only been abstinent for three years because no one wants to talk to meeeee.... =( Getting all those offers means you're wanted. May not be in the RIGHT way, but at least you're wanted. ;)

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  11. I had to BEG 1 dude to have sex with me. BEG. Like I'm ugly... -_- am I??? =O

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  12. Okay okay... I promise this is my LAST post to this blog... ^_^ tehehe... I am PROUD to be abstinent. I am the only gay dude who can honestly say... I am morally in line in this particular aspect. I believe that the only ones with the RIGHT to sexual relations are LOVERS. So I am in devout agreement with you gaytekeeper...

    although I still wish I had me ONE good moment... 0_o

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  13. OH MY DAMN. YOU PUT THOSE WORD IN ORDER. LOVED THIS POST AS WELL AS THE OTHERS. I NEED NOT SAY ANYTHING. YOU HAVE SAID IT ALL...AMAN.

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  14. Nothming more needs to be said....I'll just cosign with the other voices of reason....

    X___________________________

    One day our brothers will get it together. I'm hopeful anyway.

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  15. This photo is really unappealing

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  16. On another note:
    'tis the season - they just want a boifriend / companionship / whatever materials come along with it for Christmas

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  17. I love this blog entry. I absolutely agree with you man. And yes people throw themselves at me all the time, but I too rather have "5-10 MINUTES WITH JUST ONE PERSON THAT IS ALL MY OWN" oppose to "A SERIES OF MEN THAT ARE GOING LAST ALL OF 5-10 MINUTES."

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  18. I guess it's time I chimeed it with my 2 cents worth:

    This is somewhat of a cycle. When the sexual experience is brand new, you want it all the time. Sometimes it doesn't matter if it's from the same person or not as long as your get your gratification because we are sexual creatures.

    Once you've grown tired of sleeping around with this person or that person, you then desire more. You want to be in love. But you are still using sex as a prerequisite.

    Once you've encountered someone that you think you want to be with but they don't share the mutual feelings, you tend to go back into the pattern of fucking for the fuck of it.

    I say all of this to say life is a lesson learned. We have to live and make mistakes to learn from them. Unfortunately sometimes the mistakes we make have long term effects, but hopefully we can learn from them and grow.

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  19. I hope I don't offend many people with my answer.

    I have to realise that the world does not & will not stop functioning if we don't have sex for a while. No one's mental health will suffer as a result. As far as I'm concerned, sex is not the beginning & end of everything. It does not have to constitute your whole life's existence.

    I'm not saying sex is not important. Neither am I saying having a sexual urge is not human. It is human. It is human to want physical contact with another human being. But it is how you go about doing things.

    I'm saying it is not necessary to demean & devalue yourself (though some may not see it that way) for the sake of sex. I know others have come to see this behaviour as the way of the world, as reality. Maybe I'm a prude but for me a relationship is the way to go. Period.

    And Kishna, I hold the same view that it is not even about your man. Very very true. I don't know if you would agree with me here but your views are a reflection of who you are as a person, how you have evolved and what your values have come to be. They are a reflection of your own self-worth / self- respect and the respect you have for your relationship and your man.

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  20. SHALLOTTE - I DON'T THINK YOU ARE OFFENDING ANYONE BY YOUR COMMENT...WHAT YOU ARE SAYING NEEDS TO BE SAID...& I AM TOTALLY 1000% IN SUPPORT OF YOUR VIEWS

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  21. it is important to point out that most [and I mean a vast majority] of gay men define their experience as gay men with sex.

    Sadly it's all allot of them have. And it's not just the act but how it overflows into the other parts of their liv. For instance have you heard someone say I can't eat this 'cause I have to be sexy or appealing for the bois or men. Or I have to make sure when I take of my shirt that I have a body that will get noticed. Or even I have to maintain a certain lifestyle in order to attract another man.

    And it is so much worse than those few lines but I won't get that deep into it. But if what I said is true that the vast majority defines their existence through sex then many of you who read this can identify with or recognize these examples in people you've encountered.

    Is substance @ all sexxxi?

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  22. deep. I think you answered my question about what my friend Jordan said which I mentioned in my review. The truth hurts. Thanks.

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