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Thursday, 23 October 2008


Most of us have encountered a person in our lives who can accurately be referred to as a know-it-all. This person seems to know everything about anything that gets brought up and tends to dominate the conversation. They don't take well to being questioned, and they have a hard time ever admitting that they were wrong. Being around a know-it-all is inevitably tiring because there is no shared power between the two of you. Rather, you become an audience member to this person's need to be the center of attention. Attention and respect are probably the two things this person most longs for, and at some point in their lives, they learned that knowing it all was the way to get those needs met. Over time, they have become stuck in this pattern, regardless of the fact that it is no longer working. They may feel afraid of the experience of listening, being receptive, or learning something new, because it's so unfamiliar. On the one hand, when we see the childlike need underneath the know-it-all's mask of confidence, we feel compassion for the person, and we may tolerate their one-sided approach to conversation out of a desire not to hurt their feelings. On the other hand, we may be feeling drained and tempted to avoid this person altogether. In the middle of these two possible ways of feeling, we may actually like this person and wish for a closer relationship. If we come from a place of kindness, we might attempt to bridge the gap that this person's habitual way of relating creates. Simply expressing a desire to be closer may open their heart, and give you a chance to ask for what you need in the relationship-a chance to contribute.


  1. I had a know it all in life, it was the worse thing ever!!!! and if u notice I used the past (HAD) lol

  2. I was laughing as I read this posting because I know just such a person. There's absolutely nothing in the world that they don't know or have not experienced! Each and every comment starts with 'I know...' It used to drive me bananas and I was angry all the time, literally. And what's worse, I could not escape because I live with them. So going home was a nightmare!

    I'm a quiet person and not much of a 'talker'and that means I bottle things up. On one or two occassions when they would say something which I thought was stupid I would lose it and end up cursing them. I was so angry inside!

    But I realised that I was not going to change them so I changed instead. And sometimes I would think that they were compensating for their lack of confidence, perhaps they felt inferior in some way? These days they can say whatever and it's as if I do not even hear them. Their words have little effect. I have let go of the anger and found peace. It is so liberating.

  3. I've encountered a few of these in my life. Some who are simply unaware that they are doing it. I think for a lot of persons who are like this,it is a self esteem issue and wanting to feel superior to those around them which in turn makes them feel better about themselves.

  4. This was indeed befitting for a situation I am currently facing. You have excellent timing my friend and that I do know!




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