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Friday, 20 January 2012

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: ¿30 = TOP?



A common phenomenon in the gay culture, what I’d like to call part of the ‘gay evolution’ is the change for men when they reach the ripe age of 30 or thereabouts. This change manifests in what they do in the bedroom…rather what role they play or even with closer investigation what they profess happens. These men do away with the sexual role they performed (bottoms/versatile) and suddenly they manifest themselves into ‘total tops’. Leaving me and I am sure a few others to ask, what happened?

Now I know that there are persons out there who are tops (total TOPS), who never bottomed except for that one or two times and claim they didn't like it and never will. I say ‘GOD BLESS EM, BLESS EVEN MORE THE MEN WHO WILL BOTTOM FOR THEM!’ Bless that BIG cock loving, good fuck taking guy who goes crazy for any man that knows how to work them. I've met a few of these men, hell I even F&CKED a few of them…I can see him now taking it from the back while calling out my name. WHEN DID HE BECOME A TOP? Are we a culture that feels that to be a bottom or taking dick up the ass means that you are less than a man? (Aren't we already less than men because we love other men?) Do we somehow become conscious of this at the age of maturity? Is thirty the age of maturity for gays?

This could be true since at forty most gay men are considered geriatric, which by definition means: being old and outmoded – unfashionable or obsolete; that sounds about right. So the thirty’s are the middle age – this is the time where we reflect on our lives consider our future and make steps toward achieving those goals that we have. Somehow those goals involve no longer taking dick up the ass. @ the heart of this I think is a psychological reasoning that age determines status and status determines dominance and we equate being dominance with being a top.

So in the sociology of gay males we have this different type machismo that parallels that of the straight world. And we know how that goes overtly masculine equals powerful which is a problematic deduction for me. For the gay community, the most powerful victory we have is being our TRUE selves, so then why are we fighting to be the manly man who is an extreme exaggeration of what really lies within our hearts? Think of it like this…if we like ice cream before do we suddenly not like ice cream anymore? And truth be told most of these men who profess to be tops, well…with the right person @ the right time in the right place 9 times out of 10 tend to be THE biggest bottoms! So in reality nothing’s changed it just the comfort level in admitting what they actually feel or want as opposed to what they are expected or told to feel or want.

10 comments:

  1. OK so in my opinion by the age of 27-30 we have experimented a lot and know more of what we want. When we are younger we try so many things and finally accept who we are as we get older. i however Topped one time and hated it so much that since a very young age have been strictly bottom. Now that i am over 30 i am still strictly bottom, so all those TOPs find me, cause when your looking for a Strictly TOP Man I sure have a hard time finding one :) LOL!

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  2. That is rather depressing. I would think at 30 people would be more comfortable in their sexuality, not more repressed

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  3. LEATHER: YOU ALWAYS PEAK MY CURIOSITY!

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  4. As I got older though I found myself bottoming more and more because I found I enjoy it more. I would Top when needed when I was younger but didn't like it as much as being passive and dominated by an aggressive man.

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  5. STAN: THANKS FOR THE MENTAL IMAGES!

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  6. You're something else. I don't know where you meet these 30-year-old bottom-turn-to-tops people. LOL.

    I'm approaching 40... been a bottom, has always been a bottom, and will forever be a bottom. I just luv a hard dick stroking my ass.... going in and out... fast, then slow... oh never mind. I got sidetracked. :)

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  7. Well I am over 30 and I have alway been a TOP. I have NEVER wanted or liked the thought of being a bottom. One of the reasons is because I know my know mind. That is I know how cruel and ruthless I am or can be when it comes to sex, men and power. The thought of being at the mercy of another mans cock, to be dominated by a penis is something I could never stand.

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  8. ANON: SO IF IT WASN'T FOR BEING @ THE 'MERCY' OF ANOTHER YOU'D CONSIDER BEING ON THE BOTTOM?

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