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Friday, 10 April 2009

A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP...


I found this blog entry and thought that it was something worth posting again. I don’t know who the author is but there are some sage words that stuck with me and I hope it stays with you as well…If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."


  • Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isn’t really important.
  • Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
  • If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together.
  • Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
  • You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
  • Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
  • Q. What keeps a relationship strong? Answer: Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, a shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Sharing common goals and interests. Leave a nice message on their voice mail or send a nice email.
  • Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another.
  • Learn each others family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.
  • Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain will replace the passion.
  • Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.
  • Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary.
  • The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

13 comments:

  1. Agree, TOTALLY! But Pts 1,2,4&5 resonate with this lady so much!

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  2. *SNAPS FINGERS* YES! Thanks for this post seriously Gayte!

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  3. MISS SHALLOTTE - MAYBE YOU SHOULD POINT IN HER IN THIS DIRECTION...

    PHOTOGREG - REALLY GREAT ADVICE...

    JAMAR HERROD - I BELIEVE U, SERIOUSLY...

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  4. MISS SHALLOTTE

    I do believe that you are a Lady

    GAYTE

    Did you add the last point yourself?
    Great post - great advice - I will remember to keep one eye closed when the time comes

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  5. Wow I totally agree....It is truly important to get to know someone before you make that leap to get into a relationship

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  6. THANKS FOR THIS...YOUUUUUUUUUUUU KNOW I NEEDED THIS ONE. nice!

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  7. ®‡ø - SHE CERTAINLY IS...NAH I DIDN'T ADD A THING TO THIS BLOG ENTRY...

    JOC EMO - IT IS VERY IMPORTANT...

    WONDER MAN - GLAD THAT YOU THINK SO...

    OYIN - YOU ARE WELCOME

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  8. I needed that too. it makes so much sense..... so much sense..... Gonna star this one lol.

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  9. PRIMO - GLAD YOU FOUND IT USEFUL

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  10. I needed this...at exactly this time...Thank u

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  11. TRU3LOGIC - YOU MOST CERTAINLY DO...READ THIS ONE OVER & OVER AGAIN...

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