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Friday, 06 April 2012

OLDIE, BUT GOODIE: THE DICK N' ASS GAME...




One of the most beautiful qualities of an intimate relationship is the give and take of energy that occurs between two people. In the best-case scenario, both people share the talking and listening, and the giving and receiving of support, equally. Occasionally, within any relationship, the balance shifts and one person needs to listen more, or give more. Generally, over a long period of time, even this exception will take on a balanced rhythm; we all go through times when we take more and times when we give more. However, what happens when the relationship is one-sided where sex is concerned? 

A friend of mine and I were having a conversation the other day about his recent relationship and why it ended (damn I feel like I should pay him or something because two of most recent blog entries came from conversations with him…see them here and here). During our conversation he told me that he LOVED his ex VERY much and he knows that he feels the same about him and they both still see each other from time to time. I thought they were PERFECT for each other, but he assured me that they are not…It turns out that the man he wants to spend the rest of his live with has a MAJOR problem with being penetrated by him…Now here comes the dick N’ ass game of TOP, BOTTOM or VERSATILEyou know the labels we give ourselves in order to know how we should have sex with each other? Does that make sense to you? 



I get why we take this approach ESPECIALLY if we are just hooking up, but in relationship that is going to that place we thought we couldn't reach, shouldn't we allow our feelings to guide us into the world of sex with that SPECIAL one? Why are some men SO concerned about who is going to do what and where? I find it VERY sad when something like this comes in the way of a relationship that has the potential to go very far, but experience has taught me that if a man can’t OR won’t let his partner penetrate him, his partner can’t AND won’t be satisfied in that relationship. Hence over time, the relationship will become be draining AND toxic, with the options of simply ending it OR letting it fade away…right?

8 comments:

  1. As we get older, a stiff and reliable cock becomes more and more elusive for many men. Disease, stress, depression and just plain exaustion are all dickwhackers and can take their toll on an otherwise healthy and happy relationship.

    It's difficult to be the partner who isn't getting what he needs and even more difficult for the partner who can't give it to him. Then, the combination of guilt and pre-anxiety about what often turns into a failed performance actually becomes it's own self-fulfilling prophecy.

    What happens then depends on how strong the relationship is and how much sympathy and understanding the 'deprived party' can sustain. You keep hoping for the best, you keep reassuring your partner that you love him no matter what and silently thank 'Dog' that it aint you who cant get it up.

    It's not only about sucking and fking. It's also about maintaining physical and emotional intimacy during the dry spells, remembering how good it used to be and how it's going to get good again, whether or not penetration is still on the menu.

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    1. I often wonder Noel and I getting 'old' and how things will shake out and I know that 5 years isn't that long, but I feel like we will be alright.

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  2. Inequality sucks, no matter what forum its introduced into, & sexual inequality sucks mad donkey dong. To climax is the root of MOST sexual activity & it's equally important that one gets their rocks off, as it is that their partner reciprocates that pleasure. This should become the mission & the goal, no matter which position one favors or is assigned to during coitus.

    One.

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    1. I didn't think about inequality when it came to sex so thanks for bringing that to this entry.

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  3. As another mainly top in a relationship with another mainly top I am really feeling this blog post.

    Yeah, these relationships can be difficult...you have to work on them.

    Thanks for sharing gaytekeeper

    www.dlconfessionssequel.com

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    1. So no one gets to be on top in your relationship?

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  4. Frottage, oral stimulation, and mutual masturbation . . . No fuss, good stuff

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