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Are you one of those
starry-eyed guys? The ones we call a dreamer despite your eagerness to grumble
about the world on its rear end? Deep down I believe that there is a place of happiness for
all of us if we can just get over that one thing we've grown to hate most: LABELS!
It's easier to use them to describe groups of people or
individuals. The problem with generals, however, is that the majority usually
wins. What I mean is, when enough people label us as gay men, for instance, as
this or that it becomes our living stereotype.
Don't believe me? Go ask your mom or 10-year-old niece
to draw a picture of a gay man and see what they come up with. Similarly, we
paint pictures of ourselves, especially when it comes to what we look for in
other men.
Raise your hand if you've spent most of your gay dating time
with a fuzzy picture of what you want in a man? What about what kind of man you are or want to be? OK, everyone except that two guys in
the corner put your hands down.
Frequent trips to the club or gym would make us think there
is only one type of guy all gay men want. Yes, you know him. He's our standard,
gorgeous, fit, perfect against which we gauge ourselves. We tell ourselves we
can't date him. Society tells us we can't live without him. But do we really want him? And if so, who is
he exactly?
Personally, I don't allow anyone to tell me who or what I want. I know that I am different, an individual, my own man. So, who do I want? The man of my dreams? He knows who he is and what he means to me. That's really all that matters. By the way, most of you already know him.
ReplyDeleteROGER: WE KNOW HIM?
ReplyDeleteWell said and so true - we all want someone ideal, and sometimes ideal is already in front of you!
ReplyDeleteGreat post. I found myself telling myself that there was no way I could approach this beautiful man I saw the other day in Walmart. I immediately recognized it as fear or rejection and insecurity on my part. Whomever is THE ONE for me I pray that I recognize him when the time comes.
ReplyDeleteAgain.........great post!
STEVEA: TALK ABOUT EYES WIDE SHUT.
ReplyDeleteJOSH: YOU WILL & HE YOU.
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