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Tuesday, 14 June 2011

¿WOULD YOU CHOOSE THIS LIFE? - PART II

Before you answer the question in PART I of this entry, riddle me this: what is this young man to do when he is trying to create his idea of a gay man when MANY of us struggle with a variety of generic, off-the-rack prototypes? What does it mean when you reflect on this question and realize that perception is a bitch? Many of our actions are either self-serving, thoughtless, shallow, cowardly, vain, vengeful, manipulative or all of the above; too many of us go through life thinking that the hetero man is the leading man. We buy into the stereotypes of who we are. The perception that gay men are weak man-less men, has become a reality for too many of us. I know, because I used to be that way and get why he is that way as well.

But contrary to popular belief gay men do NOT want to be women. Many of us like being male DESPITE what society says! The same society that will continue to live in the light of darkness until they open their minds and hearts and engage in an intelligent, unbiased conversation about same-gender-loving people. Doesn’t this young man’s action(s) display the trickle-down effect of homo hatred on our gay folks? I wonder which is better his effort to try to accept his sexuality and he potentially kills himself or  pretending to be ‘straight’. The societal sanctioned homophobia that has been a festering wound on us needs to be disinfected @ its core and heal once and for all. Because if they REALLY feel that we chose our sexual orientation, ask yourself did you choose yours? Gays, lesbians and bisexuals do not choose their orientation any more than do heterosexuals.

It is VERY sad that people have such hatred towards us; it’s as if LOVE is somewhat against their basic instincts. They believe they're better than homosexuals because they are heterosexuals…I guess they NEED to believe they are the higher life form.  But in the end, the ONE thing we all have in common is that OUR sexual orientation AND their personal identities are in conflict with the strict demands of traditional gender limited behavior. While it is clear that we all make up a highly diverse community, the hatred society has for us keeps many of us prisoners. How can this young man feel like it is okay to be with men when we have VERY little shining moments of optimism? In his mind, we are a small minority of the population. On our own we cannot force society to give us the equality that we deserve. Or can we?

8 comments:

  1. Certain segment of society needs someone or group to pick on. If it is not GLTB it will be some other group. This segment of our society, unfortunately, is undeveloped in some aspect. Meanwhile, the more in tuned and loving part of our world will continue to understand and embrace all of our brothers and sisters. All men are created equal!

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  2. BELTON B: ONE WE ALL WILL SEE THAT ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL. THANKS FOR YOUR COMMENT.

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  3. I was recently at my mother's and we were watching Ellen. Out of the blue, my mother said, "Why are so many people choosing to be gay all of a sudden?" I said, "Did you ever wake up one morning, stretch and ask yourself should I be heterosexual or homosexual?" She said NO, OF COURSE NOT!!! To which I replied, "Neither does anyone else." But that all said, if I had my life to live over and was actually Given the choice, I would choose to be gay. I cannot imagine another life or lifestyle, or rather, I Can imagine it and breathe a sigh of relief that I am as I am. It hasn't always been easy, but it's always been good.

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  4. ANON: ISN'T IT SOMETHING HOW MANY PERSONS THAT AREN'T HOMOSEXUAL THINK WE CHOOSE TO BE THIS WAY? NONETHELESS, THOSE OF US THAT KNOW BETTER NEED TO LIVE DESPITE WHAT OTHERS THINK AND/OR BELIEVE. I AM GLAD THAT YOU FEEL THE SAME WAY I DO, THANKS FOR YOUR COMMENT.

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  5. We all live with stereotypes and marginalization. If not one group, then another. It isn't right but it happens because each group needs to feel it is better than another. Probably, it is the legacy of the proverbial, yet real, "blame game."

    What is important is that each and everyone of us same gender loving men strive to be the best that we can be within our own individual lives. To be true to ourselves and to BE ourselves independent and regardless of what others may believe or think. Communal pride is important. Equally important is our respective pride in the men that we are and in loving and respecting ourselves for that very reason.

    Excellent article here, my friend!

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  6. ROGER: THAT OLD 'BLAME GAME' HUH? I WONDER IF IT WILL EVER GET TIRED? COMMUNAL PRIDE? YOU MAKE MY SOUL SMILE WHEN YOU MENTIONED THOSE WORDS!

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  7. OMG... I love this post ,you guys hit the nail right on the head... I cannot tell you enough how much I hate to hear someone say being gay is a choice or you chose to be gay....that is one of the most stupidest comments anyone could ever make.

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  8. VABROTHA1: MOST PPL THAT MAKE THAT STATEMENT KNOW DEEP IN THEMSELVES THAT IT IS STUPID.

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