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Tuesday, 13 July 2010

GREY MATTERS...




THIS IS WELL WORTH READING…It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine and a white woman wrote about her opinion of black women & a black man responded to it. Please take a moment and read this and let know what your thoughts are on this subject. OF COURSE I have a few of my own but I will reserve those for later…SHE WROTE:  





Dear Jamie,




I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female’s attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.




Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Blackmen about 




why we are so appealing and coveted by them.




Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. 




Don't be mad with us, White women, because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, Let me know. 





Thanks,




Disgusted White Girl.





A BLACK MAN’S RESPONSE:




Dear Jamie:




I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Black men.




I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why  Black men  date white women Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Black men  dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Black girls in my neighborhood were raised in strict homes. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.




Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L.  Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women  

And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spotlight, 




who openly or secretly desire Blackwomen over white women.  Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a “Disgusted White girl" to be misinformed, Stop 

thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Indian Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. 








READ YOUR HISTORY!





  1. It was the Black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.
  2. It was the Black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
  3. It is the Black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being Black and being a woman. And, through all this, still they Rise! It is because of the Black women’s strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them.
  4. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.  Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about a Black woman. Their strong  spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to  overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe  in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential  while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with  Black women.  




I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have What the Black woman has.




BOTTOM LINE:  

If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call.  But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.  

No offense taken, none given.

Signed,

Black Royalty  

16 comments:

  1. I say "whatever" to the brotha. I agree with the Disgusted White Girl.
    Black Women are angry, do carry much baggage, materialistic, etc.
    Why did he mention that black women were raised strict, and black men went to white women for easy sex? Black women, or the black culture now, is lewd and sexually active. We are not chaste, so sex has nothing to do with it.

    Anyway, I recommend the movie DIARY OF A TIRED BLACK MAN. It speaks more volumes than I could.

    It's a shame that the black family is broken up, that 90% of black children are raised by a single parent. It's terrible that black men and women are more adversary than friend... but that is the truth as it stands. And I don't have all the answers, but part of the solution is black women need to learn to pick their mates better. They are chasing the flash over substance, until their life has been ruined... then they want to go find the good man. But he might not want you after 3 kids or all that emotional baggage and issues.

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  2. This letter reminds me of an essay that Jill Scott wrote about the Black women's perspective of interracial relationships. I agree with Black Royalty; this country was built on the backs of Black women, as such, they have a reason to be "angry," boisterous and to demand more from the men they let in their lives. While White women were living in gilded cages, depressed about having to stay home with their children (with the assistance of a Mammy!), Black women were taking care of two and three homes at one time, not to mention trying to build the self esteem of their emasculated Black men.
    There is a lot of displaced anger in the Black community period. In regards to Black women with White men, the docility and control is exactly the same.

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  3. Both letters make me sick. Black people are this, white people behave like that... damn are we two completely different species now? sounds like a documentary about pandas and koalas.

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  4. both letters were loaded but both had valid points.

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  5. The original letter was obviously a plant to fire up the target audience. Please! You'd think with the endless supply of propaganda and crowd-baiting swill flooding the media (most of it foisted as 'news') that people would wake up and reject having their strings yanked.

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  6. I could feel where the white female was coming from and I have heard this before from white females in reference to Black women, but this does not stand true for most Black females or white females.

    There was a time when brothers didn't cross the color lines, but those days ar long gone, men choose to be with females of other races all the time and white men have started openly dating the sistahs.

    As long as the person has morals, good judgement and values it doesn't matter what color the person they date.

    The brother has very valid points too. I 've heard his story from other brothas, yes fear stands in the way. Brothas know how strong the sistahs are and have always been.

    To each his own.

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  7. Yes they BOTH gave valid points BUT they BOTH also sounded ignorant at some point. Black men date white women because they THINK a white women will take HIS BULLSHIT(and a black women won't) but that is NOT really true...look at TIGER WOODs EX WIFE. Fact of the matter is although it may sound mean that a black guy just simply has to find THE WEAK FEMALE to take his bullshit...and THAT female comes IN ALLL races, so that notion a white women is more likely to take bullshit IS bullshit in it self. For some black women it is the same in a way...black women date white men because they THINK a white men will treat them BETTER and be faithful...BULLSHIT. A man gonna be A MAN regardless of race.

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  8. MECHADUDE2001 – I WONDERED ABOUT THAT PART OF THE LETTER MYSELF…GUESS HE WAS SPEAKING TO BLACK WOMEN A GENERATION AGO…

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  9. CLOUDIA – SO MUCH IN THAT HHHMMM…HUH?

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  10. CREOLE BOI – I WOULD AGREE THAT BLACKS HELPED BUILD AMERICA, BUT IT WASN’T THEM ALONE…

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  11. EDUARDO – I COULDN’T AGREE WITH YOU MORE!

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  12. ANONYMOUS – YEP, YOU ARE SO RIGHT ABOUT THAT!

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  13. ANONYMOUS – THEY CERTAINLY WOULD NOT REJECT HAVING THEIR STRINGS YANKED!

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  14. CHET – AS WITH EVERYTHING ON THIS PLANET, I THINK WHEN SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING ABOUT A GROUP OF PERSONS, YOU TAKE IT ON IF IT HITS WHERE YOU LIVE…MEANING IF SHE IS TALKING ABOUT YOU THEN…

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  15. DONN M. – I COULD SIT N’ CHAT WITH YOU ALL DAY LONG!

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