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Friday, 30 October 2009

¿BEING SINGLE OR IN A RELATIONSHIP?



I know a number of persons who are single OR in relationships, and they and can't seem to cement that personal connection they seek with another OR themselves. Some of them are totally ok with being single and others are depressed by it because they REALLY want to find a partner to share their life with. Thinking about this subject, a few questions come to mind: why is it SO difficult to find persons that make a conscious effort to celebrate being single? Does being single represents loneliness and being in a relationship doesn’t? No matter what answers you come up with, they leave many of us with VERY little room to recognize that if you are single OR partnered, either WON’T work if we don’t learn to LOVE, HONOR N’ CHERISH either situation. I find that many of us are plagued by our horrible views about either choice; and while those feelings are both are valid AND acceptable, I say we short-change ourselves by embracing such thoughts. So if you had your way, would you be single OR in a relationship? 

8 comments:

  1. I am single and I have to confess I love it, primarily because I am a recluse by nature. I have grown accustomed to my silence and my space. My home is a very private, almost spiritual space because it is where I recharge from having to deal with the world and people.

    That being said, as I grow older I would like to experience a relationship. But because I have been single for so long I wonder about my ability to be accomodating and open.

    But as you say, Gayte-keeper, it is about loving, honoring and cherishing. I think when those qualities are in place, it makes for a beautiful experience, no matter what your station.

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  2. If I had my own way I would be single for life. But sometimes you're not in control and love takes you over.

    However, I have single friends and they make single life depressing. It makes me sad because being in a r.ship is not a bed of roses as some people make it out to be. I would like to see single people loving themselves more and stop seeing relationships as the best thing to complete their lives.

    Complete your life being single. That's why being independent is so critical.

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  3. THOMAS - YOU'VE TAKEN THE TIME TO LOVE THE ONE PERSON IN THIS WORLD MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE AND THAT'S YOURSELF...SO I AM SURE YOU WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM LETTING THAT SPECIAL PERSON IN YOUR LIFE...

    CORVEDACOSTA - THERE ARE VERY FEW PERSONS ON THIS PLANET THAT ARE GOOD SINGLE OR IN A RELATIONSHIP & YOU STRIKE ME AS ONE OF THOSE MEN...

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  4. My Husband & I celebrated our 30th anniversary this month:
    http://nopoboho.blogspot.com/2009/10/30-years.html

    I sometime fantasize about being single.

    Love your blog!

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  5. STEPHEN - CONGRATS...WE ARE ALL PROOF THAT WE CAN DO THIS!!!WELL FANTASIES ARE WHAT THEY ARE...RIGHT?

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  6. i enjoyed the short time i was single between relationships, but i much prefer being with someone. i'm now in the best relationship for me because there's honesty, communication, good times together, the right amount of alone time, and learning from and growing with each other.

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  7. When I was single I was happy, but I think that is because I was trying to build my myself and my life to be something my true love would be drawn to. It was nice to be sexually free and for decisions to be my own, but I was lonely sometimes and had bad spells. Ultimately, we put the spin on our lives and create the energy it has, so any bad times, I created.

    Now, that I have found that true love, and it has had almost a decade to grow, I don't miss anything about my single life. There are things I would like to add or build to my married life, but you couldn't pay me enough to be single again. That would be rough. I've worked too hard to get to this point, to give it up for things I might think I miss from my previous single life.

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  8. PHOTOGREG - BEING WITH SOMEONE BRINGS OUT IN US THAT CAN'T BE EXPLAINED...I LOVE RELATIONSHIPS! ESPECIALLY THOSE OF A HOMOSEXUAL NATURE...

    KYLE - THAT'S WHAT BEING SINGLE IS ALL ABOUT: BUILDING YOURSELF SO THAT WHEN THE DAY COMES, YOU'D BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES...YOU COULDN'T PAY ME EITHER TO BE SINGLE AGAIN...

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