Sunday 31 August 2008
Saturday 30 August 2008
DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL (JUST ONE OF DEM DAYS)" is a song by R&B singer Monica. It was written by producer Dallas Austin, Willie James Baker, Derek Simmons and rapper LL Cool J for her debut studio album, Miss Thang (1995), and is built around a sample of the record "You're Getting a Little too Smart" as peformed by The Detroit Emeralds. Released as Monica's debut single in the United States during the second quarter of 1995 (see 1995 in music), the song saw a large impact on the charts: While it spent two weeks on top of the Billboard Hot R&B/Hip-Hop Songs chart, it also reached number 2 on the Billboard Hot 100, and the top 10 in Australia and New Zealand. This song really got my attention and I fell in love with Miss Thang, she became my second Toni Braxton.
Friday 29 August 2008
I have always been one that believes that as you grow and experience life that you handle things differently. And NOTHING proves this point more than a relationship. My current relationship has been going for 10 LOVELY months and though 95% of that is filled with good times it AMAZES me how the 5% could REALLY put a hurting on things. This 5% of hurt has been living in my midst for the past 2 days and it has been interesting to say the least. Nonetheless, I believe that a relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another. And usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we've found common ground. But I have found out that apart of relating is finding ways to make things that seem to be opposites come together. I’ve often found that when I choose a relationship, I try to fit another person into my predetermined ideal. When they don't fit perfectly and there is a difference of opinion I try to make them over which is NEVER a good thing. Therefore I have realized that taking a STEP BACK, giving him some time to cool off helps with the tense moments. Separating ourselves from the heat of the moment, I find that the emotional trigger that began the argument has little to do with the present situation, but it has brought up feelings related to something else entirely. In our case we are ALWAYS on different topics so it PAYS to get a breather. He gets SO consumed with being heard that he is NOT listening, which presents something interesting in itself. I know that I can say things that are hurtful so I try to use as much tact as I possibly can so I can defuse the situation before it gets the best of us. And as much as this takes its toll on us, the makeup SEX is something that I can definitely become addicted to, despite the drama AND excitement. I guess DEEP down inside I know that there is NOTHING wrong with an argument because we STILL LOVE each other through it all. I mean if he is the man that I want and NOT someone that I’ve imagined I know he is the my IMPERFECT man which works for me. Being with him makes me see that an HONEST relationship is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, and us finding a way to share our lives together. The good AND the bad…in this regard I get to LOVE him all over again for the FIRST time AND that makes our relationship something EXTREMELY special. SO STEPPING BACK FROM HURTING EACH CAN ACTUALLY SAVE US FOR US.
Thursday 28 August 2008
I DON’T UNDERSTAND PEOPLE! Can someone tell me how a relationship can be fine one minute then change in a second? I ask this question because I was having a chat session with someone that I thought I could call a friend, but it turned out that he is just a mere acquaintance. Our chat session began with the normal pleasantries…the hellos and well wishes were exchanged; but they were replaced by questions AND bewilderment on my part. What started out so innocent quickly made me realize that I was having a conversation with someone that has obviously stayed away from because they didn’t get the outcome they desired where I was concerned. I don’t know about anyone else, but I was taught that if two persons were to go a journey they BOTH have to want it. Nevertheless, he is here asking me how my room-mate was doing when in fact he has his cell number and could send him a text and find out…but if he does that, that means that he is somehow he is tapping into my world and that would be terrible. RIGHT? I was just being a friend and he wanted something more, but his heart wasn’t in it and my heart wanted someone else. This situation QUICKLY reminded me of the persons that I’ve met that I NO longer have day-to-day contact with and it saddens me. Why is that if one doesn’t get what he OR she feels they should, they just distance themselves? Everyone say they want friendship, love AND acceptance but it turns out that they don’t. So when I point that out I end up being the boy on the playground that the other kids avoid. I know there is NO crystal ball to predict how things will turn out; but I have to wonder if somehow I am meant to be alone? I get that there are some people that will come along in life and stay for a while but I can’t help but wonder why that is? I can only wonder why we make friends, have family members OR fall in love to have to walk away from those relationships. And I can’t help but feel angry AND disappointed because of the silly notion that I am meeting folks that would somehow turn the community around. Foolish of me believed that as the world evolves, humanity is learning to work from the heart. I guess some child-like things never leave us huh? If only we realize that the expectations society ask of us are NOT what we need. It is ONLY when we are spiritual beings we can be free and NOT feel bound by the superficiality of this world. AS OF LATE I HAVE DECIDED TO CHOOSE TRUE CONNECTIONS & TAKE A SELFISH ATTITUDE WHEN IT COMES TO MY LIFE. I HAVE DECIDED TO PUT ME FIRST! THE FOLKS THAT I MEET TAKE SO MUCH OUT OF ME & LEAVE ME FEELING HALF OF WHAT I AM. MY EYE IS ON THE BIGGER PICTURE & I CAN’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS DO OR SAY. THOUGH I MAKE THIS PROMISE TO MYSELF, I STILL DON’T UNDERSTAND…
Wednesday 27 August 2008
Tuesday 26 August 2008
Monday 25 August 2008
Sunday 24 August 2008
The other day I was telling a friend about a dream I had some years back about judgment day when I was boy. In this dream God was in this chariot with white horses and reading from this scroll. His voice was VERY commanding AND firm yet there was something fearful about him. I guess it was TOO late to hide OR try to turn your life around; but as I grew up I couldn’t help but to wonder ¿WHO IS GOD? As far as my personal views, I was raised Catholic home where going to church EVERY Sunday wasn't an option. In church I was told God cared about me and my actions affected God and his mood towards me. Imagine how I felt when I realized that I was THE thing God hated most? Suffice to say I DON’T BELIEVE THAT GOD IS WHAT WE SAY OR BELIEVE ABOUT HIM; I don’t think that God is a man with a white beard overlooking our doings from the clouds. That creation of God is the concept of religion that is NOT @ all working for us. These folks would have us believe that if you are NOT for God then you are against him…which will lead you into the fiery pits of hell. Now I don’t believe this is case, but I do believe that God would not create each and every one of us without some way of letting us know who he is…RIGHT? I think that knowing who God is accepting everything that he has created on this planet. I feel that seeking WHOLENESS in the deepest sense of the meaning is the only way we can TRULY know who God is; and placing the identification of who he is in the religious realm is a slap in his face. The fact that most of the world uses an ancient manual to figure him out shows that we have limit our thinking N’ beliefs for it is TOO vague and who needs that? SO I SAY TAKE THE TIME TO FIND OUT WHO GOD IS IN YOUR WAY, FORGET WHAT YOU’VE BEEN TOLD & BELIEVE. IF YOU WERE TO FOLLOW YOUR TRUE PATH, YOU FIND THE AUTHENTIC POWER & THE REASSURANCE IN YOUR HEART THAT I HAVE WHEN IT COMES TO GOD. SO IF YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHO GOD IS, YOU NEED TO KNOW THAT ONE MUST BELIEVE IN THE UNBELIEVABLE PURPOSE OF A BEING WHO IS SO POWERFUL THAT WE ARE GODS OURSELVES…
Saturday 23 August 2008
"FREE YOUR MIND" is the name of a Grammy Award-nominated hit single released by the all-female R&B group En Vogue in
Friday 22 August 2008
THE WHOLE HIV/AIDS STORY IS, RIDDLED WITH TRICKS, EXPERIMENTS, FAKE VACCINES, SCANDALS & LIES! I have seen and or heard enough about this disease to make this BLATANT statement and I stand FIRM by it. HIV/AIDS was quickly stereotyped as a GAY DISEASE 25 years ago because most of the victims were homosexuals. Though there are about 40 million persons world-wide are living with this disease today, I am sure that NOT all of them are homosexual. Nonetheless, the number of people infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is 40 percent higher than the Centers for Disease Control has recorded earlier which brings me to say that HIV/AIDS prevention is NOT just a GAY thing; but something that involves ALL of us. Therefore, it is my belief that THE TIME IS NOW FOR SELF-PRESERVATION! We live in a world that breeds myth AND dangerous prejudices that spread the virus and the stereotyping that come along with it. I find it sad that is has literally come down to this, but did it have to come to this? I SAY NO! The mere fact that HIV/AIDS settled in the community of the world is NO surprise…well @ least not to me. We are faced with an epidemic that we know how to prevent yet we do NOTHING. This disease is such an epidemic because we have allowed it to thrive in the shadows, with too little open discussion and leadership to conquer it. There needs to be some SERIOUS initiatives when it comes to this disease and has to come from us having a frank series of conversations with us. I read somewhere how there were these town meetings in this country where they started with the clergy, the leaders whom many look to for guidance. I felt that something like that should be done world-wide. But as GREAT as that would be, there still is a need for more. I thought since HIV/AIDS has such a unique effect on men both gay AND straight alike I felt that we need to have meeting FOR MEN-BETWEEN MEN. This could be accompanied by a SEX IN THE CITY meeting for women and REAL SIDE OF SEX forum for youngsters. If we are serious about PRESERVING ourselves these need to be a NO holds barred, civil discussions, led by well-known popular figures, such as nationally syndicated radio personalities, popular pastors AND government officials. We have such a need for REAL honest discussions about sex and ALL the things that come along with that we can’t afford to waste anymore time. @ The end of it all, I feel that there needs to be two important themes we need to emphasize if we are to get a handle on this disease and that is PREVENTION BY ENGAGING IN SAFE SEX WHICH MEANS KNOWING YOUR PARTNER & TESTING FOR EVERY PERSON WITHIN THE COMMUNITY. I am of the assumption that a knowledgeable community is a secure community and though we have a long way to go I feel that we are too important to this planet to destroy ourselves in this manner. IT IS SAID THAT EACH ERA HAS ITS PHENOM, THE THING THAT CHANGES OUR ASSUMPTIONS OF WHAT CAN HAPPEN TO MANKIND…THIS IS THE AGE OF HIV/AIDS & IT PRESENTS US THE OPPORTUNITY TO GAIN MASTERY IN SAFE GUARDING OUR SPECIES. HOWEVER, MANY OF US ARE AFRAID TO STEP OUT INTO THE WORLD & MAKE IT HAPPEN…WE ARE JUST HANGING BACK DREAMING, WAITING & WATCHING FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN THAT WON’T BECAUSE WE DON’T HAVE ANY SURVIVAL INSTINCTS LEFT WHEN IT COMES TO HIV/AIDS.
Thursday 21 August 2008
Wednesday 20 August 2008
GET A PHOTO – Prior to meeting, be sure to get a photo of your date. Ask as many detailed questions about the picture as possible, including the date it was taken. Save the picture in an accessible place on your computer.
TALK ON THE PHONE FIRST – There’s nothing wrong with having a conversation before meeting blindly. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they communicate. You don't have to be psychic to get a bad feeling after the conversation or to realize that you may not be a good match after all.
MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE – Picking a mutually comfortable meeting place alleviates tension and gives you an out should you feel uncomfortable. Meet in a public place with many people in the surrounding area.
MAP AN ESCAPE ROUTE – After your meeting, take a route other than your normal path should he attempt to follow you without our consent or mean you harm.
KNOW HIS SEXUAL HISTORY – The best way to protect your body (remember HIV and Syphilis are still alive and well) is to know the status of your sexual partner. Some men lie about their HIV status. Warning signs are refusal to answer the question, ambiguity about the date of their last STD tests, ambiguity about the number of partners they've been with, and willingness to have sex without a condom among others. Protect yourself by assuming your partner is positive until proven otherwise.
NEVER WALK IN A DARK APARTMENT OR HOUSE – If you can’t see, you can’t secure your safety; also trust your instincts and go with you gut. If it doesn’t feel right, usually it isn’t, hold off thinking with your other head.
CARRY SOME INSURANCE – Bring something like a knife or pepper spray so that you can easily use it to fight for your life. Things happen so fast and there is but a split second between life and death, make sure you walk away with yours.
Tuesday 19 August 2008
Monday 18 August 2008
Sunday 17 August 2008
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH LOVE TO HAVE A LIFE FULLY SUSTAIN LIFE.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH STRENGTH SO YOU CAN LET GO OF ANYTHING THAT IS BLOCKING YOUR BLESSINGS.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH HOPE SO THAT YOUR FAITH CAN GO BEYOND WHAT YOU KNOW.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH SUN TO KEEP YOUR ATTITUDE BRIGHT NO MATTER HOW GRAY THE DAY MAY APPEAR.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH RAIN TO APPRECIATE THE SUN EVEN MORE.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH HAPPINESS TO KEEP YOUR SPIRIT ALIVE AND EVERLASTING.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH PAIN SO THAT EVEN THE SMALLEST OF JOYS IN LIFE MAY APPEAR BIGGER.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH GAIN TO SATISFY YOUR WANTING.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH LOSS TO APPRECIATE ALL THAT YOU POSSESS.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH HELLOS TO GET YOU THROUGH THE FINAL GOOD-BYE.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH MIRACLES TO HEAL YOUR SOUL.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH COMMON SENSE TO KNOW THAT DENYING YOUR GUT INSTINCT CAUSES MORE HARM THAN GOOD.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH PASSION SO YOU CAN OVERCOME YOUR SELF-LIMITING BELIEFS.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH TRUST SO YOU DON’T DOUBT YOUR NEEDS.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH DETERMINATION SO YOU CAN ALIGN YOURSELF WITH THE SOURCE OF LIFE.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH VISION TO GO AROUND THE ROCK WHEN IT STANDS IN YOUR WAY.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH KNOWLEDGE TO REMOVE UNCONSTRUCTIVE CRITICSIM FROM YOUR LIFE.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH CHAOS THAT YOU SEEK OUT PEACE N’ QUIET.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH SUCCESS THAT YOU DO NOT LIVE OFF THE SUCCESS OF OTHERS.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH INDIVIDUALITY SO THAT YOU CAN BE SEEN AS YOU ARE & NOT WHAT OTHERS THINK YOU OUGHT TO BE.
- I WISH YOU ENOUGH OPPORTUNITIES THAT WILL CONTINUE TO GIVE YOU AN OPEN MIND.
I WISH YOU ENOUGH…They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them but then an entire life to forget them. So with that said, I hope that we remember the moments AND enjoy life. Because life, in all of its fullness, is happening right now. While we are elsewhere, beautiful opportunities AND moments are being passed over and lost to the flow of time. And though we cannot possibly fully experience each leaf that falls to the ground, there NOTHING wrong with trying. Life must be attended to, and if we are wise, we can enjoy it at the same time. It is all about awaken ourselves to the moment we are living right now by taking a deep breath and simply looking around. @ The end of the day it is all about BALANCING ourselves between the present moment AND eternity.
Saturday 16 August 2008
VISION OF LOVE is a pop/R&B ballad written by Mariah Carey and Ben Margulies, and produced by Rhett Lawrence for Carey's debut album. It was released as the album's first single in the second quarter of 1990 in the