Monday 30 June 2008
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BAREBACK THIS…The number of young HOMOSEXUAL men being newly diagnosed with HIV infection is rising by 12 percent a year, with the steepest upward trend we need to do what ever it takes to curb this statistic. This double-digit increase in young gay men is about 10 times higher than in the homosexual community overall, where the number of new infections is going up about 1.5 percent a year. This report suggests that a SECOND WAVE of the AIDS epidemic is underway in gay community. @ This stage we should be the gay men that represent a NEW generation that has not been personally affected by AIDS as those we came before us; however, we are racking up numbers faster than we can put our clothing back on. I only wish that when we see that HIV is on the rise by 15 percent yearly, we need to realize that EPIDEMIC is TOTALLY out of control. There was this study published online last month in the American Journal of Public Health showed that prevention messages tailored for gay black men can work. Researchers recruited "opinion leaders" in the gay communities of three cities in North Carolina. The people were trained to talk to their peers not only about ways to protect themselves from HIV but also about other issues, such as homophobia in some black churches and racism. A year later, the frequency of unprotected high-risk intercourse was down 30 percent in the three gay communities, and the number or people who said they always used condoms were up a similar amount. Though these trends can help with the fight against HIV I feel that we need to show HIV for what it really is; a disease that is hurting this planet. I feel that we need unearth the underbellies of our society and face the REAL truth. We need to get in the trenches and face this enemy head on before it completely invades our lives. The sad thing is that MOST gay men no longer fear HIV and there is an INCREASED apathy over the transmission of the disease. It is as if we believe the virus is unavoidable or that the virus has been controlled, resulting in longer lives for those infected. However, HIV is STILL alive AND well. And this LIVE FOR THE MOMENT thing that GAY men have adopted is fool hearted. SURE, SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM MAY INCREASE YOUR PLEASURE, BUT THE RISKS FAR OUTWEIGH ANY MOMENT OF ECSTASY…A MOMENT OF PLEASURE CAN LEAD TO A LIFETIME OF ILLNESS.
WOMEN & HIV…While there are many unanswered questions about HIV's ongoing spread, one thing is clear: THE HIV VIRUS DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN! Either can be infected, and both can infect others. But there are considerable differences between men living with HIV and women living with HIV. Infection rates and infection prevalence are not the same across the sexes, and there are needs and concerns unique to women living with the disease. Let’s take a look at women and HIV. What are those differences and how do they impact women who live with this disease? Here are some facts:
- Today, roughly 40 million people worldwide are living with HIV.
- It’s estimated that 50 percent of those people living with the disease are women.
- While men still make up the majority of HIV cases in the United States, about 300,000 women are living with HIV.
- The proportion of HIV cases that are women has tripled from about eight percent to 27 percent since 1985.
- From 2000 to 2004, the number of men living with HIV has increased by seven percent while the number of women infected has increased 10 percent.
There are some disturbing trends emerging in the world with regard to HIV and women. In this time of increasing HIV infection among women, young women and women of color have been the hardest hit. It’s obvious that women are being impacted by HIV at an alarming rate. But why is this? If HIV does not discriminate, how can this be explained? The sad truth is that women are more vulnerable to HIV infection in many ways. There are vulnerabilities to HIV that are unique to women. These help to account for the differences in infection rates between men and women worldwide. Some of those vulnerabilities include:
- Physical Differences - Women are especially susceptible to heterosexual transmission physically because the mucosal lining of the vagina offers a large surface area to be exposed to HIV-infected seminal fluid.
- Easier to Transmit from Men to Women than Women to Men – Again, anatomical differences between men and women mean transmission from men to women is easier than the other way around. Much like the rectal mucosa makes transmission during anal intercourse easier; the mucosal lining of the vagina offers a large surface area to be exposed to infected seminal fluid. Plus, the vagina is more susceptible to small tears and irritation during intercourse than is the penis. These properties offer a portal for HIV to enter the body and infect the woman.
- Gender Inequities – Especially in developing countries, prevailing gender inequities leads to higher-risk behaviors. For instance, in many cultures women are not free to refuse sex or to insist on safer sex using condoms. Men assume a position of power and control over women, minimizing the amount of input and consent from women. In addition, women have less access to employment and education in these developing countries. Often, the sex trade is one of the few options for women trying to earn money and support themselves and their children. Finally, sexual violence against women is very high in some areas, again exposing them to high-risk behaviors without their consent.
What Challenges Do Women Face? Obviously, HIV impacts anyone who has the disease, whether male or female. An HIV diagnosis, while not a death sentence, will most certainly be a life-changing event. However, there are some challenges that are unique to women:
- There is an increased risk of reproductive illnesses including vaginal yeast infections, pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), Human Papillomavirus (HPV) and cervical cancer.
- Because women often have lower incomes than men or work lower paying jobs with minimal benefits, women have less access to HIV care and affordable medical insurance.
- Women are more likely to postpone health care due to illness or lack of transportation than are men.
- Women assume more family care responsibilities and are more likely to sacrifice their own health care in order to care for their family, especially their children.
Is Anything Being Done? The disparities between men and women who live with HIV have not gone unnoticed. In fact, the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases (NIAID) have placed a new emphasis in women-focused HIV research, funding and sponsoring studies around the world. Once such example is the research being done in hopes of developing a microbicide gel or cream that would provide an inexpensive and easy-to-use product that would allow women to assume more control over safer sex. While work is being done to close the gap between men and women, the fact remains that a disparity does exist. Until that gap is closed, we will see infection rates among women continue to climb, something none of us can really afford to let happen.
Thursday 26 June 2008
Wednesday 25 June 2008
- PROTOCOL: FIRST OR SECOND? Whether it's walking through a door, ordering dinner, or taking a bite out of the freshly baked cookies you have made together, if your partner always have to go first this could indicate self- centeredness. Are you willing to always be the giver?
- POLITICS: LIBERAL OR CONSERVATIVE? How your partner views what is right or wrong in a political sense tells you a lot about his deep inner beliefs about society, and ultimately, the way he will approach your relationship issues. Will his views cause a rift in your relationship?
- TELEVISION: SITCOMS OR NEWS? If his tendency is to watch "escape" TV programs versus "newsy/event" oriented ones, you can learn a lot about one's intellect. Do you want a mate who can keep up with your every day interest in what is going on in the world or a person you can run away with to avoid the world we live in?
- MONEY: FLASH OR STASH? If your partner throws money around while dating, he might well be reckless with your joint finances when you move in together. Do you want to hook up with a tightwad or splurger?
- STRESS: FREAK OR PEAK? Under Pressure, does he go to pieces or rise to the top of his game? If the answer is the former, every minor incident in your relationship might become a crisis. Do you like a lot of drama?
- CONVERSATION: ABOUT YOU OR HIM? As you first get to know each other does he always talk about himself first or you? If he is usually the topic priority do not expect that to change. Can you subordinate yourself to the world revolving around him?
- PETS: WARM OR ALOOF? Believe it or not, the way in which he treats animals will not be dissimilar to how he treats your children. How do you want him to treat your loved ones?
- COMMUNICATION: LISTENS OR IGNORES? If you have something you want to talk about and he tunes you out as a general rule, can you cope?
- STRANGERS: KIND OR RUDE? How he treats those they do not know (waiters, grocery clerks) often reflects on how he will treat people in general, including you, shortly after the glow wears off.
- PRIORITIES: FAMILY OR WORK? You can tell almost immediately where a person's preferences lie in terms of what comes first (a family member's illness or a business trip) by the choices he makes when faced with an "either/or" situation. Do you care if he leaves on the next plane to present the such-and-such report if you or the kids have pneumonia?
- APPEARANCE: FAR OF FIT? How he regards his appearance screams loudly about his sense of self-esteem. Those who eat sensibly, workout reasonably, and who take pride in their appearance are the ones who have a great sense of self. Does he really have self-confidence or might it be a front?
- FAITH: STRONG OR WEAK? If you want a peak at his soul, learn more about his spirituality, or lack of it. What a person believes deep down is often what shapes the way in which they conduct their day-to-day affairs. What is your mate's "words to live by?"
Tuesday 24 June 2008
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This entry is for those GAY men out there that feels deep within themselves that LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS don’t exist when it comes to the HOMOSEXAUL crowd. Nonetheless, I am of the opinion that NO matter how hard we try, there is NO escaping the need to be with someone special for the long haul. For some reason there seems to be this device that thwarts us from achieving this goal and we NO one to blame but ourselves. I say this because the other day I am on the internet chatting with various persons that I contact daily and of course somehow, someway the conversation always gets to a place where there is this need to know if I am still in my relationship. And I ALWAYS find this part funny because if I am not that means that there is chance for the inquiring mind that says they want to be with me…If only that amused for a second…But I digress. After shutting down his advances he went on to say that he would like it if I F&CKED him just once. Now I am like WTF? Because this is sad because I can’t believe that this is where we’ve come, this is our progress thus far. Then he goes on to say that relationships are dumb AND they don’t work out anyways. Isn’t it funny how GAY men would find EVERY excuse in the book why our relationships cannot work AND NOT realize that they are largely the reason for this occurrence? How can we expect for our relationships to go anywhere if we are constantly trying to destroy the ones that are in existence? How does a single GAY man feel when he tries to put himself in a relationship that has been going on before he came? Do we not know that interrupting a vibration will only come back to harm us? I guess that’s why they are the way they are…But then again if they can be F&CKED or F&CK someone else it proves that they are NOT ready for a relationship. I guess if one were to get to root of the problem, one would have to ask how realistic we are when it comes to find ourselves a mate? So many of us say we want a decent guy, one who respects us, someone who wants us AND vice-versa. My question is how can we say we want that if we can’t be that for ourselves let alone someone else? Relationships take work AND LOVE calls for honesty; and putting out the bait for being ready for one when you are not does more damage than good. LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS CALLS FOR US TO BE READY TO GIVE OURSELVES TO ANOTHER PERSON FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES, HOW MANY ARE READY? I KNOW THAT I AM & 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 YEARS & MORE DOWN THE ROAD I WILL THERE. HOW ABOUT WE CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING & SEE IF WE ARE TRULY READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP:
- 100% FAITHFUL (MONOGAMY IS IMPORTANT TO ME)
- 100% HONEST (DON’T KNOW ANY OTHER WAY TO LIVE)
- 100% TRUSTWORTHY (LOVE DEPENDS ON IT)
- 100% DRAMA-FREE (LIFE IS ALREADY COMPLICATED)
- 100% COMMITED (SHOWS DEDICATION)
- 100% STIMULATED (MIND, BODY & SOUL FOR HIM)
- 100% CARE-GIVER (THERE FOR HIM IN GOOD & BAD TIMES)
IF THE GAY MAN LIVE UP TO JUST THESE SEVEN THINGS, I AM SURE HE COULD HAVE A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP THAT WILL MAKE HIM A BETTER PERSON…I FEEL THAT THESE 7 THINGS CAN BUILD THE INTEGRITY HE NEEDS & PUT HIM IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION IN SECURING A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP. SO I TOTALLY CHALLENGE EVERY GAY MAN TO LOOK FOR SOMEONE THAT MAKES HIM WANT TO BE EVERYTHING FOR THAT SPECIAL MAN. IT IS MY FIRM BELIEF THAT IF WE WANT TO HAVE RELATIONSHIPS THAT LAST, WE NEED TO SIMPLY WANT THEM…
Thursday 12 June 2008
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If HOMO means MAN or HUMAN which is a good thing and SAPIEN means to know or to be aware, shouldn’t the correct term for Humans who have intercourse be HOMOSEXUALS? How did society come to associate HETERO-SEXUAL to mean SEXUAL HUMAN BEINGS of different genders, when HETERO means DIFFERENT? So when one combines HETERO & SEXUAL we get STRAIGHT, REAL MAN/WOMAN? The answer is NO! If one were to combine these terms you really get DIFFERENT SEXES or OTHER SEXES. Though the term HETERO isn’t relative to anything considered living and without the sexual part referring to living organisms that have intercourse; the term HETERO would not be needed to differentiate the organism’s gender and sexual partnering. If this was to be a true OR correct term that would be acceptable to differentiate the way different gendered organisms have intercourse then as a species of HOMOSAPIENS shouldn’t we be referred to as HETEROSAPIENS? Though I make this argument, I understand that my point does NOT specify a species nor does it reference to the evolutional intelligence of a species. However it my belief that as HUMAN BEINGS we cannot refer to ourselves as HETEROSAPIENS so we shouldn’t refer ourselves as HETEROSEXUAL either. Therefore, to put it all in correct terminology once and for all, let’s say that HOMOSEXUALITY truly means HUMAN SEXES that engage in intercourse is a truer statement than saying HETEROSEXUALS which mean nothing than two different things that engage in intercourse behavior. To simplify this whole separatism mess and incorrect terminology being thrown about and maybe end the hate among us humans let’s incorporate everyone one under one terminology that reference both genders to an act that can’t be considered bad for one gender with a partner of the same gender yet ok for the same gender with a partner of a different gender. LET US RID OURSELVES OF TERMS SUCH AS HOMO & HETERO & ADOPT NEW TERMS SUCH AS HOMOSAPIENSEXUAL, SAPIENSEXUAL, HUMANSEXUAL, HOMETEROSEXUAL, HEMOSEXUAL, SEXESEXUAL OR JUST SEXUAL? I FEEL THIS PROBLEM WE SEEM TO HAVE WITH SEXUALITY STARTS WITH LABELS & SHOULD REALLY BE ADDRESSED. BEING THAT THERE IS ONLY ONE RACE OF HOMOSAPIEN ON THIS PLANET, THIS MEANING THAT WE ARE ALL CONNECTED & NEED EACH OTHER TO SURVIVE; WHY THEN ARE WE HURTING EACH OTHER OVER THE ONE THING THAT CONNECTS US?