¡We can no longer be a bunch of empty minds living in critical times refusing to recognize real lies!

Monday 31 December 2007

ANOTHER YEAR ENDS...

ANOTHER YEAR HAS PAST…ANOTHER YEAR AHEAD, WHERE WILL TIME MEET U? This year has presented some of life’s UPS, DOWNS, HIGHS n’ LOW; but all in all I would say that as time marches on I am grateful for being alive! Even though life has tested me, I did NOT bend OR break. I am like a teabag, whose strength comes out when put in hot water. Therefore, when internal AND external events upset me I just think, I MUST BE ON OF GOD’S FAVORITE CUP OF TEA! L(O)L! This year it was all about HUMANITY, thus I made it a point to surround myself with a variety of people. Which ultimately ushered my personal theme of making memories AND cherishing the lives of those that exist on this planet. This year has made me realized that for everything there is a SEASON and for everything under the sun there is a REASON. 2007 IS DONE & I WROTE THIS ENTRY TO GO AGAINST ALL THAT GETS IN THE WAY OF LIFE. I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO MAKE 2008 THE YEAR OF SUCCESS & PROPERITY! IT IS TIME FOR US TO REALIZE THAT NO MAN, WOMAN, ANIMAL, PLACE or THING CAN TAKE WHAT IS PREDESTINED. THEREFORE, AS YEAR END THANK GOD THAT YOU HAVE MADE, I KNOW THAT I HAVE…I KNOW THAT IT IS ODD TO LOOK BACK ON A YEAR THAT IS GONE PASS SO QUICKLY. EACH DAY, WEEK & MONTH WE SEEM VERY DESPERATE IN LIFE. DESPERATE TO VENTURE OUT, BUT AFRAID OF WHAT THEY WILL MISS WHEN THEY GO. DESPERATE TO GET EVERYTHING THEY WANT, EVEN WHEN THEY ARE NOT EXACTLY SURE OF WHAT THAT IS. IT SEEMS THAT WE ARE DESPERATE FOR LIFE TO BE PERFECT, NEVER REALIZING THAT IT IS NOT BAD @ ALL. I GET THAT WE ARE DESPERATE FOR A BETTER FUTURE, IF ONLY WE COULD FIND A WAY TO ESCAPE THE PAST YEAR(S). THIS YEAR IS ABOUT TO LEAVE, SO I SAY SIT N’ REMINISCE & YOURSELF FOR BEING WHO YOU ARE. I HOPE THAT IN 2008 ALL YOUR DREAMS N’ DESIRES COME TRUE. MAKE LIFE WORK THE BEST YOU CAN & PREPARE FOR A FUTURE OF MANY HAPPY TIMES…

Sunday 30 December 2007

POSSESS (BEDRIDDEN)

I am lost in that overwhelming feeling
Of needing him so badly.
That gut wrenching feeling of…
How the fuck can I possibly take him into my very being?
I need me inside of him,
Not just by dick N’ ass.
The rhythm we have,
Has my body screaming for HIM!
HE was tearing me apart with desire and want for me.
I was dying (from HIM wanting me so badly)
Emotionally, it was heaven on Earth!
We got into a game of whatever one did,
The other followed.
It was invigorating!
The way we matched one another…
Savoring the taste of each other.
I'd suck HE,
And HE me;
Becoming increasingly lost!
Every nerve in our bodies was in tune with the other.
At this point,
I wanted me on him to feel that power,
His heated body on mine.
As we LOVE each other.
Giving me the feeling that…
Perhaps there would be;
No unhappiness,
No frustration
Left in the world.
They would see
Me take HE in my arms
And give it all
Partaking of HIS charms…
Then maybe I could
Sleep a day
Knowing that HE
Were here to stay…
Together,
Possessing me for all of eternity!
© tgk

Saturday 29 December 2007

COMING OUT...

¿WHAT DOES IT MEAN 2 COME OUT?
Coming out is the process of personally accepting your homosexuality and disclosing it to family, co-workers and friends. Coming out is different for every gay or bisexual man. Some experience a lot of pain and anguish while for others acceptance is simple. You may experience fear, doubt, loneliness, anger and even depression. That's why it is good to surround yourself with others that may be going through the same transition or who have already come out. They can be a great support network. If you don't have any gay friends or don't know anyone else coming out, there are discussion forums and chat rooms that have plenty of positive influences. Be careful though, some may only be interested in sex or may seek to take advantage of you.
¿WHEN SHOULD YOU COME OUT?
You should come out when you are absolutely ready! Remember, even though this may be a confusing time, you are in complete control. You can disclose your sexuality at your own pace. Some choose to come out slowly. They reveal their sexuality to a few people that are close to them, then move on to other family and friends. Often, because of many work environments, the workplace may be the last step. Just make sure you are comfortable with yourself. Once that happens, it is a lot easier to tell others.
¿WHAT ABOUT REJECTION?
Some family and friends do have a hard time accepting that someone they love is gay or bisexual. However, there are many times where they are extremely supportive. Each person's situation and surroundings are different and there is no definite way to tell how well your family will accept your sexuality. Just be strong and remember to come out to family and friends at your own pace. You can't choose your family, but if your friends do not accept you for who you are, then they don't need to be in your live anyway. You are in complete control, don't let fear hold you back. Your Gay Life Guide as well as support groups are available if you need to talk.

Friday 28 December 2007

FASTER THAN...

The other day I was reminded that my SIX-year-old niece asked me for a cell phone and I could not help but think how this is SO strange because when I was that age things were SO different. The generation that she represents is so vastly different from any other that I find it overwhelming. THEY ARE YOUNG, SMART & BRASH! They want cell phones AND iPods and they are here to take over…SO GET READY! This group is EVOLVING faster than bacteria and shows no sign of slowing down. They are growing up in a diverse world where intense multi-tasking is the order of the day. The easy access to the Internet, the simultaneously way in which they watch television and listening to music are just a few of the things that show how far this world has come. Thus, this generation is eating it all up rapidly with no sign of stopping. Downloading music to online chatting and cell phone usage shows the power in which they will have in years to come. However, what should I expect? The world in which they live have television shows and movies that have a rapid story-telling pace, so their brains grow accustom to this constant bombardment of change. Unlike myself, this generation has been pampered, nurtured and programmed with a slew of activities since they could walk, making them HIGH PERFORMANCE and HIGH MAINTENANCE; which ultimately fosters the belief in self worth. This generation is growing up questioning the adults around them and offering their opinion in a time when SPEAK-YOUR-MIND philosophy makes sense whether we like it or not. They challenge the STATUS QUO, I have NO doubt that when it is time for the generation that she is apart of to be employed that they will NO doubt change the landscape of the work force DRAMATICALLY! The environment that is needed to create independent thinking would be the playground for them because they will be more than able AND equip to do the job that will NO doubt fund a successful career. However, as the future marches on the generation that she represents will NOT put a high priority on career; she will be more interested in making the job accommodate both family AND personal life. They say that CHANGE is constant and I am sure that this generation will NO doubt carry on what my generation believes but has NOT done in the way of employment. I AM SURE THAT THIS GENERATION WOULD NOT STAY IN A JOB OR EVEN A CAREER FOR TOO LONG BECAUSE THEY WILL NO DOUBT HAVE COMPANIES SUCH AS ENRON ON THE BRAIN & THEY KNOW THAT RISKING LIFE N’ LIMB FOR A JOB IS POINTLESS! They will be a group of people that are living as if they are on SUPER steroids that walk with high expectations for themselves. THIS GENERATION IS GROUND BREAKING IN THE SENSE THAT ITS MEMBERS WILL BE WELL TRAVELED & HAVE MANY ENRICHED EXPERIENCES. NO DOUBT WILL THEY BE SURPRISED THAT THEY HAVE TO WORK FOR MONEY. NO DOUBT, THEY WANT & WILL GET THE CORNER OFFICE RIGHT AWAY…THEY HAVE BEEN GROOMED & TOLD THAT THE WORLD IS THEIR OYSTER & ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE…& I CANNOT SAY THAT I BLAME THEM…

Thursday 27 December 2007

OPENING THE DOOR (ACCEPTANCE)

As human beings we often have a tendency to fight against using our natural gifts. Many stories of success start with an individual who is ignoring the call of his or her inborn abilities. There are many possible reasons for this resistance, from fear that the calling will be too difficult to a disbelief in the very work one is being asked to do. We may feel too small, too distracted by other people’s ideas about what we should do, or too uninformed. Whatever the case, the resistance to actualizing ourselves has very concrete consequences, and many of us have been called out of hiding by an illness or a twist of fate that unequivocally dismantled our resistance. In other the words, the universe knocks, and if we don’t answer it knocks louder. For example, if you are meant to be a psychic or a medium, and you aren’t using that gift, you may get headaches. If you are meant to be a healer and are trying to be a lawyer, you may have trouble getting or keeping a job. This doesn’t mean that you can’t still be a lawyer, but perhaps integrating your gifts into your work is what is calling you. On the other hand, you may simply feel an underlying anxiety that you are not on the right path, doing the right thing. Pay attention to this feeling, and ask for guidance from the universe, being open to all its communications, from subtle internal yearnings to powerful dreams. As you begin to risk opening the door to your natural gifts, your life situation may shift in a powerful way. However, you may find that small steps in the right direction, such as taking a class or setting aside one night a week to paint or write, is enough for now. The first step on the journey to our calling in life is to listen to our internal voices and respond to the knocking universe at the door. As we do, the symptoms and anxieties that have haunted us will fade into the background, replaced by opportunities, both big and small, to open the door to what we are truly here to do.

Wednesday 26 December 2007

HAPPY BOXING DAY

Boxing Day is a traditional celebration, dating back to the Middle Ages, and consists of the practice of giving out gifts to employees, the poor, or to people in a lower social class. It was the day when people would give a present or Christmas box to those who had worked for them throughout the year. In feudal times, Christmas was a reason for a gathering of extended families. All the serfs would gather their families in the manor of their lord, which made it easier for the lord of the estate to hand out annual stipends to the serfs. After all the Christmas parties on 26 December, the lord of the estate would give practical goods such as cloth, grains, and tools to the serfs who lived on his land. Each family would get a box full of such goods the day after Christmas. Under this explanation, there was nothing voluntary about this transaction; the lord of the manor was obliged to supply these goods. Because of the boxes being given out, the day was called Boxing Day.

Tuesday 25 December 2007

HAPPY CHRISTMAS DAY!

Where did the year go? Suddenly it is December......again - and we realize that giant strides we started in January and within a blink of an eye, 2007 is on its back! A big "Thank You" to everyone, for the huge and wonderful impact you had on my life this year. Especially for all the hardwork, friendship, kindness and love. From my side I wish you all a glorious Festive Season filled with Loving Wishes and Beautiful Thoughts. May this day mark the beginning of a Tidal Wave of Love, Happiness and Bright Futures. And for those who need:
  • SOMEONE SPECIAL, MAY YOU FIND TRUE LOVE & MEET LOVELY PEOPLE.
  • MONEY, MAY YOUR FINANCES OVERFLOW.
  • CARING, MAY YOU FIND A GOOD HEART.
  • LIFE, MAY YOU FIND THE GOD POTENTIAL WITHIN.

HAVE A HAPPY & SAFE CHRISTMAS FROM MY HOUSE TO YOURS!

Monday 24 December 2007

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE

Another day, another month, another year,
Another smile, another tear,
Another winter too,
But there will never be another you!
On this day I hope,
That lovely and happy times
Decorate this season;
With warmth,
And may the wonder of Christmas be with you FOREVER.

Sunday 23 December 2007

...THE WINTER OF MY CONTENT

…SO YESTERDAY I HAD THE PLEASURE OF BEING AWAKE TO SEE ONE OF MY DREAMS MATERIALIZE BEFORE MY EYES. NOW THE THING ABOUT IT IS THAT I HAVE NO IDEA AS TO WHY IT CAME TO ME. NONETHELESS, I CHERISH THE THOUGHT EVERY TIME IT VISITS MY MIND…THUS THIS IS THE WINTER OF MY CONTENT…THIS IS THE DAY MY HEART TOLD ME THAT I WAS LOOKING @ THE MAN THAT I WAS GOING TO MARRY! AND MY HEART JUST MELTS AS IT BOWS BEFORE HIM. NEVER IN MY WILDEST DREAMS DID I THINK THAT I WOULD EVER HAVE THIS THOUGHT OR FEEL THIS WAY. HOWEVER, I AM GLAD THAT I DID & IT COULD NOT HAVE COME FROM A BETTER MAN. IT IS AS IF MY ENTIRE EXISTENCE IS HIS & ALL OF THE THINGS THAT I HAVE BEEN THROUGH WAS FOR THE SOLE PURPOSE OF PREPARING ME FOR HIM. HE HAS LIFTED MY MIND, BODY & SPIRIT. HE IS THE DESTINY THAT I THOUGHT HAD VANISHED BEFORE ITS TIME THAT HAS COME TO LOVE ME! NOW I KNOW THE MEANING OF ME & REJOICE IN THE PURE LOVE OF HE…BEING REBORN A NEW MAN IN THIS MY WINTER OF CONTENT…

He Is Real

Too magical to recant,

My future is no longer as uncertain

As the distant sunrise,

Yet still it is farther than the set,

When I look into his eyes,

I see that all my toils have been met,

And my wages are far enough to last a

Lifetime…

Too paralyzing to deny,

The way my eyes hear any thought

His heart passes by,

And my hands see that he is my

Tomorrow with every time they touch…

And my limit is his sky.

Too frightening to let go,

My heart has been seized

By strong hands, and will

Not be turned away.

So I know I must stay.

I must accept the deal,

And allow my heart

To feel all it can feel.

Because he is REAL!

© tgk

Saturday 22 December 2007

LET THE CURVES TAKE YOU!

Trying to maintain control in this life is a bit like trying to maintain control on a roller coaster. The ride has its own logic and is going to go its own way, regardless of how tightly you grip the bar. There is a thrill and a power in simply surrendering to the ride and fully feeling the ups and downs of it, letting the curves take you rather than fighting them. When you fight the ride, resisting what’s happening at every turn, your whole being becomes tense and anxiety is your close companion. When you go with the ride, accepting what you cannot control, freedom and joy will inevitably arise. As with so many seemingly simple things in life, it is not always easy to let go, even of the things we know we can’t control. Most of us feel a great discomfort with the givens of this life, one of which is the fact that much of the time we have no control over what happens. Sometimes this awareness comes only when we have a stark encounter with this fact, and all our attempts to be in control are revealed to be unnecessary burdens. We can also cultivate this awareness in ourselves gently, by simply making surrender a daily practice. At the end of our meditation, we might bow, saying, “I surrender to this life.” This simple mantra can be repeated as necessary throughout the day, when we find ourselves metaphorically gripping the safety bar. We can give in to our fear and anxiety, or we can surrender to this great mystery with courage. When we see people on a roller coaster, we see that there are those with their faces tight with fear and then there are those that smile broadly, with their hands in the air, carried through the ride on a wave of freedom and joy. This powerful image reminds us that often the only control we have is choosing how we are going to respond to the ride.

Friday 21 December 2007

SPEAK N' WRITE

AS I SPEAK N’ WRITE…I want the POWER and the GLORY SHINE through. I will use the vehicles of words to carry meaning, as well as energy, from myself to another. Because I know that each word I SPEAK or WRITE has a life of its own, a vibratory signature that creates waves in the same way that a note of music creates waves. And like musical notes, my words live in communities of other words and change in relation to the words that surround them. I am conscious of the energy behind my words and I am capable of making beautiful music in the world. For I know that if one is unconscious to the power of words, one run the risk of creating a noisy disturbance. I have the FORTUNATE opportunity of knowing this instinctively, while others will come to this understanding slowly. Sadly, most of us speak without thinking, blurting out our feelings and thoughts without much regard for the words we choose to express them. When I do this I remind myself that my words have an impact on the world at the level of energy and that I must be more aware of the usage of my language. Hence when I feel them reverberate in my body and in the air around me I must ensure that they do NOT leave a negative impact. One would say it is like learning to consciously play an instrument that we have been playing unconsciously for most of our lives. As I am now MORE comfortable AND confident playing the instrument of language, I can compose beautiful messages, creating positive energy every time I SPEAK N’ WRITE. THUS, ACHIEVING A COMPLETE BREAKTHROUGH…WHEN I SPEAK N’ WRITE I WANT OTHERS TO SEE IN ME WHAT THEY SEE IN THEMSELVES BECAUSE WHAT I EXPECT FROM THEM IS WHAT I EXPECT FOR MYSELF…THUS WHEN I SPEAK N’ WRITE MY INNER WORLD HAS A MAGNETIC FORCE THAT DRAWS WHAT I NEED TO EVOLVE TO THE NEXT LEVEL; MAKING THE OUTER WORLD MY MIRROR…AS I SPEAK N’ WRITE…

Thursday 20 December 2007

'AWE' N' ALL!

I am in AWE of the ONE,
That is the ONE.
Never thought I would live to see,
He, that has cast hopes of love on me.
He is the thoughts,
That consumes every part of my being.
And his profound impact,
Has taught me exactly what it means to be human.
With he I cannot hide,
With he I am compelled.
As the sun rise I feel lucky that I get another day…
…To bask in the glow of he.
My eternal soul will forever be grateful,
For I am humble by he.
Never had these words been more true,
Than when I write them about he.
I love that he makes my heart smile,
When I talk about him.
I love that he makes my spirit soar,
When I think about him.
I love that he sparks my creativity,
To write this about he…
I love he has me feeling,
AWE N’ ALL!
© tgk

Wednesday 19 December 2007

6 BAD HABITS (AND HOW TO KICK 'EM)

Nail Nibbling
Why you have to stop Biting your nails makes for ugly hands and over time can interfere with normal nail growth, damage the outer layer of your teeth, and cause nail deformities such as split nails. Harmful bacteria such as staphylococcus also live underneath nails — and you don't want to chew on that. In a 1995 study, researchers found that 19 to 29% of young adults and 5% of older adults bite their nails. Your short-term action plan: Go for a professional manicure once every 2 or 3 weeks, suggests Angelica Kaner, PhD, a clinical professor at Yale University Medical School, because when your nails look pretty, you'll be less likely to snack on them — especially after you've spent $25-plus to make them beautiful. Or try a product such as MAVALA Stop for Nail Biting and Thumb Sucking, which makes nails and cuticles taste terrible. At the very least, keep your nails trimmed short — you'll have less nail to bite, and that harmful bacteria has less space to grow. Your long-term action plan: Nail biting is a common nervous habit that is often an expression of some deeper anxiety. "Ask yourself why you're feeling anxious," Kaner says. If you can't figure it out on your own, consider getting professional help. Because exploratory therapy can take some time, Kaner suggests substituting a new, healthy behavior — instead of biting your nails, rub in a cuticle cream or oil to improve the appearance of your nails and fingers, or keep healthy snacks on hand, such as apples or carrot sticks, to satisfy the need to crunch without destroying your nails.
Dental Disregard
Why you have to stop: Flossing helps prevent gum disease and keeps your teeth and gums looking good, but it may also stave off non-mouth-related diseases: A 2005 study in the journal Circulation showed that older adults with higher levels of four gum disease-causing bacteria in their mouths also tend to have thicker carotid arteries, which raise the risk of stroke and heart attack. And people with gum disease have a 63% higher risk of pancreatic cancer, according to a 2007 study in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute. That's scary business, because 90% of dentists say that most patients don't floss regularly. Your short-term action plan: Buy a floss-holding device, such as the Butler GUM Flossmate Floss Holder, to make the process easier and faster. In an Indiana University study, 50% of previous nonflossers were doing so regularly 6 months after introducing floss to their routine; 85% of the new flossers used a holding device — only 15% preferred doing without the aid. Your long-term action plan: Incorporate flossing into your morning routine before or after brushing. "Think of it like taking a shower," says Steven R. Fox, DDS, in private practice in Manhattan. "It's something you should do every day." Soon your mouth will start to feel dirty if you forget to floss. And according to the American Dental Association, it's necessary to floss only once a day. Try the waxed kind for more comfort or flavors such as mint or bubble gum to motivate you.
Figure Fixating
Why you have to stop: The number on the scale is exactly that — just a number. It doesn't reflect how healthy you are or how much of your weight is lean muscle. Plus, the scale can't tell whether you're carrying extra weight on your hips, rear end, or the more dangerous belly area, which is a major factor in your risk of heart disease. In fact, waist-to-hip ratio is a better predictor of heart disease than body mass index, according to a study from the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center at Dallas. Your short-term action plan: Step off the scale and say hello to your new, improved fat-measuring tool: a tape measure. Measure around your stomach, hips, thighs, and upper arms once a week and record the results. "A quarter-pound fat loss may not register on the scale but could mean millimeters on a tape measure," says Cynthia Sass, RD, nutrition director at Prevention. Keep a close eye on your (hopefully shrinking) waist to sustain the right goals, which are losing fat in high-risk areas such as the tummy, lowering your risk of heart disease (a study from Harvard University found that women whose waists were 38 inches or larger had more than three times the risk of heart disease than women with waists 28 inches or less), and improving your overall health — not just shedding pounds. Your long-term action plan: Once you've achieved a more healthy physique, bring back the scale. "Weighing yourself daily really helps prevent weight regain," Sass says. Keep an eye on your fitness level by watching how your clothes fit and how much longer or harder you can exercise than when you started. Shift your focus to other health issues such as cholesterol (it should be less than 200 mg/dL), blood pressure (systolic blood pressure should be less than 120 and diastolic blood pressure should be less than 80), energy level, and quality of sleep. These are better indicators of your overall health than body weight, shape, or size, says Sass. (Keep up with these health benchmarks by logging them in My Health Tracker. Still, keep up the tape measure so you can continue to monitor your fat levels.
Fridge Raiding
Why it's bad for you: Eating late at night in itself isn't bad for you, but chances are you're eating cold pizza slices instead of apple slices. Adding those extra calories does the late-night damage, according to a 2005 Oregon Health & Science University study. Snacking late at night can also exacerbate symptoms for those prone to heartburn, as lying down after eating makes it easier for stomach acid to flow into the esophagus. Your short-term action plan: Eating late at night is often done because of boredom, not hunger, says Pamela Peeke, MD, author of Fit to Live and an expert on nutrition and metabolism. Once the craving hits focus on an activity that engages you until it's time to go to sleep, such as e-mail, a crossword puzzle, or meditation. Peeke says it's also common for people to chow down while watching TV. In fact, a study from the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago found that people who were allowed to eat as many potato chips as they wanted ate 44% more chips while watching Letterman than while not watching TV. Keep your hands busy while you watch by folding laundry, using your BlackBerry, or knitting — that way you won't be tempted to break out the Ruffles. Your long-term action plan: Pretty simple — work on going to bed earlier, which might be easier if you can't wait to dive back in to the great new Tom Clancy novel you're reading. You'll limit the time you have between dinner and bed for snacking, and your hormones will be optimally balanced to help you combat cravings. A University of Chicago study found that sleep-deprived subjects had lower levels of leptin, the hormone that makes you feel full, and higher levels of ghrelin, which triggers hunger. Figure out when and where you're snacking, and try to mix up the situation. If entering your house through the kitchen always leads you to a pint of ice cream in the freezer, come in through the garage door instead — force yourself to bypass the kitchen.
Stuck in a Fitness Rut
Why it's bad for you: If you never vary your fitness routine, your body adapts to it after time, and muscle will stop growing, says Pamela Peeke, MD, author of Fit to Live and Prevention's medical advisor. You're likely to get bored with your workout if you're doing the same thing every time, making it easier to find excuses to skip the gym altogether. A University of Florida study found that exercisers who varied the type of exercise were 15% more likely to work out regularly than those sticking to the same routine and 63% more likely than people who had no set schedule or rules. Your short-term action plan: Even something as simple as changing the route of your morning walk or creating a new workout sound track can add some oomph to your present routine. Visit musicworkout.com and download music in genres you like that are tailored to 30- and 60-minute workouts; also find music preselected for different types of exercise, such as elliptical, jogging, walking, and yoga. The key is to have some good old distracting fun, and "fun comes from your ability to make it different" or more challenging, Peeke says. For example, if you're a walker, try going up hills or interspersing spurts of jogging: "You may be shocked to find you're short of breath," she says. Take an adventure vacation and incorporate activities such as kayaking, hiking, or biking. "You can tailor your training to the kind of vacation you're taking, and that's a great motivator." Or use charity to inspire you: Sign up for the 5-K Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure or the Avon 3-Day Walk for Breast Cancer. Your long-term action plan: Always have a fitness goal in mind — whether it's walking a mile in 15 minutes instead of 20 or completing a Team Prevention marathon, you'll have something to keep you driven, and you'll be able to assess your performance, Peeke says. "The key is to check yourself at the beginning," she says, evaluating how well you perform when you first start working toward your goal so you have something to compare. Peeke recommends Healing Moves by Carol Krucoff for exercises that may treat or prevent common ailments. Whatever you do, add some variety — not only will your performance continue to improve but you'll also be more mentally engaged, which Peeke says is crucial to improvement, enjoyment, and injury prevention. Keep up the variety as you get older to protect your mental health as well as your physical health: A 2005 study found that dementia (including Alzheimer's disease) occurred less frequently in people 65 and older who participated in a greater variety of physical activities.
Expired Skin Care
Why you have to stop: Although genetics do play a part in your skin's health, so do outside factors such as sun exposure and pollutants, says Neil Sadick, MD, a clinical professor of dermatology at Weill Medical College. Even if your mom didn't have a wrinkle until well into her 60s, you might not be so lucky. "Different types of skin react differently to different products," he says. Your mother's Oil of Olay and Vaseline may have worked just fine for her, but your skin type is probably different from hers. Your skin care products should be specific to your skin's needs, unless you want to risk acne, dryness, and unnecessary aging. Take advantage of advances in skin care science, such as new knowledge about antioxidants, alpha and beta hydroxy acids and retinoids. Your short-term action plan: Schedule a checkup with a cosmetic dermatologist so you can determine your specific skin type. "A consumer can't really do that on her own," Sadick says, so you'll need professional help to determine exactly what your skin needs. Ask whether your skin is healthy, whether you're at risk of skin cancer, and if there's any way you can slow down aging. Your long-term action plan: At the very least, start your day with a high-potency antioxidant cream such as L'or De Vie by Christian Dior or one with coffee berry extract, which protects against ultraviolet and environmental damage, and a sun block with broad-spectrum UVA and UVB protection such as Neutrogena Helioplex or Anthelios SX, which protects against all short and long UV rays. At night, use a cream with vitamin C, an antioxidant, or alpha and beta hydroxy acids, which turn over skin cells and stimulate new collagen synthesis. Sadick suggests products that contain peptides, which stimulate new collagen, or growth factors, which also stimulate new collagen, increase blood flow, and turn over new skin cells. "As you age, you should use more moisturizer," Sadick says. "Use products with even stronger collagen stimulators, more potent sun blockers, and antioxidant preparation creams," Sadick says. Your diet matters, too: Drink a lot of water and eat foods rich in antioxidants such as green tea, soy and tomatoes, Sadick says. This can help protect skin cells and prevent skin cancers. If all this sounds costly, don't worry: "It's possible to have healthy skin on a budget," Sadick says — products by Avone and La Roche-Posay are available at drugstores and are particularly good for women age 40 and older.

Tuesday 18 December 2007

SIGHT N' VISION

I’ve had the opportunity to have SIGHT into my existence n’ the VISION of HE that is to come. My experience has taught me that SIGHT is the ability to see the tangible and VISION is the gift of seeing beyond it. I have ALWAYS had the man that I would spend the rest of my life in my SIGHTS, never knowing exactly who he is. However, the VISION of he is mine to behold. Thus I am able to take him in so that I can participate in life with KNOWLEDGE N’ REVERENCE. The pleasure of HE that is brought to my eyes goes WAY beyond the perceive colors AND shapes of his being. I am SO grateful for my SIGHT N’ VISION, it has allowed me to see what was to come, aiding my direction and giving me a place to stand. Relying on ones SIGHT N’ VISION can automatically place us in touch with our inner world. Thus, it is ONLY in this state that VISION becomes the mode of seeing. This VISION comes from within and shows us how to navigate the realms of thought, feeling, and emotion. It enables us to see things that are not yet manifested in the world of form, and it connects us to that part of ourselves that exists separately from the world of form. Hence, as I age, I live being aware that my SIGHT will generally lose some of its acuity, but this will NOT be a loss because I will have this replaced with the VISION of he. THUS, HE IS THE TIME OF LIFE WHEN I TURN INSIDE & TAKE WHAT ARE THE VERY FIRST STEPS OF A JOURNEY THAT CANNOT BE TRACED ON A MAP. MY SIGHT N’ VISION ALLOWS ME TO CALL UPON MY INTUITION & FEEL MY WAY ALONG A PATH THAT ULTIMATELY CARRIES ME BEYOND THE REALM I CAN SEE WITH MY EYES & INTO THE LAND OF SPIRIT THAT LEADS ME TO HE…

Monday 17 December 2007

¡THE TIME IS NOW!

We GAY MEN have a knack for coming together AND rising up to our potential in the face of a tragedy. I CAN VIVIDLY RECALL BEING @ THE CLUB WHERE THERE WAS SUCH A VOCAL OUT CRY AGAINST H. I. V. / A. I. D. S. Isn’t it funny how things like this bring us out of our small selves and into each other, ready to combat this disease? Sadly, this energy does NOT go beyond the point on which it was created. They say elements such as H. I. V. / A. I. D. S. are often LIFE-CHANGING events for those who are willing to step into the position of helper. There is the feeling that one is doing something important and this leads to feeling more self-actualized. It is understandable that one would feel more connected to those they are helping, which ultimately connects us to humanity in general. Nonetheless, it seems as if most GAY MEN cannot expand beyond the boundaries of their individualistic pursuit in this world. Hence this complete reality shift appears to make them seem nonchalant in the fight against H. I. V. / A. I. D. S. However, there needs to be significant effort to thwart this disease by coming to the rescue of those who are suffering. If GAY MEN could only consider the many benefits of this kind gesture, they would see how much better LIFE would be. I FIND IT EXTREMELY DIFFICULT TO ACCEPT THAT MOST IF NOT ALL WILL NOT DEVOTE HIMSELF TO THIS CAUSE! Why do we constantly wait for TRAGEDY of H. I. V. / A. I. D. S. to come our way? AS GAY MEN WE HAVE THE POWER & CAN BEAT THIS DISEASE IF ONLY WE CAN COME TOGETHER & OFFER OURSELVES TO THE CAUSE. I get that it is easier to respond to an event such as this on need to bases. However, truth be known is that this disease do NOT take time off; so why should we? We are helpers AND healers that can fix things one day @ a time; we just need to take baby steps. I GET THAT THESE BABY STEPS MAY SEEM INSIGNIFICANT & POINTLESS. However, we CANNOT be discouraged by the notion that small acts AND gestures do not generate the enough energy. WE HOWEVER, HAVE THE POWER TO INSPIRE THE HUMANITARIAN EFFORTS TO COMBAT THIS DISEASE. IMAGINE WHAT WE CAN ACCOMPLISH IF WE PAY A LITTLE LESS ATTENTION TO TRIVIAL THINGS & PUT THAT ENERGY WHERE IT CAN HAVE LASTING POWER. LET US ALL STRIVE TO BE THOSE EVERYDAY HEROES WHO DEVOTE THEIR LIVES TO ALLEVIATE THE SUFFERING OF H. I. V. / A. I. D. S…¡THE TIME IS NOW!

Sunday 16 December 2007

BORED WITH LIFE...

I am finding that my mind thrives on novelty and what was once a source of pleasure can become tedious after a time. Though my life is full, boredom lurks around every corner because I know that I innately long for new experiences. Though, passive by its nature boredom leaves my mind idle and frustrated by my inability to channel my mental energy into productive or engaging tasks. Hence, I am tempted to lose myself in purposeless or self-destructive pursuits. But that temptation is TOO great and can be seen as signs of depression. Hence I would rather see it as an invitation issued from my mind, asking me to challenge myself. So boredom can become the motivation that drives me to learn, explore the exotic, experiment, and harness the boundless creative energy within. In Hindu and Buddhist traditions, boredom is perceived as a pathway to self-awareness. Boredom itself is not detrimental to the soul—it is the manner in which we respond to it that determines whether it becomes a positive or a negative influence in our lives. When one responds by actively filling the emptiness lurking within, one cultivates creativity and innovation. Hence I have come to see that when I am troubled by boredom, it is not that there is nothing to do but rather that I am NOT stimulated by the options before me. Hence, my bored mind can be the canvas upon which innovation is painted and the womb in which novelty is nourished. When I identify boredom as a signal that tests my boundaries, it can be the force that presses me to strive for opportunities I thought were beyond my reach and to indulge my desire for adventure.

Saturday 15 December 2007

CELEBRATING WHAT TRULY COUNTS…

As the holidays arrive it is easy to become distracted by our desire for perfection. It might be the need to craft a festive environment, always be in an upbeat mood, or simply the desire to find just the right gifts for everyone in our lives. Even though these things can be positive, if we start putting too much pressure on ourselves during this season, we are much more apt to forget what truly is important—celebrating our lives with the people we care about. For many of us this time of year can stir up a host of mixed emotions. For example, we might feel a tinge of nostalgia for past holiday celebrations, when times were simpler, or a sense of being let down due to the unmet expectations we have for ourselves and others. No matter what our feelings are, they are likely to be caused by an unrealistic sense of what the holidays should mean for us. Rather than thinking of this season as a time for finding the perfect gift or hosting the best party, we can get so much more out of the holidays if we create a personal inventory of the things that matter most to us. With each item we add to our list, we can then set the intention to use this season as a time to consciously rejoice in and express our appreciation for the blessings we have. The more we are able to let go of our traditional expectations for the holidays, the more open we will become to the bounteous spirit that lies within us. Our true enjoyment of this season will only come from looking within and reflecting on the deeper spiritual significance the holidays have for us. Infusing our holiday activities with a sense of gratitude will bring a greater level of enjoyment to our life and also help us extend loving and kind energy to all we encounter. It is this spirit that will allow us to truly celebrate by sharing our greatest gifts—infinite love, peace, understanding, and joy—with those around us.

Friday 14 December 2007

LIKE A SMALL ISLAND (IN A HURRY)

Our lives have become increasingly fast-paced, and the effort to keep up often occupies all our time and attention. We are so busy rushing from point A to point B that we forget to enjoy the ride. We race to the store without noticing the leaves on the trees or the clouds in the sky. We go through the checkout line feeling too pressed to converse with the cashier or the other people in line. At the end of a day filled with this kind of frantic pace, we may begin to wonder what it is we do all these things for, if we don’t even have the time to occasionally stop and just take it all in. Always being rushed and in a hurry doesn’t allow time for the soul to enjoy life, which is composed of small, ordinary moments, like watching snow fall from the sky, having a spontaneous conversation with a stranger, or lingering over a meal for several hours. It is such a pity that we are a small island and we cannot teach others a thing or two about living life to the fullest. We seem to that that our lives are full because we are doing so many different things, but if were truly a small island there would be more time left open to be spontaneous or take an extended moment of rest. However, I am not saying that we can’t live in a city and enjoy life fully; it just takes a little more awareness. One thing we can do is bring awareness breaks into our day and take 10 minutes to simply look out the window and observe what’s happening outside. We might also choose to cultivate a relationship with someone we see regularly, such as a clerk at the local store, a neighbor, or someone we see in the elevator at work. Taking time to have a conversation that is not necessary is a true luxury in this day and age, as is staring out the window. Participating in these acts of timelessness makes the biggest city in the world start to feel a little bit more like a small island.

Thursday 13 December 2007

ROUND N' ROUND

What is the difference of you, me & he?
Be it once or twice removed,
Aren’t we all just recycled?
Date a little here,
Fuck a little there…
Elements of a someone,
As we spin out of control;
With only the lingered remains.
Playing games of love in the dark,
Kissing with the same breathe,
Always the same color;
Invisible…
Fooling the bravest of men,
How so casual of us;
To be misled by the elements that we read.
The ones that set off
Some signal in our head,
That love would be a stranger…
And love back.
Yet we never hide our heart away,
All caught up in the confusion…
The delusion;
That is he.
So sweet,
But oh so bitter…
The morning after.
Not that it should even matter
If it does then we will be alone…again.
Then he is gone,
And our heart is itching
Cause once again…
He has gone wrong.
Now we are the silly n’ foolish fools,
That carelessly…
Believed in the elements
That took us round n’ round…
© tgk

Wednesday 12 December 2007

STAYING MOTIVATED TO EXERCISE

EXERCISE IS GOOD MEDICINE. However, no matter how compelling the reasons to work out, sustaining a regular exercise program can be difficult. Excuses range from the plausible ("Exercise is too boring") to the absurd, ("I'm in no shape to exercise"). People on a busy schedule cannot find the time, and those who have the time will not admit it. With all the obstacles, is there a way to stick with a program? Yes. Start by reevaluating what you think you know about exercise.

HOW DO YOU DEDINF EXERCISE? In the past, exercise was defined as physical activity that produced aerobic fitness. To qualify, it had to involve large muscle groups of the body (like in the legs), be rhythmic, elevate the heart rate into a "target zone," and keep it there for at least 20 minutes. These definition-limited options to exercises like jogging, power walking, swimming, rowing, cycling, cross-country skiing, and stair stepping. If you did not like these options, too bad. Other activities like dancing, mowing the lawn, gardening, and light sporting activities were considered useless because they did not produce high levels of fitness. Today, research shows that moderate physical activities are worthwhile and are highly effective in managing weight, promoting health, and reducing stress. In addition, there is increased respect for the process of exercise--doing something daily, regardless of the amount of fitness produced. The key ingredient is movement. Get moving and keep moving, but do not get hung up on the particulars. This approach opens up a smorgasbord of physical activities from which to choose. It also offers a variety of ways to approach activities, which increases the likelihood you can find exercises you will enjoy and sustain as part of your lifestyle.

HOW DO YOU STAY MOTIVATED? Selecting an exercise that is right for you is only the first step in successful exercise. Here are proven strategies to help motivate you to start exercising and stay with it. Develop an exercise habit. It takes weeks to form a habit. So keep at it, knowing the more consistent you are in the beginning, the more fixed your new activity will become. Top your "to do" list. Reserve a time slot each day for working out, and do not let anything interfere. Not setting a time leaves you vulnerable to trying to find the time, which typically does not work. The best time to exercise is the most convenient time for you. Although you may be a "morning person," if mornings are too busy, they simply will not work. Do not let others lead you astray. Inform everyone of your exercise time and that you would appreciate their respecting your choice. When approached, invite others to either come along or come back later. Be patient with yourself. Some days you will be more motivated or have more time than other days. When possible, do more. When you cannot, do less, or do something different. When you cannot exercise for a while because of illness, injury, or demands on your time, back off without guilt. A brief period of not exercising is not a disaster.

PLAN AHEAD. Be prepared to exercise. It decreases the inertia of getting moving when demands arise. If you intend to exercise when you get home from work, for example, change immediately into your exercise clothing. Team up. Exercising with others can motivate you when you would rather not. However, it can have a down side. A less motivated or less optimistic partner, for example, can drain you. An option is to have an "exercise date" once or twice a week that is special (on weekends, for example), and to exercise alone the rest of the time. Choose the approach that works for you. Set achievable goals. The more easily you accomplish your goals, the more likely you are to sustain them. Set goals that emphasizes the process (for example, exercising daily for 1 month) as well as the product (for example, jogging 3 miles in 30 minutes). When you achieve a goal, reward yourself. Decide on a reward ahead of time to spur you on. Have fun. Customize your approach to make exercise more enjoyable. For instance, read, watch TV, or listen to your favorite music while pedaling a stationary cycle. Affirm your efforts. Your subconscious believes what it hears, without reasoning. Affirm aloud each morning (when no one is listening!) that you are vibrant and looking forward to a chance to exercise. Then, when the opportunity for exercise arises, your mind will encourage you. Listen to your body. If you exercise regularly, your body may at times say no. Take the hint. You may be doing too much, and overtraining can dampen enthusiasm, causing you to quit. Shift to a milder form of exercise, or take a break. A respite may inspire you to come back with renewed vigor and determination. Complement exercise. In addition to exercising, be sure to eat a low fat, balanced diet, sleep well, and reduce unhealthy influences like smoking and high stress.

ACTIVITIES TO SUIT ALL PERSONALITIES. It is a big help to know your personality and choose your exercise to match. Keeping the options below in mind can help you pick an exercise that feels right for you, rather than choosing an activity because you believe you should. You can also mix things up by, for example, including a competitive activity one day, followed the next day by something that is fun or productive. Competitive. Choose activities that satisfy your nature, such as tennis, racquetball, basketball, volleyball, or soccer. Playful. Try dancing (any type), in-line skating, ice skating, water or snow skiing, or horseback riding. Strong work ethic. Getting the job done counts as good exercise. Try mowing the lawn, gardening, doing carpentry or housework, or washing the car. If you are a LONER: Exercise in the privacy of your home, or take a walk in the park, hike a trail, or try tai chi, yoga, or the martial arts. If you are a SOCIAL BUTTERFLY: Mall walking, a golf foursome (without a golf cart), group hikes, and group bicycling are good choices. Join a gym to exercise and socialize. If you are, the GOAL ORIENTED: Choose traditional fitness activities. Run further and faster, lift more, etc. How about the COUCH POTATO: Make a commitment to do something, no matter how trivial, every day (e.g., climb six flights of stairs, walk to a nearby store). Build on your success.

Tuesday 11 December 2007

POWER~LESS

¿WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL...?
1. H. I. V. ~ A. I. D. S.
2. DEATH
3. POVERTY
4. IGNORANCE
5. LOVE
6. FAILURE
7. CONFUSION
8. HOMOPHOBIA
9. MONEY
10. RACISM
11. DECIET
12. HATE
13. JEALOUSY
14. SEXUALITY
15. LIFE
16. RELIGION
17. PERFECTION
18. HOPE
19. SELF~ESTEEM
20. SUCCESS
21. SACRIFICES
22. EDUCATION
23. WEALTH
24. CHANGE
25. GOD
26. CRITICISM
27. SELF~IMAGE
28. HOPE
29. FAITH
30. ADDICTION
31. SOCIETY

Monday 10 December 2007

NEVER...

OK, CHECK THIS OUT: being a SINGLE GAY MAN for almost 3 years has given me more than my share of difficulties in the LOVE department. So imagine the welcome surprise it was when I met a MAN that actually wants a LIFE with another MAN. Moreover, he is interested in taking that journey with ME! NEVER in my wildest dreams did I think that I would actually live long enough to appreciate meeting such a MAN. GOD has shine his light on me and provided me with the opportunity to experience the kind of man that I have been waiting for. After a few times of SHOULD haves and COULD haves, I can now breathe a sigh of relief and begin my journey. I am so @ peace when he is around that I am not all caught up in the things that cross my mind when I meet someone new. This time it is different, I AM DIFFERENT…I know DEEP down inside of me that he is going to take me to the next level. As we get to know each other I am seeing qualities (AND THEN SOME) of the things I want in MAN…HE & I ARE MATCHED ON SO MANY LEVELS THAT I HOLD DEAR TO A RELATIONSHIP. I believe in ONE-DAY @ A TIME (BABY STEPS), setting small attainable goals to test each OTHER’s TRUST, INTEREST, RELIABILITY and DETERMINATION to BUILD a GOOD and POSITIVE LOVERSHIP. So the inevitable pops into my mind asking me if HE is the ‘ONE’? How can I not? The indicators are there: AFTER SEX, I DO HAVE THAT CARING FEELING FOR HIM STILL. HE EXPRESSES INTEREST IN ME BEYOND SEX. HE TRUST ME & I HIM… HE IS A RELATIONSHIP PERSON & SO AM I…NEVER did I think that I would live long enough to feel like the rest is just about daily working to fine-tune a relationship that will hold the two of us…NEVER did I think that I could discuss ANYTHING and be fine afterwards. He is NOT guarded and lets me in without hesitation. However, I know that if difficult times and issues arise we will work on them together…NEVER did I think that I would LOVE the passionate kisses from out of nowhere that furthers POSITIVE emotional growth. And please, DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE SEX! In the past, I tend to take sex for GRANTED. Meaning, I know its there, I know its good, so like a fool I did NOT cease the opportunity to grow with my partner. Now I LOVE the PLAYFUL, SENSUOUS, I GRANT YOU MINE, YOU GRANT ME YOUR TOTAL SEXUAL SENSUOUS SELF. I ALWAYS WANTED TO SHARE MY BODY MUTUALLY IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER MAN…NEVER DID I…NEVER…IN THE DEEPEST PART OF MY MIND DID I FOR ONE MINUTE BELIEVED THAT ALL THE HEART ACHES n’ PAIN WOULD BE WORTH IT IN THE END…THERE ARE FEW MIRACLES IN THIS WORLD AS AMAZING AS LOVE. THIS LOVE FORMS AN UNBREAKABLE BOND BETWEEN US & IT WILL LIVE IN DEEPEST PART OF HEARTS FOR A LIFETIME…NEVER…

Sunday 09 December 2007

ONE FOOT...

Child be steady,
I know the road is rough;
But you can make this journey…
One foot @ a time.
I do not know the answers
My rational mind cannot comprehend;
But if you simply let go…
Wait patiently the answer will come.
Do not look outside yourself for a teacher,
For you will become your own;
I know it is hard because times are dark…
But fight because you deserve so much more.
Peace is near,
I can feel it;
I know it is easier said than done…
But with jus one foot you can.
Deep down you know you will make it,
Hold on to that feeling,
Your life depends on it…
There is strength in weakness.
You are a miracle in its rare form,
Unbreakable;
Hungry for life…
Take your place in this world.
© tgk

Saturday 08 December 2007

AS I AGE...

The term AGING is somewhat ambiguous and how society reacts towards this phenomenon is nothing beyond amazing. Aging is an important part of all society that NOT only reflects the biological changes, but the cultural and societal conventions. Aging is any change in an organism over time and given the YOUTH DRIVEN world in which we live, one can only see why there are persons out there that has a severe problem with getting AND looking older. One like me on the other hand embraces the inevitable transformation of the AGING process. There are friends of mine that see me as crazy OR uninformed because of my attitude and I constantly being told that I too someday will get to be the age they are now. Next year I will be entering my 3rd decade of life on this planet and I could NOT be happier. So imagine when my 4th decade of life begins, I will be OLDER n’ WISER. Being a GAY MAN I find it very strange, yet extremely profound that most GAY MEN are hung up on looks AND youthfulness. Hence, getting older means that they CANNOT or WILL NOT be able to do the things that they use to do. THIS IN MY OPINION IS A GREAT THING! However, the societal effects of AGING are huge and the GENERATION GAP begs one to question @ At what age does one become old? As time passes, it seems as if the young-old age threshold continues to decrease. To my dismay, what I consider OLD is a few decades beyond what those younger than me considers mature. I still do not get the problem that they have about getting old. I get that SOCIETY’S expectation of them has changed, but when did WE as a species actually obey the laws deemed by society? Over time, the age of desirability for GAY men seems to get younger AND younger. The age discrimination and lack of attention older or mature gay men receive is just simply the hands of time turning back on us. SO WHY DO WE GET ALL CAUGHT UP IN NOT BEING AS YOUNG AS WE ONCE WERE? I GET GETTING OLDER MAKES ONE THINKS ABOUT THE FUTURE. HOWEVER, IF ONE IS STUCK IN BEING THE 20 YEAR VERSION OF HIMSELF THEN I THINK HE HAS A SERIOUS PROBLEM BECAUSE HE OBVIOUSLY DID NOT MAKE THE CONNECTION WITH WHOM HE IS or SHOULD BE…

Friday 07 December 2007

¿HOW ABOUT SOME GAY INTELLIGENCE?




With us living in a world where SEX, LIES & THE DOWN LOW is ever so prevalent, one would think that EVERY female would align herself with a man that has a direct link to this phenomenon, because the concept that if walks like a duck, quack like a duck…DOES NOT APPLY IN THE GAY COMMUNITY! Moreover, that dumb notion does NOT even come close to the array of men that makes up the GAY COMMUNITY. Most men do NOT ‘look’ GAY‘talk’ GAY or ‘act’ GAY, but they are having SEX with each other nonetheless. So having a GAY INFORMANT is ideal for women that tend to be SO clueless about us gay men.

I AM OF THE OPINION THAT MEN WOULD F&CK EACH OTHER QUICKER THAN THEY CARE TO CHASE A WOMAN! The crazy thing is that most of these men do NOT want a relationship with another man OR consider themselves GAY or BI; they just blame their double lives on those around them. Their unwillingness to address their sexual behavior is what is endangering the gay community. Some say there is a DIRECT connection between this behavior and the rise of HIV/AIDS infections for both WOMEN and MEN. Nonetheless, I don’t buy this notion, yet SO many does and bury their collective heads in the sand and base their theory on unquantifiable information. I suppose it makes sense to them because no one knows how many men are on DLbut isn’t stereotyping wrong?

When are folks ESPECIALLY women going to pay attention to the truth that is right in front of their eyes? Men of all sorts are picking up each other left N’ right and it is SO easy! How could it not be? All he has to do is take care of his home life; having SEX every Wednesday night and every Friday morning. Pays church a visit on Sunday with the family on Sunday; keeping the woman satisfied, pay the bills, and come home every night and GAY BASH here N’ there…SHE WON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT WHAT HE IS REALLY DOING. It is sad when you look on the other side of the fence and seek the mask from that angle, but how can things be fixed when both sides lack REAL GAY INTELLIGENCE? This world is hard and we just place a band aid on a wound that will never heal…Making it virtually impossible for women to open their minds to reality. THE MORE SOCIETY TRIES TO MAKE HOMOSEXUALITY A BAD THING, THE MORE SOCIETY IS GOING TO HURT ITSELF. THE COMPLEX ISSUES SURROUNDING SEXUAL IDENTITY ARE NOT GOING AWAY. SO THE SOONER WE ACCEPT THE REALITIES OF THIS WORLD, THE BETTER IT WILL BE FOR ALL OF US. 

Thursday 06 December 2007

ANAL SEX 101

For many anal sex is the ULTIMATE taboo and there is CURIOUS attraction to it precisely because of its mysterious nature. Nonetheless, there are those few out there that LOVE it. However before one can get to that stage there are a few things one must to adhere to. Now SEX on its own should be done within the confines of mature relationship anchored by two individuals that has an ENORMOUS amount of RESPECT n’ UNDERSTANDING for each other.

One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing. However, please bear in mind that ANAL sex can hurt if it is NOT done right. Hence you MUST use enough lubricant AND exercise patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life once you have found your groove.

Can anal sex actually give pleasure? The answer is HELL YES! The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many things AND doing something different to spice up SEX and how it is done is the key. Always bear in mind that the physical sensations available during anal sex are uniquely different from anything else. The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. Kindly note that the prostate gland is the source of YOUR pleasure…THE TRICK IS FINDING INVENTIVE WAYS OF GETTING IT STARTED…

So how do you prepare yourself for this? REMEMBER that initial penetration is always the most difficult part of anal sex -- the anus is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stimulation. HENCE I WILL REPEAT THAT YOUR PARTNER HAS TO ENSURE THAT YOU ARE RELAXED & GO SLOW TO COAX YOUR ANUS INTO RECEIVING HIS PENIS. Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than your penis) dildo. The dildo is more realistic, but your fingers can flex and feel what they're doing inside her ass. Slide one finger in slowly, letting her adjust to it. Take your finger all the way out, and then push it back in again. Give her anus time to get used to this kind of activity. Then slide a second finger in. Consider how big your penis is and realize that two fingers are probably enough.

What position should you use for anal sex? For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many choose to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Some like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start. As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of lubricant. REMEMBER TOO MUCH LUBE IS ALMOST ENOUGH!

What do you need to have anal sex? The most important pieces of advice I can give on anal sex are: lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly available lubricant is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug stores. Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay, some of which are available at better drug stores, and most of which are available in some form at adult toy stores. Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure the lubricant you buy is rated CONDOM COMPATIBLE. NOTHING ELSE WILL DO! Oil-based lubricants such as VASELINE or BABY OIL WILL DESTROY A CONDOM long before you're done having sex. And many oil-based sub-stances will coat the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many potential infections. HERE THE TOP 5 LUBRICANTS FOR GAY MEN:

  1. Eros Silicon – This lube is the best on the market! It solves the pestering problem of stickiness and longevity with it's long-lasting silicon based formula. It takes more time to clean up and may stain your sheets, but is noticeably more smooth than most lubricants.
  2. Wet Platinum – Wet brand platinum lubricant, from their premium line is also long lasting and latex free. This is a guaranteed hit for your intimate needs and unlike Eros is water-based.
  3. Frixion – Can do more than add a little spice to your sex life, it is also good for your skin and libido! Made with plant extracts and natural aphrodisiacs, pleasure comes in many forms.
  4. Liquid Silk – Creamy and long-lasting! What more can you ask for? Liquid Silk is also lightweight for a natural feeling.
  5. Wet Flavored – One of the major complaints of lubricants, besides stickiness, is taste. One of the most well-known brands has a solutions with flavored lubes ranging from Wine Grape to Passion Fruit.

Do you have to use a condom? Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the penis. It will also help you clean up afterwards. ANAL SEX CAN BE A SHITTY ACTIVITY FOR A LOT OF FIRST-TIMERS. So my advice to you is that you ensure that you use a commercial enema, like Fleet to remove any left waste that can cause an embarrassment. However, if you are not comfortable using a cleansing agent just make sure you do NOT have to go before engaging in anal sex. HERE ARE THE TOP 8 CONDOM BRANDS FOR GAY MEN:

  1. Kimono – this is One of the best latex condoms on the market. Kimono's are 20% thinner than most condoms, yet just as safe with their smooth and easy feel. Kimono condoms are best for the more discriminating condom user.
  2. Kimono Micro Thin – even thinner than it's aforementioned sister, Kimono Micro Thins easily rank as one of our most popular. Kimono obviously focuses on comfort without sacrificing safety. For safer sex without the sensation of wearing a condom, Kimono Micro Thins work best.
  3. Trojan Magnum XL – when other condoms just don't measure up, Trojan Magnum XL's are the way to go. This condom is 30% larger than the standard condom but ranks at the top of our list.
  4. Durex Warming Pleasures – this hits the spot on a cold night when the apartment heat isn't working. The lubricated wraps warm on contact for both partner's pleasure.
  5. Pleasure Plus – these condoms come in trendy Fendi-like eyeglass case. The condoms themselves looks like old hot combs and feature a roomy pouch with fine internal ribs at the tip. The ribbed pouch gives a rugged tickle sensation when moved back and forth.
  6. Inspiral – if you were walking along the beach and stumbled upon a small seashell and put it on the tip of a condom, you’d have the Inspiral. It creates a twisted spiral for anal pleasure. Try Inspiral on the beach for the full effect.
  7. Trojan Mint Tingle – this is the freshest for those that prefer scented sensual pleasure. Experience this green, minty flavored and scented condom. Water-based lubricant is recommended.
  8. Okamoto Beyond Seven Studded – made from strong and durable sheerlon material provides a lighter condom feel. These condoms come lightly lubricated and studded for extra pleasure.

Wednesday 05 December 2007

NOTEVENCLOSE

I think that the ULTIMATE form of intimacy I can experience with another is SPIRITUAL intimacy. This kind of intimacy is of the highest order and fuses HEART, SOUL n’ MIND. So imagine how much I yearn for this connection since I have met someone special AND he has made me realize that I am NOT satisfied with just the physicality of my actions; I WANT MORE! Oh sure, all of the right signifiers are there: MISSIONARY POSITION (THIS IS FAVORITE SEX POSITION), GAZING INTO EACH OTHER’S EYES…ENJOYING EACH OTHER…KISSING PASSIONATELY AS OUR BODIES BURN FOR EACH OTHER. Though this is GREAT, I want to connect with a HIM on a SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, & EMOTIONAL level that peaks during SEX. The best SEX can be is a MESSY, UNRESTRAINED & EXPLOSIVE session that leaves me feeling like half the man I am. The other half of me feels CLUMSY, AWKWARD & WEIRD but somewhere in the middle, I find it frustrating AND humbling. Moreover, it is wonderful and I am grateful that I get experience such an event. However, I am @ a stage where I feel as if SEX has robbed me of that which I desire most. The ubiquitous way SEX invades my existence, teasing AND taking me to the edge only NOT to push me off gives the feeling of discontent. SEX is the most exciting experience and the secret to ALL happiness and makes life meaningful; if only I could cross over…My desire to go beyond the act itself is simply my way of fulfilling my humanity and connecting to another. The profound ways I have been negotiating on the sexual playground has thus taken me to new levels but I know there is more. I feel HOLLOW; EMPTY…just a shell that shows various varieties of my imperfections. I WANT THAT LOVE MAKING, SOUL SHAKING…HEART BREAKING KIND OF LOVE WITH A MAN THAT TAKES MY BREATHE AWAY. I SHOULD NOT HAVE TO LIVE IN A WORLD WHERE DESTINY FIGHTS WITH ME. THE STRONG MINDED WARROR WITHIN WANTS HIS HEART SEIZED, HIS SOUL LOCKED & HIS ENTIRE EXISTENCE ELEVATED…SO TAKE ME OVA!

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