Thursday 29 November 2007
Wednesday 28 November 2007
Tuesday 27 November 2007
Monday 26 November 2007
Sunday 25 November 2007
Saturday 24 November 2007
Friday 23 November 2007
Thursday 22 November 2007
Wednesday 21 November 2007
SAVE SELF FIRST
One of life’s most important lesson is being able to pick ourselves up from the hardships that we have to face. Far too many times the GAY man just hides and pretends that it does NOT exist. Hence in the process he destroys himself and is sinking in a sea of anarchy with no life rafts in sight. So my encouraging this self-serving attitude can only help those that he comes in contact with. Hence when that plane crashes that he calls a relationship and hits water, I implore him to tread and keep his head above water with his eye on the horizon. During such turbulent times undoubtedly it is hard to breathe in a relationship and he would have the tendency to help his partner first and ignore his very own needs. This is NOT a bad thing to do but in hind sight all of the desire to aid him EMOTIONAL, PHYSICAL and MENTAL help cannot save the disaster that is the relationship. He needs to understand that if he does NOT take what I am saying the end result will be two people in a state of emergency left weak and resentful. Inevitably, the relationship crumbles beyond repair as both parties struggle for the needed support and attention that neither one can provide.
BEING ALONE ≠ LONELINESS
I would LOVE for the GAY man to realize that relationships aren't easy, especially the GAY ones. Far too many times HE wears a mask and ignores his feelings which is insane because in trying NOT to be ALONE he ends becoming LONELY which in opinion is worst. Hence the typical GAY man hides within himself living his daily rote which comprise of WORK, HOME and LOOKING FOR AN OCCASIONAL HOOK UP IN BETWEEN. I only wish that HE can take this time and reflect upon who he is, where he has been and where he wants to go. It is only then that he can realize that the cure for LONELINESS is actually being ALONE. Hence the positive things in life can be HIS only outcome which ultimately will bring HIM peace AND happiness.
GET OFF THE INTERNET
I think the GAY culture has become too dependent on the internet as a means to meet guys. This phenomenon though interesting does NOT do the GAY man good because @ the end of the day the F&CK becomes the main event. I get that the internet eases the fear of rejection that is very real when faced with true life interaction with other GAY man. I'm aware of where this fear of rejection comes from but it is socially crippling. I feel that if HE cannot be a MAN online as well as in person then it does NOT make sense. So I implore HIM to REVERSE the cycle by replacing the time spent gradually. Social intercourse is much better than sitting in front of a screen trying to find some connection. Most times meeting a MAN in person does NOT end being a chat with the intention of HOOKING UP.
NO MORE BAGGAGE
Have you ever notice how the airlines makes us pay for EXCESS or EXTRA bags that we carry with us? In life I feel that we pay for this but NOT with money but with the SOUL. The GAY man must realize that HE cannot move ahead with a relationship without emptying the EXCESS issues HE carries on HIS back. Far too many times WE are in LOVE with being in LOVE and NOT dealing with the issues of LOVE past. Hence relationships past tend to get in the way of those that are trying to survive in the present. Relationships are REAL and should be taken SERIOUSLY. After all this is HIS life and it should NOT be taken lightly. Emptying BAGGAGE can make HIM realize that he may NOT to be with another someone @ the moment. Nevertheless, it does NOT matter how much LOVE HE feels for another; if there is a storm of fear surrounding the relationship, disaster WILL be the final destination.
DO NOT IGNORE THE DEAD ENDS
So many times WE see things before they arrive and simply IGNORE it. More times that I care to count, HUMANS sacrifice themselves for what seems like HAPPINESS only to END up on a road that has a blocked path. Be it a JOB that is NOT working, a RELATIONSHIP that is DEAD or a LIFE that is plagued with nothing but emptiness. SO GAY MAN IMPLORE YOU TO PLEASE SEE THE DEAD ENDS IN YOUR LIFE! I PERSONALLY feel that when face with the notion of no where to go OR hide, I think that either the GAY man has missed the lesson OR needed to see that he was on the wrong path. DEAD ENDS show how HE has NOT taken the opportunities to LEARN and GROW and life is a continual stream of teachings. Unfortunately, HE is way too preoccupied with the things that do NOT encourage HIS growth. In other words, HE has made a courageous decision, but missed the entire point of doing it in the first place. Hence this DEAD END shows that HIS peace of mind was compromised because HE has traded that for a LIFE of pent up SHAME and LIES. Therefore it is SO obvious that HE has skipped a valuable step- getting to know himself as a MAN first, and then GROWING as a GAY man.
I WISH FOR THE GAY MAN TO STOP OVERSHADOWING THE GOODNESS OF HEART & FOR HIM NOT TO ALLOW OTHERS DETERMINE WHAT HE KNOW IS TRUE! ALL IN ALL HE HAS TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT BEING GAY IS NOT A LIFESTYLE; BUT HIS LIFE. THE SOONER HE ACCEPTS THAT ALL OF US ARE MADE DIFFERENT FROM THE OTHER THE BETTER. HENCE THE CONCEPT OF HE WILL ONLY EXIST AS LONG AS HE LIVES UP TO SOCIETY’S NOTION OF WHO HE IS. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE INFORM THE GAY MAN THAT HE IS NOT INFERIOR TO OTHERS AS HE IS LED TO BELIEVE? I FEEL THAT HE SHOULD BE GREATFUL THAT GOD DID NOT SPRING US ALL FROM THE SAME POD; IF HE LOOKS @ HOW HE FEELS ABOUT HIMSELF BECAUSE OF THEM, HOW CAN HE WANT TRY SO HARD TO FIT IN? GAY MAN DOES NOT ALLOW THE FEAR OF SOCIETY’S INJUSTICE TO TAKE ROOT AND DESTROY YOUR LIFE! THEREFORE, AS WE ALL GET OLDER & FIND THAT THERE ARE MANY GREAT, UNEXPLAINED MYSTERIES IN THIS WORLD; WE NEED NOT ALLOW THE DIS~ASS~OCIATION OF THE GAY MAN & HIS SEXUALITY BE ONE OF THEM.
Tuesday 20 November 2007
Monday 19 November 2007
- ...exploring the wonders of nature
- ...the smell of clean sheets
- ...a warm smile from a stranger
- ...the sound of a child's laughter
- ...the dew on the fields in early morning
- .... a hug from someone you love
- ...birds singing
- ...waves lapping on the shore
- ... a puppy wagging it's tail
- ...waking up in the morning with thoughts of that special person in your life
- ...a warm summer day
- ...the smell of spring
- ...sleeping in
- ...a random act of kindness
- ...hearing an "I love you" from someone who has never said it before
- ...finding peace in life
- ...being with your family
- …creating memories
- …a warm blanket on a cold night
- …a rainbow
Sunday 18 November 2007
- …When YOU do NOT live as if ALL gay men will get HIV/AIDS!
- …When YOU see the GENDER card being played!
- …When YOU have defied the CLICHÉ!
- …When YOU hear them say WE can NOT make a relationship last!
- …When YOU have found another MALE and he has his SH!T together!
- …When YOU see them trying to make you out to be something you are NOT!
- …When YOU allow yourself to be discouraged!
- …When YOU think that YOUR life is insignificant!
- …When YOU can enjoy who YOU are!
- …When YOU feel you can NOT make a change!
- …When YOU have defined the purpose of YOUR life!
- …When YOU can NOT follow the UNNATURAL order of LIFE!
- …When YOU see that YOU can stand up to BULLSH!T n’ LIES!
- …When YOU have remembered that YOU are a very special person!
- …When YOU can fulfill the purpose to which YOU were born!
- …When YOU have realized that ecstasy does NOT beget LOVE!
- …When YOU have realized that HAPPINESS is being SINGLE!
- …When YOU appreciate YOU totally!
- …When YOU are willing to spend a lot of time with YOU!
- …When YOU are NOT a LYING, CHEATING, D!CK CHASING INDIVIDUAL!
- …When YOU are NOT trying to beat every piece of ASS that cums YOUR way!
- …When YOU have realized that WE are in the 21st century and world isn’t!
- …When YOU don’t conform to RESOCIALIZING YOURSELF!
- …When YOU know what MASCULINITY is!
- …When YOU know that YOU are NOT the end of MASCULINITY!
- …When YOU know that WE are the advancement of MASCULINITY!
- …When YOU see that WE are commonplace and NOT marginalized!
- ...When YOU are NOT shaped by what YOU see!
- ...When YOU see the danger in looking in someone’s mirror and living their reflection!
- …When YOU know what LOVE is and won’t settle for anything else!
- …When YOU have a relationship with ‘GOD’ despite YOUR sexuality!
Saturday 17 November 2007
I BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS HAVING THE LEAST THINGS & HAVING THE RIGHT PERSON AROUND TO SUPPLY YOUR NEEDS WITH JUST PRESENCE & SUBSTANCE. SO I HAVE BEEN WONDERING...WHEN IS LOVE¿LOVE?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE HAS CAPTIVATE MY ENTIRE BEING?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE LEAVES ME BREATHLESS?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I TASTE HIS LIPS FOR FIRST TIME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN OUR BODIES ARE INTERTWINED?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE HAS F&CK MY MIND?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I SEE ME IN HIS EYES?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE SAYS MY NAME WITH A SMILE?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I KNOW HE WILL WALK THIS LIFE WITH ME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN FEEL HIS HEART BEAT FOR ME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I KNOW HIS D!CK DOES NOT QUIT LONG AFTER ME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I STILL HAVE THE SCENT OF HE ON ME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE HAVE A CONNECTION THAT GOES BEYOND TIME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN MY HEART IS FREE?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE KNOW THAT WE ARE "IMPERFECT' FOR EACH OTHER?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I KNOW I AM A BETTER MAN?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CRY BECAUSE OF THE WISDOM IN HIS SOUL?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN HEAR THE THINGS HE IS NOT SAYING?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I'VE BEEN TOUCHED TOO DEEP TO BE DENIED?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I LOVE WITH ALL OR NOTHING?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE COMPELS ME MIND, BODY N' SOUL?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I TAKE HIM TO THAT PLACE WHERE NO ONE HAS BEEN?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I GIVE HIM ALL & SAVE NOTHING FOR ME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS MY WORLD & HE & HE ALONE CAN DESTROY ME?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I AM NOT AFRAID?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I HOLD AS SLEEP EVEN THOUGH HE IS NOT IN MY BED?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN RECOGNIZE HIS SOUL, ENERGY N' ESSENCE?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I NO LONGER LOOK FOR HIM WITH HUMAN EYES?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE ARE FREE TO GROW IN A SAFE N' TRUSTING PLACE?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE ARE THE EPITOME OF LOVERS?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I NEED HIM LIKE OXYGEN?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS MY ADDICTION & I CRAVE HIM?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE HAVE TO EXPRESS IN EVERY WAY?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS THE YIN TO MY YANG?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS THE REAL, POSITIVE & ENDURING VALUE THAT LIFE OFFERS?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I LET GO OF MY DISGUISE?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE MAKES ME THE CENTER OF HIS UNIVERSE?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE KNOW THAT WE NOT CASUALTIES OF OUR SEXUALITY?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I LIE AWAKE THINKING OF HE?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I HOLD HIM THE WORLD FALLS SILENT?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN ANGELS CRIES TEARS OF JOY FOR OUR LOVE?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN IT COMES ON LIKE A HURRICANE?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE MOVES ME LIKE A SLOW DANCE?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE PLUCKS ME LIKE A CHERRY?
- ¿ IS IT LOVE WHEN I AM STRIPPED NAKED?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I NO LONGER HIDE BEHIND SCARS?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I FEEL SUNLIGHT ON MY FACE?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN TASTE CLOUDS?
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN TOUCH SPACE
- ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I JUST TRULY LIVE?
¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE JUST LOVE?
Friday 16 November 2007
Thursday 15 November 2007
Consider this scenario, you're struggling with a tricky problem at work and you had to do the embarrassing UM HI, routine to cover the fact that you forgot the name of the person you always bump into at the copy machine. Now you are at happy hour you've clammed up because someone mentioned GLOBAL WARMING and though it dimly rings a bell, you're not sure if it's a table sport or a place or some sort of noodle dish. If only you were smarter, you think. Not that you're dumb (we'd never call you that, at least not to your face). But wouldn't it be nice to have all the answers, a picture-perfect memory and the ability to astonish your friends or wow your boss with big words and bigger thoughts?Most will agree that being smart is more than merely acing an IQ test, which typically measures a specific set of capabilities and assigns a score. Not that high scores don't matter for are tied to educational achievement and higher income, social status and even longer life. However in the real world, intelligence is much, much vaster and there are many varieties of it. The idea that there are multiple intelligences and that that people can be intelligent visually, musically, mathematically, athletically, interpersonally and intrapersonally was introduced by Harvard psychologist Howard Gardner. Still, whatever the type of intelligence, most people judge brainpower on practical factors, including how much you know, how well you can access what you know and what you do with it. Which still leaves us wondering how much can be expanded beyond the original biologic cards that you've been dealt. Research shows that although children's brains develop at an astonishing clip, that ability slows in adulthood. And clearly some people start off with much fuller decks than others. BUFF BODY, BUFF BRAIN – Here’s another reason to hit the gym: Staying active is good for the brain. Exercise improves the flow of blood throughout your body, including to your noggin, which helps it operate better. The effect is especially important as we age. In general, anything that leads you to be healthier, mentally or physically, leads to you being more alert, which leads you to being more attentive to the task at hand, which leads to better performance." That includes getting enough sleep and avoiding illness. Exercise also stimulates the creation of certain proteins, including brain-derived neurotrophic factors that are important for brain development and repair. Exercise improves your overall health, boosts your mood and keeps your weight down. EAT YER (BRAIN) FOOD – What you eat may also affect how you think. Omega-3 oils, for example, have been shown to aid in developing the brains of fetuses, babies and children. Some scientists believe they may have a similar effect on the brains of adults. And thanks to a new understanding of stem cells, there's hope that the nutrient choline may help adults. Until five years ago, researchers thought that we were done forming the brain by 4 or 5 years of age, but they realized that they are wrong. In the last decade, it's become clear that there are stem cells in the hippocampus that are dividing until you're in your 50s." That means there's a good chance that what's beneficial for brain development early in life might also help later, although probably to a lesser degree. CONCENTRATE N’ RELAX – If you thought you'd have to spend all day with your nose in a book to get smart, think again. There's evidence that meditation does wonders for the thinker. While studying the brain structure of people who practice Buddhist insight meditation regularly, Massachusetts General Hospital researchers found mediators have thicker brain matter in the area that deals with executive function, which refers to our ability to plan, think abstractly, understand rules and initiate appropriate responses. The study didn't look at whether those with thicker brain matter have higher-functioning brains, says lead study author Sara Lazar, but the team aims to find out. In the meantime, Richard Davidson, professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin at Madison and director of the Waisman Laboratory for Brain Imaging and Behavior, offers plenty of support for meditation. Davidson has long studied the impact of meditation on attention and concentration, and has found that "even relatively short-term meditation practice can substantially change certain aspects of attention and change the brain systems that underlie it." Meditation can also help train people to regulate their emotions. Monks, it turns out, are masters of this, as Davidson found in a study. That inner calm "is extremely important for well-being and also very important for learning," he says. "If you are hyper-responsive to stress and to negative stimuli in your environment, it would interfere with your capacity to learn."
DISCOVER~EXPERIENCE~LEARN – Although we're still studying the brain and intelligence, "for centuries there have been ways known for making you smarter," Gordon says. "We call it education. It's been known to work." Cute. But Gordon points out that it's not just what you learn in school but that you learn how to think. "You learn about different approaches," he says. "And that's part of being intelligent." In addition, being in school gives you practice in memorizing things, a skill that fades with lack of use. Someone studying for an exam 15 years after they graduated from college, for example, probably will have a harder time memorizing lists of facts than someone with recent practice in cramming. Exposing yourself to new experiences can also help improve inactive or less active parts of the brain, Linden says. "Do as many different kinds of mental exercises as you can," he advises. If you're a crossword puzzle nut, that's great, but you'll build up only the skills related to crossword puzzles. Instead, put down the pencil and try something else. Seek out new cultural experiences, visit new places, and try a new hobby.