¡We can no longer be a bunch of empty minds living in critical times refusing to recognize real lies!

Thursday 29 November 2007

SUCH AS DEATH...

You come…
Interrupting
Life that is pleasant n’ peaceful
Reminding us that the transition of you is troublesome!
Suppose that is why we live as if you do NOT exist
You engulf our entire being,
And take control…
…We are such small creatures
That are @ your mercy as we try live.
Yet I stand here seeking answers,
Standing in the gaps of you that life suffers.
I am the reminder,
The remainder
Of what you have made us.
I will linger…
Longer than me;
And much like the dust splitting the wind,
I, one day will rise against you…
Cradle you in my arms,
And keep your secrets
For I will never return.
And I will be all knowing;
Living more powerful in my death…
Beget by the life I remember.
Living without what I want most,
As you sing your songs out loud
That the words are left engraved on my tomb.
So make me feel your voice rush through me
Sing it in front of the audience
With hidden messages just for me
Use that harsh and course voice with brutal honesty
Let me die with the last note,
With painful memories
Buried beneath my thick skin
As I come face to face with you,
Leaving the world in such a heart breaking way…
Such as DEATH!
© tgk

Wednesday 28 November 2007

FRIENDS N' LOVERS

Why is it that so many of us neglect or forget our friends when we get into a relationship? Whether it is the quality or the intensity of our friendships that change, we often see friends less frequently, or we no longer make new friends when we are involved in a serious romantic relationship. Can someone tell me why that is when relationships are formed; the first thing to feel threatened is our independence? Most of us that are in monogamous relationships are convinced that other people are a threat to the relationship. I would LOVE to know why is it that most are afraid that if their partner goes out socializing that they may have sex with someone else, and eventually leave them? How dumb is it to ALWAYS want to be included when your partner goes out with friends? Isn’t it crazy that you have trouble understanding why your partner would want time alone with friends? So tell me this: do you not trust others to respect your relationship boundaries? IF YOUR ANSWER TO THESE QUESTIONS MAKE U FEEL UNEASY…WELL YOU KNOW WHAT MUST BE DONE!
Granted, being in a relationship changes things. People's interests can sometimes change. Our needs are not the same. We may not want to go out partying or socializing as much, or our reasons for socializing may change. In the beginning of a relationship, many couples withdraw from friends to be able to spend more time with each other. While these changes are understandable, and may even serve an important function in the beginning stages of a relationship, if a couple remains isolated for too long problems usually arise. People start to feel isolated, miss their independence, and often misinterpret this to mean that there is something wrong with the relationship, when all they need is more independence.
Some people in relationships say they no longer need separate time with friends. They prefer to socialize with other couples and have only mutual friends. Some feel that their partners meet all of their emotional needs, so why have other close relationships. Others feel that their work and relationship take all of their emotional energy, and they have little left for friends. Some people avoid independent activities because they worry that they would be tempted to stray. Relationships often lead to changes in priorities, interests, friendships, and social activities, and this is to be expected. However, relationships do not eliminate our need to meet new people, to get together with friends on our own, to feel close to and have fun with other people -- to be independent without the relationship being threatened.
If you trust your partner and feel secure about yourself and in your relationship, it probably would not bother you when your lover sees friends, or when someone flirts with her/him. It could feel disrespectful if someone comes on to your partner, but it won't be a big issue for you because you trust your partner to handle it well. If you feel insecure about yourself or your relationship, or you don't trust your partner, it may feel threatening when your partner goes out with friends. There are many reasons why people feel insecure, and lesbians and gay men have the added burden of heterosexism and homophobia to contend with. It is very hard to feel secure in a world that denigrates our sexuality and relationships -- a world in which many are forced to hide their love and are even killed for being gay. Lesbian and gay relationships often receive little or no support, sometimes even our own community isn't supportive. Relationships often lead to changes in priorities, interests, friendships, and social activities, and this is to be expected. However, relationships do not eliminate our need to meet new people, to get together with friends on our own, to feel close to and have fun with other people -- to be independent without the relationship being threatened.
Some lesbians and gay men feel fine about their partner seeing friends independently, but may feel threatened by a particularly close friendship, or by an ex-lover. This can be hard to deal with. It's important to talk about your feelings with your partner, and hopefully s/he will be able to hear and reassure you. Again, the issue is not about the friendship, but about your wanting to feel close to and secure about your own relationship. This can help you feel more comfortable with their friendship. Maybe you need to spend more special time together? Even if your partner has a strong connection with, or some sexual feelings for another person that doesn't have to threaten your relationship. The more you focus on it, or give your partner a hard time about it, the more likely it is that the two of you will argue and you'll continue to feel insecure.
Going to Extremes
Just as people can be too dependent on one another in a relationship, people can be overly independent as well. Both will create problems in a relationship. If there is too much separateness in your relationship, you may want to focus on spending more quality time together and talking more personally. When people are overly independent, some friendships can feel threatening because they may have more emotional intimacy. Here again the issue is not the friendship, but that you want more closeness with your partner. Find ways to do that. Some people believe that their partner's friendships are an indication of something missing in their relationship, as though they should be able to meet all of their partner's needs. No one can meet all of another person's needs. In fact, seeing friends can improve your relationship. Having enjoyed an evening with a friend, your partner will feel happier and revitalized which can benefit both of you, especially if you don't give her/him a hard time about it. Sometimes underneath insecurities and jealousies is the belief that if your partner really loved you, s/he'd love only you. You might think that if your partner goes out with a friend when you're free, s/he's choosing the friend over you. This is a misunderstanding about love. Everyone is capable of loving a number of people at the same time. The choice to see a friend is just that -- a decision to see a friend. It is not a competition with you. So don't make it into one by giving your partner the third degree or by guilting her/him. Instead, encourage and support your partner to see friends, and do the same for yourself. If you feel insecure, talk about it. You may find that rather than threatening your relationship, seeing friends leaves both of you feeling better about each other.

Tuesday 27 November 2007

CYCLE ME

Cycle me,
Make me apart of life’s endless creation.
I want to come and go with the seasons…
And be life into life forever!
Create me in a vast room
With walls that consist of a thousand doors of possibility.
Make sure that each door is flung open to the world outside,
And the room is filled with light and noise.
Sing for Me
As I create life that is my own…
Challenge me
And I will rise to the occasion,
The King I am
Will stand strong at the throne
The jeweled crown I searched for
Will be clutched close to my heart!
So let me continue to live because I will not always be around,
Make me know that I am leaving the part of me;
That will delight and amaze the world!
So cycle this battered n’ bruised man,
Bring me to life with…
Resurrect me from my loins,
Make me a man.
See the wisdom in my voice,
Hear truth in my soul.
Bang the drums slowly
Bring tears to my eyes.
Unbreak my soul
Never leave me lost n’ insecure.
Pound your fist in the air,
So I can know I am there.
Scream my name,
Save the whispers for those who make love to you.
Be vulnerable Make me believe
It is all worth letting go
When the smoke clears
I will understand
The cycle of me
© tgk

Monday 26 November 2007

HURT SO GOOD

You start with a smile,
Grows with a kiss And ends with a tear!
And since the beginning of my time,
I have gazed @ you in awe…
Hating myself for the sweet feeling of pain you give me.
You know no boundaries,
And all I am to you is some creation…
That is a carbon copy of the other little boxes you have constructed!
And like a fool,
I tell myself that I am done with you…
Only to welcome you with open arms!
So forgiving I am…
And you just rain on me,
Giving me pain…
Mocking n’ abusing me!
Forcing me chase you like an addict,
That is seeking that fix.
Encased in my childlike womb,
I lay in wait…
All vulnerable n’ stupid!
Breathing in your false air,
Experiencing the wonder of your deceit.
If only I could gaze upon…
My ignorance,
And clue myself in.
The pain of you,
Has reduced me to a subhuman state…
Yet when the smoke clears,
My heart smiles because I know that you were well worth the pain.
So I tell myself one more day,
And maybe I will get an hour, week or year…
Or a lifetime!
Each time I get closer to you,
You make it sweeter than the time before…
Putting me in blissful state,
Only to have frown hit my face;
As I remember your golden rule:
THAT LOVE HURTS SO GOOD!
© tgk

Sunday 25 November 2007

¿WHAT MANNER OF RULES ARE THESE?



I have just started dating and there are some signs that he could be someone that I can be with for the long haul. Now the thing is that things are new and I am aware that as human beings we have the tendency to be all caught up in love and not LOVE. However, if I feel that this love can blossom into LOVE then why should follow some RULES and take my chances on hindering that? For the first time in as long as I can remember, I have met a MAN that makes me SMILE from inside out. I feel that I am with someone that is in safe place where LOVE can actually go beyond itself. This is such a GREAT feeling for me because for far too long I have been cynical about love and it took my getting my heart broken to realize that. Therefore, I have decided that I am NOT following any RULES because they cause more harm than good…I WANT TO BE ABLE TO SAY I LOVE YOU WHEN I FEEL IT. I WANT TO SAY I WANT YOU NEAR ME WHEN I FEEL IT. I WANT TO SAY KISS FOR NO REASON OTHER THAN TO KISS ME WHEN I FEEL IT. However, being a mere human I understand the reasons why these RULES exist. And though we are NOT perfect, I feel that LOVE should make us PERFECT for each other. If only we could ACCEPT that love ends because could NOT grow into LOVE. Hence, the intricate web of factors that has contributed to the demise of love should be treated as a learning experience and NOT the be all and end all. Placing RULES upon our hearts prevents us from getting to the TRUE core of ourselves. How can we NOT see that when WE LOVE and not love to help us grow? So to allow some RULES to get in the way of that just do not make any sense. If one follows a RULE that stipulates that one should NOT say I LOVE YOU a certain amount of time has passed, isn’t that gradually turning up the heat on an already brewing pot that will boil over and leave a mess everywhere? Following RULES when it comes to LOVE can cause one to miss the ONE that could have brought HAPPINESS and the WHOLENESS you seek. Our logic AND reason should dictate that LOVE has no timeline AND cannot be manipulated. It is my personal feeling that if I hold back on my love for someone then I already know that we cannot ever end up with LOVE for each other. Hence, the RULES of LOVE make no sense and causes a sense of FEAR for NO legitimate reason. Therefore, we just go along with the program AND pray that it will work out…WHAT A F&CK UP WAY TO LIVE! HOW CAN WE BRAVE THE ELEMENTS OF THIS PLANET & RISE UP AS THE DOMINANT SPECIES & CRIPPLE OURSELVES WITH RULES? WHY CAN’T WE BE BRAVE & SAY F&CK THE RULES? I CANNOT DO MYSELF ANY KIND OF INJUSTICE SO I WILL LIVE EVERYDAY THANKING GOD FOR A SOUL THAT FEELS FREE TO ENJOY THE ONE THING THAT SUPPOSE TO COME WITHOUT REGULATORS. THE RULES SIMPLY EXIST TO SHOW US THAT WE ARE SEEKING love & NOT LOVE & IT IS SO SAD THAT WE ARE JUST TOUCHING THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG. WE ARE NOT GETTING A TASTE OF WHAT LOVE HAS TO OFFER. WE NEED TO RECOGNIZE THAT IF WE REALLY REALLY REALLY WANT LOVE WE CANNOT FALL & PLAY IT CAUTIOUSLY. LOVE IS JOURNEY NOT A DESTINATION & THE RULES JUST MAKE LIFE TAXING. I AM AWARE THAT WE LEARN ABOUT LOVE BY TRIAL & ERROR, BUT PLACING RULES IN THE MIX WILL BREAK US. IF ONE CAN FOLLOW SOME RULE WHEN THEY ARE WITH ANOTHER THEN I SAY KEEP ON THAT PATH, IT IS OBVIOUS THAT HE IS NOT THAT SPECIAL ONE THAT CAUSES YOUR HEART TO SKIP A BEAT & STIR FEELINGS SO DEEP WITHIN THAT YOU ARE NOT AFRAID TO ALLOW THE RULES TO RULE.

Saturday 24 November 2007

MAN VS. BOY



A BOY wants to control the man in his life.
A MAN knows that if he's truly him, he doesn't need controlling.
A BOY will yell at you for not calling them.
MEN are too busy to realize you hadn't.
A BOY is afraid to be alone.
A MAN revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.
A BOY ignores the good guys.
A MAN ignores the bad guys.
A BOY makes you come home.
A MAN makes you want to come home.
A BOY leaves their schedule wide-open and waits for a guy to call and make plans.
A MAN makes his own plans and nicely tells the guy to get in where he fits.
A BOY worries about not being handsome and/or good enough for his man.
A MAN knows that he is handsome and/or good enough for any man.
A BOY tries to monopolize all of his man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
A MAN realizes that little bit of space makes the TOGETHER TIME even more special-and goes out with his friends
A BOY thinks a man crying is weak.
A MAN offers his shoulder and a tissue.
A BOY wants to be spoiled to feed his ego.
A MAN will make him feel comfortable and engage his manhood.
A BOY gets hurt by one man and makes all men pay for it.
A MAN knows that was just one man.
A BOY falls in love and chase aimlessly after the object of his affection ignoring all the reject signs.
A MAN knows that sometimes the one's you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.





Friday 23 November 2007

A NEW APPROACH

¿HOW ABOUT TAKING A BREAK FROM WHAT YOU ARE DOING? Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in our thoughts that we wind up going round in round in circles, finding it difficult to concentrate on things and, because we are so distracted, not really accomplishing much. There may be signals—mental, emotional, and physical—that tell us we need to slow down and relax. Since we are so involved in things that are external to us, however, we may easily overlook what is really going on inside of us. It is during these times that we need to step back from the things that occupy our minds and take time out to connect with our inner self, giving our minds, bodies, and spirits the time they need to reenergize and heal. At first it may seem that by taking a break we may not be as productive as we would initially like. In reality, a healthy period of rest is something that gives us a real sense of the unlimited nature of our true potential. Spending a couple of minutes walking outside, doing a few yoga poses, meditating, or simply becoming attuned to the rising and falling of our breath enables us to let go of our worries. This act brings our focus back to the things that are truly essential for us, such as our sense of oneness with the universe and our inner peace and well-being. As we begin to get in touch with this part of ourselves, we will find that our usual everyday troubles and worries become less critical and that we not only have much more room in our lives to really reflect on the issues that mean the most to us, but we are also able bring to all the situations we encounter a much more positive and healthy outlook. Giving ourselves respite from our daily concerns is like giving a gift to ourselves. By stepping away from the problems that seem to saturate our thoughts, we lessen the weight of our troubles and instead become more receptive to the wisdom and answers the universe has to offer us.

Thursday 22 November 2007

HAPPY THANKSGIVING...

As the holidays approach, you may be preparing yourself to gather with family members you don’t usually spend time visiting. You may even feel that you are choosing to meet more from a sense of obligation than celebration. But when we trust that the universe always places us exactly where we need to be, we know that we have been placed in our families for some higher purpose. Your spirit may have chosen that particular group of souls to help you learn certain lessons, or to give you the experiences necessary to overcome specific challenges. And when we feel we’ve moved away from situations that don’t resemble us or the life we choose to live, it can seem frustrating to put ourselves back into an old scenario. But even a sense of obligation is a sign that you are still connected to the energy of your family, and for that alone it is worth investing yourself into making the most of any gathering. Once surrounded by people from your past, you may find that you are feeling challenged by a sort of identity crisis. There is likely to be a gap between the person you know yourself to be now and how you are seen by those who knew you before. But you can call upon your inner strength to stand in your truth and simply be who you are without needing their approval or heeding any criticism. Then, you can offer them the gift you’d like to receive when you also allow them to be themselves. Being in situations that we might not choose for ourselves allows us to see ourselves in a new light. The contrast helps us to see our own strengths and weaknesses, and to learn to accept others for theirs. Part of the magic of family is the way in which it bonds diverse people together, allowing them to function as a complete unit. Who we are today has been built upon our past. If nothing else, rejoining with the family and friends who knew us in our earlier days allows us to recall where we came from so that we can appreciate all that we’ve been given.

Wednesday 21 November 2007

SOLUTIONS 4 THE PROBLEMATIC GAY MAN

I find it very interesting how most if NOT all GAY MEN see themselves living a life that others considered to be just THE GAY THING. It seems as if the life of the GAY man is a self fulfilling prophecy. The BIGGEST problem is that he hears what is being said about him and instead of EMBRACING who HE is it seems as if he subconsciously tailor makes his life to fit that of society’s perception. Hence, he is BOTHERED by his HOMOSEXUALITY and this curious PHENOMENON of SELF LOATHING is his biggest problem. SO HERE ARE A FEW SUGGESTIONS IN HELPING THE "GAY" MAN FIND HIS WAY. ¿CAN YOU IMAGINE WHAT A POWERFUL COMMUNITY WE WOULD BE IF WE ACTUAL BELIEVED?

SAVE SELF FIRST

One of life’s most important lesson is being able to pick ourselves up from the hardships that we have to face. Far too many times the GAY man just hides and pretends that it does NOT exist. Hence in the process he destroys himself and is sinking in a sea of anarchy with no life rafts in sight. So my encouraging this self-serving attitude can only help those that he comes in contact with. Hence when that plane crashes that he calls a relationship and hits water, I implore him to tread and keep his head above water with his eye on the horizon. During such turbulent times undoubtedly it is hard to breathe in a relationship and he would have the tendency to help his partner first and ignore his very own needs. This is NOT a bad thing to do but in hind sight all of the desire to aid him EMOTIONAL, PHYSICAL and MENTAL help cannot save the disaster that is the relationship. He needs to understand that if he does NOT take what I am saying the end result will be two people in a state of emergency left weak and resentful. Inevitably, the relationship crumbles beyond repair as both parties struggle for the needed support and attention that neither one can provide.

BEING ALONE ≠ LONELINESS

I would LOVE for the GAY man to realize that relationships aren't easy, especially the GAY ones. Far too many times HE wears a mask and ignores his feelings which is insane because in trying NOT to be ALONE he ends becoming LONELY which in opinion is worst. Hence the typical GAY man hides within himself living his daily rote which comprise of WORK, HOME and LOOKING FOR AN OCCASIONAL HOOK UP IN BETWEEN. I only wish that HE can take this time and reflect upon who he is, where he has been and where he wants to go. It is only then that he can realize that the cure for LONELINESS is actually being ALONE. Hence the positive things in life can be HIS only outcome which ultimately will bring HIM peace AND happiness.

GET OFF THE INTERNET

I think the GAY culture has become too dependent on the internet as a means to meet guys. This phenomenon though interesting does NOT do the GAY man good because @ the end of the day the F&CK becomes the main event. I get that the internet eases the fear of rejection that is very real when faced with true life interaction with other GAY man. I'm aware of where this fear of rejection comes from but it is socially crippling. I feel that if HE cannot be a MAN online as well as in person then it does NOT make sense. So I implore HIM to REVERSE the cycle by replacing the time spent gradually. Social intercourse is much better than sitting in front of a screen trying to find some connection. Most times meeting a MAN in person does NOT end being a chat with the intention of HOOKING UP.

NO MORE BAGGAGE

Have you ever notice how the airlines makes us pay for EXCESS or EXTRA bags that we carry with us? In life I feel that we pay for this but NOT with money but with the SOUL. The GAY man must realize that HE cannot move ahead with a relationship without emptying the EXCESS issues HE carries on HIS back. Far too many times WE are in LOVE with being in LOVE and NOT dealing with the issues of LOVE past. Hence relationships past tend to get in the way of those that are trying to survive in the present. Relationships are REAL and should be taken SERIOUSLY. After all this is HIS life and it should NOT be taken lightly. Emptying BAGGAGE can make HIM realize that he may NOT to be with another someone @ the moment. Nevertheless, it does NOT matter how much LOVE HE feels for another; if there is a storm of fear surrounding the relationship, disaster WILL be the final destination.

DO NOT IGNORE THE DEAD ENDS

So many times WE see things before they arrive and simply IGNORE it. More times that I care to count, HUMANS sacrifice themselves for what seems like HAPPINESS only to END up on a road that has a blocked path. Be it a JOB that is NOT working, a RELATIONSHIP that is DEAD or a LIFE that is plagued with nothing but emptiness. SO GAY MAN IMPLORE YOU TO PLEASE SEE THE DEAD ENDS IN YOUR LIFE! I PERSONALLY feel that when face with the notion of no where to go OR hide, I think that either the GAY man has missed the lesson OR needed to see that he was on the wrong path. DEAD ENDS show how HE has NOT taken the opportunities to LEARN and GROW and life is a continual stream of teachings. Unfortunately, HE is way too preoccupied with the things that do NOT encourage HIS growth. In other words, HE has made a courageous decision, but missed the entire point of doing it in the first place. Hence this DEAD END shows that HIS peace of mind was compromised because HE has traded that for a LIFE of pent up SHAME and LIES. Therefore it is SO obvious that HE has skipped a valuable step- getting to know himself as a MAN first, and then GROWING as a GAY man.

I WISH FOR THE GAY MAN TO STOP OVERSHADOWING THE GOODNESS OF HEART & FOR HIM NOT TO ALLOW OTHERS DETERMINE WHAT HE KNOW IS TRUE! ALL IN ALL HE HAS TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT BEING GAY IS NOT A LIFESTYLE; BUT HIS LIFE. THE SOONER HE ACCEPTS THAT ALL OF US ARE MADE DIFFERENT FROM THE OTHER THE BETTER. HENCE THE CONCEPT OF HE WILL ONLY EXIST AS LONG AS HE LIVES UP TO SOCIETY’S NOTION OF WHO HE IS. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE INFORM THE GAY MAN THAT HE IS NOT INFERIOR TO OTHERS AS HE IS LED TO BELIEVE? I FEEL THAT HE SHOULD BE GREATFUL THAT GOD DID NOT SPRING US ALL FROM THE SAME POD; IF HE LOOKS @ HOW HE FEELS ABOUT HIMSELF BECAUSE OF THEM, HOW CAN HE WANT TRY SO HARD TO FIT IN? GAY MAN DOES NOT ALLOW THE FEAR OF SOCIETY’S INJUSTICE TO TAKE ROOT AND DESTROY YOUR LIFE! THEREFORE, AS WE ALL GET OLDER & FIND THAT THERE ARE MANY GREAT, UNEXPLAINED MYSTERIES IN THIS WORLD; WE NEED NOT ALLOW THE DIS~ASS~OCIATION OF THE GAY MAN & HIS SEXUALITY BE ONE OF THEM.

Tuesday 20 November 2007

NAME DROPPING...

NAME DROPPING (also called name checking or brand-name dropping) is the practice of casually inserting the names of important people or institutions into a conversation in order to seem more important to the listener. Name dropping is typically considered to be a negative — even offensive — quality. When used in argument it can be an example of the appeal to authority fallacy. Soft drink companies do it. Sneaker companies do it. And, increasingly, people are doing it. I find that there are persons that feel that if they are to be a KEY player in the world @ large, NAME DROPPING can be a means to their success. In the WHO’S WHO world of today, it does NOT pay to get by on the name that was given @ birth, but by the names of others. It is rather SAD that people are NOT what they seem and pretend to have heirs simply by letting it be known that they are CONNECTED to someone that he is highly recognized. I wonder what is in a name and how does my saying that I know the Prime Minister personally make me a better person? NAME DROPPING makes me feel bad for persons that go this route because it shows that they do NOT have any self esteem and they are NOT anyone special until they say they know someone that is INFAMOUS or PROMINENT. Hence, if one is labeled a NAME-DROPPER, he OR she may as well wear a tag that says: HELLO, MY NAME IS INSECURE ASSHOLE & I DO THIS BECAUSE I AM NOT HAPPY WITH WHO I AM. It does NOT take a rocket scientist to figure out that NAME DROPPING does NOT make one important OR worldly. However, it does show that WE live in a culture that is so fixated on being somebody that they loose themselves in the process. MOREOVER, BEING A NAME DROPPER IS RIGHT UP THERE WITH ALL THE OTHER THINGS THAT DRAG THIS WORLD DOWN. I AM AWARE THAT THERE ARE A HANDFUL OF PERSONS THAT DOES THIS JUST TO LET IT BE KNOWN THAT THEY ARE PROUD OF THE ASSOCIATION & THEY SIMPLY WANT OTHERS TO KNOW. HOWEVER THAT GROUP OF PERSONS IS VERY FEW & THE VAST MAJOR OF NAME DROPPERS JUST SEEKS ADORATION RATHER THAN JUST TRYING TO BE REAL. THE CRAZY THING HERE IS THAT I GET THEM TRYING TO MAKE THEMSELVES FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES; I JUST WONDER IF THEY REALIZE HOW SAD THAT IS BECAUSE IF THAT’S IT TAKES…THEY WILL BE NAME DROPPING FOR A LONG TIME.

Monday 19 November 2007

HAPPINESS ¿WOT IS IT 2 U?

  1. ...exploring the wonders of nature
  2. ...the smell of clean sheets
  3. ...a warm smile from a stranger
  4. ...the sound of a child's laughter
  5. ...the dew on the fields in early morning
  6. .... a hug from someone you love
  7. ...birds singing
  8. ...waves lapping on the shore
  9. ... a puppy wagging it's tail
  10. ...waking up in the morning with thoughts of that special person in your life
  11. ...a warm summer day
  12. ...the smell of spring
  13. ...sleeping in
  14. ...a random act of kindness
  15. ...hearing an "I love you" from someone who has never said it before
  16. ...finding peace in life
  17. ...being with your family
  18. …creating memories
  19. …a warm blanket on a cold night
  20. …a rainbow
  21. …YOU!

Sunday 18 November 2007

CHANGE...


  1. …When YOU do NOT live as if ALL gay men will get HIV/AIDS!
  2. …When YOU see the GENDER card being played!
  3. …When YOU have defied the CLICHÉ!
  4. …When YOU hear them say WE can NOT make a relationship last!
  5. …When YOU have found another MALE and he has his SH!T together!
  6. …When YOU see them trying to make you out to be something you are NOT!
  7. …When YOU allow yourself to be discouraged!
  8. …When YOU think that YOUR life is insignificant!
  9. …When YOU can enjoy who YOU are!
  10. …When YOU feel you can NOT make a change!
  11. …When YOU have defined the purpose of YOUR life!
  12. …When YOU can NOT follow the UNNATURAL order of LIFE!
  13. …When YOU see that YOU can stand up to BULLSH!T n’ LIES!
  14. …When YOU have remembered that YOU are a very special person!
  15. …When YOU can fulfill the purpose to which YOU were born!
  16. …When YOU have realized that ecstasy does NOT beget LOVE!
  17. …When YOU have realized that HAPPINESS is being SINGLE!
  18. …When YOU appreciate YOU totally!
  19. …When YOU are willing to spend a lot of time with YOU!
  20. …When YOU are NOT a LYING, CHEATING, D!CK CHASING INDIVIDUAL!
  21. …When YOU are NOT trying to beat every piece of ASS that cums YOUR way!
  22. …When YOU have realized that WE are in the 21st century and world isn’t!
  23. …When YOU don’t conform to RESOCIALIZING YOURSELF!
  24. …When YOU know what MASCULINITY is!
  25. …When YOU know that YOU are NOT the end of MASCULINITY!
  26. …When YOU know that WE are the advancement of MASCULINITY!
  27. …When YOU see that WE are commonplace and NOT marginalized!
  28. ...When YOU are NOT shaped by what YOU see!
  29. ...When YOU see the danger in looking in someone’s mirror and living their reflection!
  30. …When YOU know what LOVE is and won’t settle for anything else!
  31. …When YOU have a relationship with ‘GOD’ despite YOUR sexuality!

Saturday 17 November 2007

WHEN IS LOVE¿LOVE?

I BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS HAVING THE LEAST THINGS & HAVING THE RIGHT PERSON AROUND TO SUPPLY YOUR NEEDS WITH JUST PRESENCE & SUBSTANCE. SO I HAVE BEEN WONDERING...WHEN IS LOVE¿LOVE?

  1. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE HAS CAPTIVATE MY ENTIRE BEING?
  2. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE LEAVES ME BREATHLESS?
  3. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I TASTE HIS LIPS FOR FIRST TIME?
  4. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN OUR BODIES ARE INTERTWINED?
  5. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE HAS F&CK MY MIND?
  6. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I SEE ME IN HIS EYES?
  7. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE SAYS MY NAME WITH A SMILE?
  8. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I KNOW HE WILL WALK THIS LIFE WITH ME?
  9. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN FEEL HIS HEART BEAT FOR ME?
  10. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I KNOW HIS D!CK DOES NOT QUIT LONG AFTER ME?
  11. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I STILL HAVE THE SCENT OF HE ON ME?
  12. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE HAVE A CONNECTION THAT GOES BEYOND TIME?
  13. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN MY HEART IS FREE?
  14. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE KNOW THAT WE ARE "IMPERFECT' FOR EACH OTHER?
  15. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I KNOW I AM A BETTER MAN?
  16. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CRY BECAUSE OF THE WISDOM IN HIS SOUL?
  17. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN HEAR THE THINGS HE IS NOT SAYING?
  18. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I'VE BEEN TOUCHED TOO DEEP TO BE DENIED?
  19. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I LOVE WITH ALL OR NOTHING?
  20. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE COMPELS ME MIND, BODY N' SOUL?
  21. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I TAKE HIM TO THAT PLACE WHERE NO ONE HAS BEEN?
  22. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I GIVE HIM ALL & SAVE NOTHING FOR ME?
  23. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS MY WORLD & HE & HE ALONE CAN DESTROY ME?
  24. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I AM NOT AFRAID?
  25. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I HOLD AS SLEEP EVEN THOUGH HE IS NOT IN MY BED?
  26. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN RECOGNIZE HIS SOUL, ENERGY N' ESSENCE?
  27. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I NO LONGER LOOK FOR HIM WITH HUMAN EYES?
  28. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE ARE FREE TO GROW IN A SAFE N' TRUSTING PLACE?
  29. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE ARE THE EPITOME OF LOVERS?
  30. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I NEED HIM LIKE OXYGEN?
  31. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS MY ADDICTION & I CRAVE HIM?
  32. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE HAVE TO EXPRESS IN EVERY WAY?
  33. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS THE YIN TO MY YANG?
  34. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE IS THE REAL, POSITIVE & ENDURING VALUE THAT LIFE OFFERS?
  35. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I LET GO OF MY DISGUISE?
  36. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE MAKES ME THE CENTER OF HIS UNIVERSE?
  37. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE KNOW THAT WE NOT CASUALTIES OF OUR SEXUALITY?
  38. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I LIE AWAKE THINKING OF HE?
  39. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I HOLD HIM THE WORLD FALLS SILENT?
  40. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN ANGELS CRIES TEARS OF JOY FOR OUR LOVE?
  41. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN IT COMES ON LIKE A HURRICANE?
  42. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE MOVES ME LIKE A SLOW DANCE?
  43. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN HE PLUCKS ME LIKE A CHERRY?
  44. ¿ IS IT LOVE WHEN I AM STRIPPED NAKED?
  45. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I NO LONGER HIDE BEHIND SCARS?
  46. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I FEEL SUNLIGHT ON MY FACE?
  47. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN TASTE CLOUDS?
  48. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I CAN TOUCH SPACE
  49. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN I JUST TRULY LIVE?
  50. ¿IS IT LOVE WHEN WE JUST LOVE?

Friday 16 November 2007

THE "GAY" HEART

It is a well-known fact that WE STAND in the GAP and takes on the burden of world and those around us. So I am of the opinion that society should HONOR n’ EMBRACE the HEART of a GAY person. WE are arguably some of the most GENEROUS people in the world despite what we have to endure. Hence, those that refuse to accept OUR sexual identity tries to eclipse OUR HEART because they cannot see past their own ignorance. It saddens me to know that OUR HEARTS can be seen with naked eye but WE fall by the way side. Nonetheless, WE know that no matter how much they try, it is NEAR impossible for any HUMAN to ignore the GENEROSITY of a GAY HEART! They know that with ACCEPTANCE, ALL HUMAN KIND collectively will move closer to becoming what they are truly capable of being. So to ignoring us is the equivalent of disregarding OUR maker himself. OUR GAY HEART makes US the temple of HUMANITY and WE enjoy the HUMANITY that OUR HEARTS gives US! It is for this very reason that WE can FULLY appreciate the cycle of LIFE that is reflected in the BEAUTY of others. OUR HEART shows the inner warrior and it thrives on the STRENGTH of the kindness WE display to others. @ THE END OF THE DAY WHATEVER IS IN A MAN’S HEART IS ALL WHO HE IS…I FEEL THAT NOW IS THE TIME FOR SOCIETY TO TAKE A COMPLETE LOOK @ US! WE LIVE ON THE SAME PLANET, SO INSTEAD OF PRETENDING THAT WE DO NOT EXIST THEY MUCH RATHER DECAY THEMSELVES WITH ALL THE LOVE THEY WILL NOT GIVE. BECAUSE OF OUR GAY HEART, WE KNOW THAT GOD CREATED ALL OF US EQUAL IN HIS EYES & LOVING WITH OUR GAY HEARTS IS ALL THAT WE KNOW & IT IS ALL THAT WE CAN DO…

Thursday 15 November 2007

GET SMART(ER)

Consider this scenario, you're struggling with a tricky problem at work and you had to do the embarrassing UM HI, routine to cover the fact that you forgot the name of the person you always bump into at the copy machine. Now you are at happy hour you've clammed up because someone mentioned GLOBAL WARMING and though it dimly rings a bell, you're not sure if it's a table sport or a place or some sort of noodle dish. If only you were smarter, you think. Not that you're dumb (we'd never call you that, at least not to your face). But wouldn't it be nice to have all the answers, a picture-perfect memory and the ability to astonish your friends or wow your boss with big words and bigger thoughts?

Most will agree that being smart is more than merely acing an IQ test, which typically measures a specific set of capabilities and assigns a score. Not that high scores don't matter for are tied to educational achievement and higher income, social status and even longer life. However in the real world, intelligence is much, much vaster and there are many varieties of it. The idea that there are multiple intelligences and that that people can be intelligent visually, musically, mathematically, athletically, interpersonally and intrapersonally was introduced by Harvard psychologist Howard Gardner. Still, whatever the type of intelligence, most people judge brainpower on practical factors, including how much you know, how well you can access what you know and what you do with it. Which still leaves us wondering how much can be expanded beyond the original biologic cards that you've been dealt. Research shows that although children's brains develop at an astonishing clip, that ability slows in adulthood. And clearly some people start off with much fuller decks than others. BUFF BODY, BUFF BRAIN – Here’s another reason to hit the gym: Staying active is good for the brain. Exercise improves the flow of blood throughout your body, including to your noggin, which helps it operate better. The effect is especially important as we age. In general, anything that leads you to be healthier, mentally or physically, leads to you being more alert, which leads you to being more attentive to the task at hand, which leads to better performance." That includes getting enough sleep and avoiding illness. Exercise also stimulates the creation of certain proteins, including brain-derived neurotrophic factors that are important for brain development and repair. Exercise improves your overall health, boosts your mood and keeps your weight down. EAT YER (BRAIN) FOOD – What you eat may also affect how you think. Omega-3 oils, for example, have been shown to aid in developing the brains of fetuses, babies and children. Some scientists believe they may have a similar effect on the brains of adults. And thanks to a new understanding of stem cells, there's hope that the nutrient choline may help adults. Until five years ago, researchers thought that we were done forming the brain by 4 or 5 years of age, but they realized that they are wrong. In the last decade, it's become clear that there are stem cells in the hippocampus that are dividing until you're in your 50s." That means there's a good chance that what's beneficial for brain development early in life might also help later, although probably to a lesser degree. CONCENTRATE N’ RELAX – If you thought you'd have to spend all day with your nose in a book to get smart, think again. There's evidence that meditation does wonders for the thinker. While studying the brain structure of people who practice Buddhist insight meditation regularly, Massachusetts General Hospital researchers found mediators have thicker brain matter in the area that deals with executive function, which refers to our ability to plan, think abstractly, understand rules and initiate appropriate responses. The study didn't look at whether those with thicker brain matter have higher-functioning brains, says lead study author Sara Lazar, but the team aims to find out. In the meantime, Richard Davidson, professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin at Madison and director of the Waisman Laboratory for Brain Imaging and Behavior, offers plenty of support for meditation. Davidson has long studied the impact of meditation on attention and concentration, and has found that "even relatively short-term meditation practice can substantially change certain aspects of attention and change the brain systems that underlie it." Meditation can also help train people to regulate their emotions. Monks, it turns out, are masters of this, as Davidson found in a study. That inner calm "is extremely important for well-being and also very important for learning," he says. "If you are hyper-responsive to stress and to negative stimuli in your environment, it would interfere with your capacity to learn."

DISCOVER~EXPERIENCE~LEARN – Although we're still studying the brain and intelligence, "for centuries there have been ways known for making you smarter," Gordon says. "We call it education. It's been known to work." Cute. But Gordon points out that it's not just what you learn in school but that you learn how to think. "You learn about different approaches," he says. "And that's part of being intelligent." In addition, being in school gives you practice in memorizing things, a skill that fades with lack of use. Someone studying for an exam 15 years after they graduated from college, for example, probably will have a harder time memorizing lists of facts than someone with recent practice in cramming. Exposing yourself to new experiences can also help improve inactive or less active parts of the brain, Linden says. "Do as many different kinds of mental exercises as you can," he advises. If you're a crossword puzzle nut, that's great, but you'll build up only the skills related to crossword puzzles. Instead, put down the pencil and try something else. Seek out new cultural experiences, visit new places, and try a new hobby.

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